How can I manage my anger when I feel it? I am losing people and myself as well.
When someone has said something to you and you start to feel angry, the best thing is not to immediately respond with an answer back. That one will be your emotional response. Perhaps taking a breath to gather your thoughts and ask the person a question instead. You may want to make sure you heard them correctly so, try repeating what you thought you heard them say in a neutral voice. When they hear it, they won’t become defense and they may decide that it really wasn’t what they meant or you didn’t understand what they meant. It gives them a chance to fix it.This is a good way of catching any misunderstandings before you say something back in anger. Once you have all the facts and you still do not agree with the person, you can, in a calm manner say what you want or think. You do not have to be mad about it or even angry. Just use common sense instead of running on emotions; you’ll feel better when you handle situations taking time to think first before reacting.Hope this helps.
How do I manage my anger toward my mom?
Well after reading your comment, it seems you already know what you want to do.Your mom sounds like a critic and a naysayer. I’d suggest, that you just focus on where you want to go. Do not let whatever words your mother says, affect you.If you want to get anywhere in life, you have to ignore negativity. By responding to it, you validate her arguments.An example; walking down the street, someone calls you names. You can ignore and keep walking, or you can stop, and call that person names back. But then a fight starts, and more importantly you also stopped moving wherever you wanted to go. You waste time in arguments and sacrifice your mental peace. If you had chosen to ignore and keep walking, you may have even reached the place you wanted to go, in that same time!You see, their pleasure lies in YOUR reaction. If you don’t react, what can they do? They’ll just keep getting angry. Sooner or later, they’ll realize they’re wasting energy since their anger has zero effect on you and go somewhere else.So, don’t react. Focus on your future. Prove your mom wrong and win her over with love. Kindness begets kindness, cruelty begets cruelty.You can either behave stupidly by trying to take ‘revenge’ don’t phrase it like that- Don’t you think your mom will be happy if you are happy? Or you can be smart, kind and take a positive approach, and maybe even influence your mom sooner or later. The first way is easy and even a child can do that, but it takes real maturity to be positive and not go down to your critic/naysayer’s level.All the best.
How can I manage my anger towards the people who hurted me?
Hii !!Stay calm !!Stop thinking about them .Be practical , you are only one to lose your peace of mind due to anger. Even your health is also affected.If possible talk to them and sort it out.There is saying in Telugu :Tana kopame Tana setruvu.“ One's angry is itself one's enemy.”Remember that , hating them or getting angry on them is like you are giving more preference to them in your life . So stop doing it.Stop spending time on your anger and utilise it to build a better ' you ' .Practice meditation or yoga for better control on your emotions and mental health.Instead of being emotional and outraging your anger , be practical and think whether there is any use of being angry .Peace ☮️Thanks for reading !!
Do anger management classes really work ?
I am an easly stressed person and I seem to lash out verbibly twards my children and husband alot. I'm wondering if anger management maybe the best route to help me with my yelling and being mad all the time over the "little things". any advice?
How can I manage my anger in provocative situations?
If someone is provoking you, anger is usually the easy quick reaction. Declaring that others are wrong is as far as most of us ever get. We react and the victor only seems to win, the victory is short lived. This is something most of us do for our entire lives. We get no further and over and over again we experience unhappiness and wonder why. You wish to master these emotions but how? Perhaps there is a better way. Try and say to yourself when being provoked that perhaps the provoker is spiritually sick and ask yourself “how can I be helpful to this sick person? How would I treat a sick friend?” Sometimes the answer is to not say anything at all. Avoid argument and fault finding. Ask God to save you from on being angry and tell yourself “thy will be done.” Trust God to make them who He wants them to be. Do not allow them to make you feel a certain way. Do not allow them to make you feel as though you are a victim that needs to set the record straight. It takes two to have an argument, if you don't react there won't be an argument. Try not to get sucked in to the battle. The battle has already been won when you allow life to just be and not react and try to control and manage everything. Life is already being controlled and managed by God precisely and perfectly. Try not allow others to alter how you feel by surrendering your mind to total acceptance of God being in total control. If you are someone who has a problem with the word God, get over the word “God” and call it what feels comfortable to you. It is not the word that you want to connect with, it is the power behind the word. Lack of power in managing your anger seems to be the dilemma you seek to overcome. You need to find a power by which you can live, why not try a power greater than yourself, a higher power. Trust that this power is in absolute total control of everything, you and the other.
How can I manage my anger and frustration when I lose a job and I am not the best student?
The key thing to remember is that everyone will, at some point in their life, experience job loss. The natural reaction is to feel frustrated, confused, and angry, but these reactions will only serve to hold you back if you hang on to them for too long. Don't dwell on the why you lost your job, but instead focus on what your next move will be, and how you can start preparing. Think about your strengths and areas you can improve or develop in, and then start networking. In my opinion, those who have experienced job loss and can reinvent themselves become much more valuable employees as their career evolves.
How can I manage my anger and turn that energy into something positive?
Learn to be calm. Accept that people will make mistakes and many are clumsy. Accept that not everyone is smart and as economical as you. Accept people evade work, are lazy and do everything in haste, at the last moment. Accept people have different backgrounds and were brought up by different parents.After accepting all these contrasts, realize you can't control their actions and consequences. You can only react to the outcome.Anger is nothing but your reaction to it. Look around everybody reacts differently. Some are calm and some are sorry, some find it neutral, some find the same funny and some find it irritating. The ones who get angry are the losers.So hereafter do not react, even if you are right, calmly put through your point. You will get people’s respect. You will be happy with yourself, not ashamed like earlier. Your body will save lots of energy and stress. Your bp will be normal and you will be getting a good sleep.So accept that people may not be up to the mark..