How Do I stop Drinking?
I have been clean and sober for 16 years. It wasn't easy at first. I can relate to your pain in the statement you made. You are not alone. I did it one day at a time. AA will help you if you let it. Go to meetings with an open mind and I can promise you your life will get better. People that attend AA meetings for long periods of sobriety did not stick around because the program made their lives worse. Give it a chance, and don't look for reasons for the program not to work, because in your own mind you will find them. If it doesn't work, your misery will be gladly refunded to you. You might love the booze, but the booze does not love you.
How to get my dad to drink and smoke less?
I'm trying to get my dad to smoke and drink less, every day he smokes the whole packet of cigarettes and drinks the whole box of beer everyday. i know you cant just make him quit straight away so i told him to only do half. Instead of 20 ciggies smoke 10 and drink 10 bottles of beer... i know to you this might seem alot but its really better than 20. But before i came out he already cant do the smoking because his already had 18 today. I also don't know how to keep track of the beer because he could go to the pub and drink it while i'm in school. he could also buy another pack of cigarrettes and put it in the other one to make me think his only had a few. Can someone help me? or tell me personal experience? My dads been smoking for proabbaly 30 years... but he never used to do as much as he does now, it just gets worse.
My girlfriend wants me to stop drinking?
I have been living with her for over 1 year now. She hates that I am a alcoholic and I go to the pub every day. I do not want to stop, I love her but this has been what my life is about, and I have known no differently. I am a nasty drunk but that is all I know as well. My Dad was a nasty man who abused my Mum and us kids. She left me but then came back, she said I know you do not love me enough to make any changes, but I love you enough to accept your habits. Why Is trying to change me? What should I do? she meet me in a pub, what does she expect. She was pregnant once with my baby, but she lost it
How do I stop my dad from drinking?
No he doesn't. He drinks because he is a drinker. If my son brought shame to me and I was upset about it and I ate too much, it isn't his behavior that caused me to eat. I'm not a machine and he doesn't have any power to make me do anything. There's an old saying in the Twelve Step Fellowships of Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon when it comes to someone's problem drinking: It's called the Three C's: *I didn't cause it. *I can't control it. *I can't cure it. You are not in the driver seat with respect to your father's behavior; your family is "scapegoating" you so they don't have to accept responsibility for their own problems. Step out of this by attending 12 Step meetings of Al-Ateen or Al-Anon, or even go to open AA meetings. They dispel the lie that someone can't stop drinking. And they cover the subject with a lot of humble humor as well. It will lift your spirit and get you out from underneath the heavy duty control tactics that your family is putting on you. Deal with your feelings about your own behavior with a counselor if possible, then be done with it and move into better behavior. We can always improve if we start small and work towards bigger things.
My dad drinks a lot due to stress. How can I help him stop?
So does mine.Ask him if he wants to stop, and if he says no then know that you can’t help him. You honestly can’t. But Alanon support groups would probably be a very helpful option for you to help you process the way his drinking affects you.If he does want to stop, I recommend he try taking Kratom. It’s helped many people I know stop drinking, and it helps with mood and anxiety. There is no known adverse affect on the liver or kidneys, unlike with drinking, and I’m sure those could use a break. I would recommend buying from Herb Stomp’s online store. Google “herb stomp Portland Oregon.” Tell him to start with a teaspoon three times a day. There’s a lot of good info on the web about this herb, but a lot of bad info, and a lot of people will rip you off. Buy from a real herb shop, like Herb Stomp, and not a mini mart or a head shop. Visit The Kratom Bible - A Complete Guide to Kratom | Enso BotanicalsOf course a support group like AA and a good therapist should be part of his program as well.
How do I stop my father from drinking too much?
I am facing the same problem. When I started knowing the world I am seeing him drinking before he was drinking day and night all time. Now he drinks at night but he drinks a lot. And now he is not working his mind is and empty box where all the rubbish and shitty things comes. Every day there is fight in my home. He is not a bad human being but alcohol is making him bad. I tried to talk to him when I was in studying, I asked him first why you drink? What makes you feel to drink? He gave a reason that my mom fights with him because of which he gets tension, that’s why he used to drink. It’s not true I know. But, that time I agreed with him and I said that from know in our house no one will shout no one will speak loudly we all love you a lot “Will you stop drinking now because we want you to be with us for long.” He agreed my happiness was on the peak. He stopped drinking after and I was so happy with his effort. One day after 3 months. I got a call from my father. He said I am sorry beta. I drunk today because your uncle has fought with me I got so tensed I could not control myself and I drunk. I cried a lot that day I was in hostel and not with him that day. I felt like I should be there so that it could not been happened. He started again and now the things are more worst than before.I am far away from my parents when they fight I really cry. The only reason is alcohol. I am trying hard to make him stop drinking.Alcohol makes mind shitty. Mind stop analyzing things in the correct way. Mind will be fill with negativity.If the person loves you a lot and you loves him/her than there is a chance he/ she may stop drinking alcohol. But you can not guarantee the consistency. The consistency depends upon the person. You should have to show your love continuously(at least for 1 year) until you are 100 percent sure the person will not drink again.
Is it wrong to ask your significant other to stop drinking?
Is it wrong to ask your partner to stop drinking? No, of course not. In a healthy relationship, it is always okay to ask for what you want.There's a catch, of course. It is also okay for her to say no.From reading the back story, it sounds like you don't have a lot of relationship experience. Here's a tip that will help make your relationships way better:If there is something that is important to you in a partner, or something that is a deal breaker for you, you will have far better relationships and far more happiness if you date partners who are compatible with you, rather than dating partners who are incompatible with you and then trying to get them to change into compatible partners.
How can i stop my father drinking as much?
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How do I stop my alcoholic father from drinking? (Every possible attempt has failed to stop him. He is 48 and very stubborn. He doesn't care about us. I am afraid he is decreasing his age.)
Speaking from experience, there’s nothing you can do. He’s going to have to want to stop and until he does you’re wasting your time (and life) trying to make him.Alcoholics Anonymous has what they call a “big book” and there’s a chapter in there for you. You’ll have to forgive the chapter title, the book was written in the late 30’s - it’s “To the Wives” and written for the women in the marriages that are struggling to stop their husbands from drinking - it’s a fast read and I’m sure you’ll see your own family experience in there. The takeaway is this: Your dad has a disease. He’s like a tornado through you and your family’s lives. He takes up all of your thoughts and your constantly in fear of what he’ll do next, lose his job, get in a car wreck, hurt someone else, whatever it is it won’t be good. He’s a very sick man but there’s hope if he can get to AA and meet others like him (but that’s a different post, this is about you).If you want any chance of helping your dad, you need to take care of yourself. I’d humbly recommend you try Al-anon for yourself. There’s a community there that truly understands what you’re going through and has tools to help you with exactly what you’re going through.Almost 30-years ago I was just like your dad, maybe a little less, maybe a little more but through AA (for me) and Al-anon for others around me, that’s changed.I wish the best for you, your family and of course your dad. I really hope this helps.Keep yourself safe.