I'm so depressed and my mom doesn't care?
My mom is a single mom who has always been looking out for us and sacrificing so much for this family. This year I have developed serious depression - I literally wake up each day feeling empty, hopeless and miserable and I don't find any point in life and I think about suicide every single day. I'm not even sure why I feel this way, my life can be horrible sometimes due to family & financial problems but it's seriously not THAT bad, I have a loving mom and brother and I get to travel a lot. But I feel so SAD every single day and it's effecting my life and I cry every single night because I hate life so much. I tried telling my mom about my depression and she said that she wants to take me to the doctor and she does care... now suddenly she is pretending that we never had that conversation. I was crying at the dinner table because I felt depressed as usual and my brother said "Hannah is crying" and she said "Don't shine the spotlight on her, Harris." and then she said "I don't want to be around depressing people" and sometimes she says "I have to stay away from depressing stories, they bring a negative energy" and she even said "people who commit suicide are really stupid". She knows I have depression but is purposely avoiding it and acting like it is all a big joke and she just calls me a "drama queen" when I seriously feel this way and she was the only person I trusted to talk about it to. And now that I'm at my worst, she ignores this issue. I want to go to a psychologist but I can't go without my mom because I have social anxiety disorder and I can't book a doctor's appointment by myself. I'm only 16 and I just feel so hopeless right now, I can't stop crying. help.
Does depression ever go away if you try to ignore it and deal with it?
I am assuming that by ''ignore it and deal with it'' you mean not talking about it, doing your best not to think about it and not seeking any treatment from professionals or help from books.Yes, it can wear off by itself. It usually does. It can take many months.However, ''waiting out'' a depression is a very risky strategy. Here is why:1) It can kill youYour depression may worsen and/or you may find yourself unable to endure it over a longer period of time and that is when it can turn deadly via suicide. It can literally kill you.2) Being depressed is not freeWhile you are depressed, you are likely to accumulate more things to be ashamed of and depressed about, because you are functioning (significantly) below your potential while depressed. Being depressed can make your life a whole lot harder incurring very real costs, especially in terms of opportunity costs.3) It may very well come backIf you take a ''do nothing about it'' approach, you will not grow in your understanding of depression and what causes it, which will make you vulnerable to having another depression.I wish you the very best of luck and I hope that you will consider taking an active approach to overcoming and shortening your depression.
Why does my husband ignore my depression?
In response to Ms Twiggy... I bought a 3 year membership when I had more than enough income one year ago. I can't get birth control at a clinic because I cannot use my medi-care card. The system shows up with my prior insurance on it which I haven't had in six months, and my case worker hasn't received my termination of prior insurance certificate the five times I had sent it to her via fax and mail. And they don't have a drop-in office coincidentally. I've been to ten different pharmacies and they will not take my prescription for birth control, not even with a certificate of prior insurance in hand. You better believe I've done my homework. Also, to the person who suggested I have more children to stay on welfare, its an ignorant statement. We made $5000 a month before we lost our jobs. There is no way in hell I'm abusing the system just to raise them in a situation that isn't ideal. Get real.
Best way to comfort someone going through depression?
don't irritate them. It gets annoying when somebodies forcing you to do something you really don't want to do. But also don't ignore them. Instead just be like, "Hey I really want to help you and I'd love to know if there's anything I can do to ease your sadness. Otherwise I'm here." Its a fragile line to walk seeing as its not your responsibility to make him happy. Though it may feel that way. Be sure to just let him know you're there for him if he ever needs to talk, maybe suggest he walk with you somewhere or play a favorite game or reminisce about a good ol time. Just know that whatever the outcome may be, it's not your issue to deal with. Yes you can care for him but to make it your problem will ultimately cause you more grief than he.
Why has my depressed male friend stopped contacting me?
Depressed people have the tendency to withdraw. I think it’s a coping mechanism. Withdrawal is like avoiding anything that could aggravate depression. The thing is even loved ones who intend to help may say or do the wrong things that instead of helping, they make the situation worse. This is because they may not really understand depression and how a person who has it is feeling and thinking.Depressed people like me have distorted thinking patterns. While you may say something positive, we may interpret it negatively. We are extremely emotional and sensitive. What could be minute for everyone could be a big deal for us. Something small may get huge reactions from us.Your friend is more likely withdrawing from people and even friends like you, to help them in what we see is a situation that is misunderstood by most. And that gap needs to be filled in before anyone can actually help a depressed person. You wouldn’t understand unless you’ve been depressed yourself.On the other hand, you can also ask yourself, how have you been communicating with him? In the past, when he had no depression, he would not be hurt with what you say or do, at least not easily. See if you may have hurt him, albeit unintentionally, causing him to stop contacting you.Now that you know that depressed people tend to withdraw, you should be the one to contact him. But before you do, I suggest you learn more about depression so that you can really help him. Have the patience and don’t get offended if at first he continues to show behaviors that he never had before. You need to be very understanding.If you want to know more about depression, suggest you visit this blog - pumpinkhat. The blogger shares real life experiences and what she has learned from years of reading relevant books on depression and anxiety. She provides chatting time to understand more about the situation and be able to give more appropriate suggestions and advice.All the best to you and your friend.