How do I overcome socially awkward situations?
I'm extremely shy, and I'm trying to come out of my shell by interacting with people. A member of my church invited me to hang out with some other church members that I'd never met before, and I felt so uncomfortable. I felt like the people were sitting way too close to me, and the beginning of the interaction felt more like a job interview. They were like, "So, what do you do? and "Tell me more about yourself"? I'm a little out of touch, but are these normal questions to ask someone in a casual social setting? There were also a few awkward silences, but the people are nice;and, they encouraged me to continue to come out and hang with them. (I think they encourage everyone they meet to continue to hang with them, so I don't feel special...lol). What can I do to relax? Would you feel weird or is it me?
How not to be socially awkward?
I have been the same and still am a bit. I think about how i would like people to see me. Sometimes i meet people and i think 'what is their problem?' lol. Then one day i realized that i probably might come across as like that too. I didn't speak much and when i did, i thought i just embarrassed myself! Just try to be the person you want to be. You don't want to be the quiet one with nothing to say...but im sure you have Lots to say! At first it may seem like you are putting up a bit of a front with people but you will soon relax and mould into the person you are around others. Another thing i found that helped me is actively trying to talk to strangers. These days if i sit next to someone at uni i say hello assertively. If i am at the bus stop and the bus is late i say something to the other people there and they usually are really nice and strike up a conversation. Good Luck and i hope everything works out for you.
How to not be socially awkward/shy?
I went through high school, 4 years of college, and being out in general public with social anxiety. It wasn't until recently that I've learned how to cope with and overcome it. It's not an overnight thing, and it's not an uncommon, so never feel like you're alone. The way I found to cope, was to put myself in constant situations where I HAD to be sociable. Public pools always scared the hell out of me to the point I would eventually start having a panic attack and leave. Now I could go out in a bikini bottom and not care. In other situations, I would talk to as many people as I could. If was just to say hey, I made it a point to be outspoken more. It's the idea that you're confronting fear consciously and doing it over and over to help you become more relaxed and open. I used to battle with thinking everywhere I went people were talking about me. You just have to keep putting youself in situations that you fear. You will learn how to recognize that fear and overcome it. My suggestion is you try to be more self confident. Try talking to everyone. Or join in conversations more often. If you have trouble being in public places, try to visit those places more often. Especially with your close friends. Talk to them about it. Let them know you're quiet because you're having to battle this condition. I also decided to go see a professional. She helped me out by building self esteem and confidence. She helped me find the really good qualities about myself and the interesting sides of my personality. That and 3 years in the Corps really boosted my self confidence. Don't be afriad to be afraid. It's not easy to overcome this issue. It takes dedication, confidence, and a strong desire to change your life so you can enjoy it. Believe in yourself!
How to overcome social anxiety?
PLEASE READ ALL DETAILS: i have had social anxiety since i was 4 years old (preschool) and now i'm 16 (high school) and out of my 3 friends, only one will actually talk to me/reply to my emails. and at school, i just do all my work, and only speak when spoken to. and even if i need to ask the teacher a question, i feel really anxious and feel my face getting hot and my voice trembles. and if someone trys to start a conversation with me, i will just end up not saying anything and just nodding my head and saying "yeah" at the right time, and then there will be awkward silence, and the person eventually gets bored and walks away, and then i feel really anxious. i even have trouble having conversations with my own family! and during the summer, i just end up going on the computer all day and not going out because all my friends are busy. and i also have depression and stress, but i don't have the money to see a doctor or psychologist. what can i do to overcome my social anxiety?
Do girls hate socially awkward guys?
i'm a socially awkward guy in college. i've had so many girls try to flirt with me but i am so self conscious that all i can respond is with one worders like yea. um.