Porn , Masturbation , Sleep & Procrastination ruined my life?
I am really tired of my shitty shitty life , this is my 3rd year at uni and for the past year and a half I have only passed one subject , I really was better , I really had hopes , dreams today I missed another test , and now 4 pm I just woke up and having the cheapest thing I could afford toast and vegemite! I have been masturbating for 2,5 years excessively , not to metion sometimes I sleep 12 hours or more cause I am deppresssed I am failing uni , I have no job , no money , even my immunity is **** I am sick of eating canned Tuna , toast , cheap food , cause its the only thing I can afford I dont work , when I feel a a bit better I start applying for jobs , but they never call back or when I get an interview after one million tries , I never make it to get selected. I have been living off center link , and if they cut I will be on the streets , literally , no my parents dont have money ! I get really jealous seeing my flat mates waking up early , surfing , then they go to uni , then work , gym , party , friends where I stay in bed all day , watching porn , masterbeating , even when I get up and have shower I then procrastinate on the internet I would never start , I have one million thing to study , I dont want to fail another semester ! Im sick of applying for jobs sick of being **** and living like ****! sick of not having friends ! really! not even one ! my phone doesn't ring for weeks. I dont know what I want , just felt like talking!
How can I control my mobile addiction and concentrate on studies?
Thanks for the A2A!First, uninstall all the games on your phone. I myself did this and got a good amount of free time!Just a few days back, I had an argument with my mother over something, and it finally got down to my mom yelling “ You never listen to me!!”Me: Give me one instance when I haven't listened to you!Mom: If you really want to prove that you listen to me, do not touch your phone for 2 days!Obviously my ego was hurt! I took it as a challenge. I preoccupied myself with all other activities I liked. I read, solved Sudoku puzzles, listened to music and practised music. I did have the temptation to check WhatsApp and Quora. Every time it happened, I diverted myself to do something productive.And… Guess what?? I did spend 2 successful days without touching my phone! What I learnt from those 2 days was, certain things are not as important as they seem to be. We unnecessarily give priority to them.There are more important things like spending time with your family, studying for exams…once you realize that, no one can stop you from attaining great heights.Finally, remember one thing - these temptations are temporary. If you fall for them, the effects of such addiction will be permanent and in some cases irreversible! If you do not want to regret later, better put that phone away, and start paving your path for success!!All the best!!♪—thehockey_freak—♫
Depression and failing college?
Let me tell you a story you might be interested in: I know a guy just like you. He's still a good friend of mine. He was going through episodes of depression while in college, and he succumbed to it to the point where he stopped going to classes and just dropped out. He then owed the college a lot of money, led a hard time at work, and lived off canned ravioli as he lived on his own. His parents were deeply worried about him as he ignored calls and didn't return messages. He couldn't understand why he should have to go through the pain. He was a wreck of a man. I gave him some advice, the same that I am going to give to you: Don't let anyone tell you how you should lead your life. You sit in the dark, in front of a computer or drinking your life away by the bottle because you want to live up to the expectations of others, or the rules of others. You question why you should live, why others have and deserve better. What happens when you die? Do they leave the world with you? No. Were they born into the world with you? No. You enter, and leave, life alone. They don't live in your body, nor your soul. All they are is a presence that can impair, or aid you. You need to take your life into your own hands, do what you want to do. I recommend getting help. I recommend pulling yourself together and setting small achievements. One milestone I recommend is seeing a shrink. The next is making small changes in your life. If you are a computer game addict, get off the games. If you abuse alcohol, get off that. Take college slow, take it at YOUR pace. Don't live up to how others think your life should be, because they have their life, and you have yours. My friend got his life back under control, but is still going through hard times occasionally because of the hard ships that need to be overcome. But he's far more proactive, and so far things are going his way; he is at the start of a successful career. If my friend could do it, guess what? You can too. It is a tough road, I won't lie, but if you don't take that road you'll be in a much worse situation then you can fathom. But don't take the big slices. Go small, and handle only what you can handle. Good luck.