How did you make friends in college?
First of all..... you don't "lose" your high school friends, if you make the slightest bit of effort to keep in contact. If you want to make meaningful connections join some club that interests you ( sports, academic, religious......). Be positive, have a voice, and just be yourself. Or if you want just anybody to pass the time with , take the preceeding suggestions.
How do I make friends in college?
'Great Things lie outside your comfort zone'The first day I joined my college, I was the typical shy guy, always hesitant to make friends.Looking at a group of people standing in front of me, I would pretty much be within my comfort zone and would often reassure myself with this constant voice in my head saying 'You're better off alone,who knows how those dimwits might react when you go and approach them'. But How would I know for sure? Maybe they'll be amazing acquaintances , Maybe they'll be the dimwits I was expecting . So I went ahead, keeping all that negativity in my head at bay , keeping all the self-bashing thoughts , wriggling out of my comfort zone and introduced myself. That feeling of Euphoria when I overcame all that social anxiety, constant negativity was totally worth it and this growing sense of confidence came in me. The response I got never really mattered. So GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE and start talking to more and more people. Looking back 3 years from now, I'm so proud I went up to those group of people which now happen to be one of my closest group of friends.This particular activity will not only make you more confident, but it'll help you gain more and more friends from time to time. College is the time where you branch out and start making friends because the friends you make in this phase of your life are going to last a lifetime and will have a deep impact on your future. So do choose them carefully.One important thing:If the response you get initially is embarrassing or really rude, do not get discouraged. The way they react is a reflection of their own character. So be Gentle, simple and smile.Smile a lot, it sends the message that you're easy to approach.I'm pretty sure you're going to do just fine! You got this! :)
I can't make friends at college!?
It's been almost three months and I still have absolutely no friends in college. I am an extremely sociable person and talk to almost everyone I meet. I had millions of friends in high school, was president of three clubs and was even voted prom queen. Here, every time I talk to someone they blow me off or just walk away mid-conversation. When people find out I don't drink and have a boyfriend they immediately disregard me. I feel like people don't like me because I don't like to get drunk. I have tried to stay here on weekends to continue meeting people but eventually just give up and go home or visit my boyfriend. I'm running out of ideas. I've introduced myself to everyone in the hall way, gone to optional meetings in hopes of conversation, even tried sitting with random strangers in the cafeteria but was rejected. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. If anyone else has any suggestions they'd be much appreciated. Note: I am double majoring in communications and theatre. I have tried out for all the plays but have been cut thus far.
How to make friends in college?
I totally feel you. : ( It's hard making friends... When I was in school, If I didn't know something Or pretend to not know something, I would ask someone by me or who you already talk to. Then try to start a conversation, like "i like your shoes, or man where did you get that ____." Then keep trying to ask them something about an open ended question, not a yes or no question. And keep them talking about themselves, once you guys are pretty much blabbering about stuff just say. "Hey you're pretty cool, and I don't really know that much people here, maybe we should hang out sometime?" Just keeping it casual. haha. I did that in school, and I hung out with some cool people. : ) Or find them on facebook? Maybe just ask them what's due, start conversations or something. : )!!
Is it hard to make friends in college?
college makes it really easy to meet new people. there are so many places to meet people. if you live in a dorm, make friends with the people who live around you. just keep your door open & knock on other peoples doors & just say hi. its not as creepy as it sounds b/c thats what everyone does haha. talk to the people you sit by in class. (not during class while the prof is talking though). its good to know people in your class in case you miss a class or you need someone to study with. also college campuses have tons of events going on all the time & lots of clubs & activities to join. there is bound to be something that peaks your interest. its really good to go to things that you enjoy to meet people with similar interests. college is a time for change & growing, so dont be afriad to try new things, thats what everyone else is doing too. also, going greek is a good way to meet people. sororities & fraternities always have things going on & they usually pair up together so there are lots of people around to meet. just introduce yourself to people!! its not that hard. good luck!!! :)
Is it hard to make friends in college?
I just returned from the FBI Collegiate Academy club.It was incredibly fascinating and I thought to myself that perhaps, the kinds of people I want to be friends with are here. In this club. Attending this meeting. So I thought that, optimistically, just as I had thought with the dozens of other club meetings I had attended.In every single one of these club meetings, I have found that nobody cares to make friends. Truly, no one cares enough to even keep a conversation going. I look around at the stillness of the room; inhabited with 100 people, not a single one makes the effort to get to know the next. I am no better. In many ways, I have given up. I have given up being the lead on every single conversation and friendship, and I have given up because I am exhausted.But there are of course, exceptions. 100 people and no one, except one person initiates a conversation. Out of hundreds of people, one single person, and now, he and I have become friends.Although it is sad that I haven’t found a connection with anyone except this one, it is also true that if it were me two years ago, I would probably be in a different spot. I would’ve been more outgoing, and I would’ve probably made several friends, excluding that one, and still, I would’ve probably felt just as or even more lonely.The truth is, the number of friends does not really matter.This single person is worth more than those other hundreds combined.This single person has somehow found his way to me, and he is someone of incredible intellect, kindness, ambition, empathy, and depth.One conversation with this person immerses me into the world I want to live in; I want to be challenged, but reinforced in my deepest beliefs, and I want to be appreciated, but grounded at the same time.What good does a superficial conversation have if you leave more hollow after?What good is a friend who judges you or uses you, or only wants to be with you during the good times?Making friends at college is as easy or as hard as you make it.I have made it hard on myself, but only because I know that I cannot take anything less than someone who is truly compatible with me.
How easy is it to make friends in college?
Friends are an important part of your college education. You will make connections in college that could possibly affect your whole life if you meet up with the right people. The trick to having a successful social life in college is to not think of people in terms of cliques. Everyone is human and has feelings, right? So why essentialize someone into a category that may or may not fit the way they feel inside about themselves. Someone that's a nerd, a jock, a goth, etc can be your closest friend and best asset when it comes to studying. Remember that college is an even playing field so just get out there and make as many friends as you possibly can. Some you'll have for at least the next four years, others you'll take with you through life. Regardless, the more open and vocal you are with them the better. I went to college with my two best friends and came out with a truck load of awesome people. In fact, one of my good friends will be playing in the Superbowl! You never know what kind of people you will meet so just get out there and introduce yourself to EVERYONE! Good luck!
Making friends in college?
The great thing about college is no one knows you, and in general, no one knows anyone else. This means you can reframe yourself without worrying that people's existing perceptions of yourself will affect you--because they won't have any pre-existing perceptions. So on to how to make friends . . . Start with your classes. Get there a few minutes early/stay a few minutes late and introduce yourself to your classmates. REMEMBER THEIR NAMES! Write them down in your notebook if you have to. People love to be remembered. Even if they don't remember your name straight up, they will remember you as the one who made them feel special by knowing their names. Ask about getting together to study, or setting up a note-sharing arrangement so you know you'll have a buddy to get notes from if you can't make it to class. Class is the #1 best place to make friends. Next, the cafeteria. When you get your lunch, take a minute to survey the seating area. Is there an empty seat near someone else that you'd like to be friends with? (Don't sit RIGHT next to him, though--people need a bit of space.) Introduce yourself. What have you got to lose? The person could say Hi and just go back to eating, or the person could introduce himself right back and ask about the class you're taking. Then the lounge area. Again, find a couch that is close to some other folks by themselves, hopefully reading/doing something of interest to you. Say hi, ask a question or two. If the conversation progresses, say, "oh by the way, my name is ....." Good luck, and congratulations on going to college!