How do you break up with someone politely after they tell you that they see a psychiatrist every week?
This is a deal-breaker? Please.... explain. Whatever why?The sickest people I know, the mentally unhealthy, the crooks, the sociopaths, the antisocial violent SOBs whose paths cross mine from time to time don't see shrinks. Psychotherapy and psychiatry are for sane people. Not whackos.If this person had told you s/he has been diagnosed with bipolar .... Yes, I can see that could make you nervous. But I don't understand why this person's disclosure that s/he is getting treatment would be the trigger for disengaging from your friendship.If this person had told you s/he was diagnosed with schizophrenia .... Yes, I see that too. Mental illness can be tough for everyone in the circle. But why is getting treatment for this a reason to cut this person off?It's not like s/he confessed to joining a terrorist group. Or holding up a bank. Or being a drug addict, or a sex offender, or an escapee from prison ....Relationships are complicated -- unless they're utterly shallow and devoid of meaning. True friends, meantime, are so hard to find. Perhaps this is a test for you. How deep a person are you? Why does this personal disclosure matter in a bad way? What kind of friend are you going to be? Can you be trusted?Before you slam the door on this honest human being, think about those things that matter. Maybe the answer isn't ending your friendship. Maybe you should ask instead: What's his number?
How can I politely ask my friends/strangers to leave me alone for some time? It’s not that I don’t want to hang out with them. But sometimes I prefer to be alone
Just ask an honest question, "How urgent is this?"This will make the other person think for a moment, and while they deliberate, you can clarify, "It's just I've made other plans and I would not ask if my schedule was free".It's an honest statement: you want to be alone (aka you have plans), this does not involve other people (aka plans other than what they have in mind), your schedule is not free (aka you are not "on call" when others feel like being around you), and you would not ask this otherwise.Please be mindful that if you experience discomfort when others pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do, the other person acts as a bully (emotional warfare), and you are within your rights to defend your personal space.You need to be more firm in the future, and establish certain limits which others cannot cross.Let's start with at least 24 hour notice for any outings - if someone does not respect your time enough to give you this notice, then you cannot respect them back by giving them your time. Exceptions such as emergencies do exist but you only asked about casual gatherings.There is another possibility of the person pushing through by saying that "Everyone wants to be with friends!", to which you can respond, "According to whose standards?" - just because someone wants it, it does not mean that it's the right thing for you to do/say/attend.Please be more selective with your time because it's valuable, and you are the only person who can keep its value high (if you accept every invitation that comes your way, the value of your time would dramatically plunge in value).
How to tell a best friend you need a break?
If she really is your best friend, then you should be comfortable sharing things with her. Find a good time when you both aren't busy and are getting along, and talk to her about it. It's really hard to express things like that to your friends, especially if you truly care for them, but it can make a difference. My best friend has a very strong personality, and sometimes she unintentionally pushes me around or makes me feel bad for doing things. If she starts acting like that, I just say, "Hey ___ I don't appreciate you talking to me like that. You're my best friend and love you, you know that. Let's try and work this situation out without fighting or blaming one another." Now, sometimes saying this like what I do to MY best friend won't work. That's because everyone is different, and some people need to be talked to in more specific way to match their needs. You're the one who knows your friend, so you can determine what to say to her. However, there is the possibility that she won't want to listen. If she doesn't want to hear what you have to say, give her some time. It can hurt when you find out that your best friend needs some space from you. If she still avoids you or is argumentative, leave her be. If she REALLY is your best friend, she will try and work on it. Everyone needs a break from their friends, I totally understand. But ask yourself, "Have I done anything to cause this?" Maybe you are hanging out with her too much. Try spending more time with other friends or telling her that you want to take a break from going to the mall, talking on the phone, etc. I really hope this helps sweety! :D
How do I tell my boyfriend I wanna break up via text?
Okay I know breaking up through text is horrible but I have a long distance relationship and so having him drive here to get broken up with would be worse and through phone would mean I have to hear his disappointment. I've already broken it off once and got back with him a week later but knew I shouldn't have.... Honestly,he is the best boyfriend anyone could ask for and some girl is going to be so lucky because he is just so perfect..he's just not perfect for me. I like him but more as a friend and even though I like him a little more than that it couldn't work because he is SO smart but REALLY logical/presice about everything and it drives me insane and also he is ready to settle down and I'm not. I don't want to hurt him but I know there is someone better out there for him. How do I bring this up in a nice way?
How to nicely break up with my boyfriend?
You tell him that you have appreciated everything your relationship has taught you and that you tried this out and that you will always be grateful for everything he was to you, but you just don't feel like this is working out because you don't love him anymore. It's not because he did or didn't do anything, sometimes we just don't feel it anymore because it's just not right. There's no way to break up with someone and have it NOT hurt for one or both parties.
HELP! How do you break up with your boyfriend?
I really hate breaking up with my boyfriends 1. because i feel mean 2. I still want to be friends but don't know how to phrase it just the right way... So I need advice on how to break up with him. I guess I kind of just lost interest in him. He still gushes about how much he misses me when we're apart and I tell him I miss him too because I don't have the heart to say that I don't feel the same way anymore and to me, our conversations just die. So can u comment back how and where i should break up with him. Thank you D:
I need a break from my depressed friend. How do I do this without making her feel like a horrible person?
Depression as terminology for so many emotions, feelings, behaviors has become a term with an unclear definition at best. Depression as a term to describe any negative action or attitude has been abused. Depression is confusing and still very much a mystery in medicine.You have been a giving friend. But you have also enabled your friend to avoid seeking help, medicine, and therapy from a professional. She has made you all of these...her help, her medicine and her therapy. You are qualified to be her friend. And as her friend you have offered understanding and patience. She must be your friend and seek medical help so that she can give to the relationship.She is not a horrible person. You are not a horrible person. You are part of a brutal medical disease that still lacks clarity of identification, cause, and treatment. She must seek out options for improvement. I feel this includes learning to give to people in her life. By give, I mean she too must fight being so negative, so destructive that she puts you and others into the range of being depressed. She has to find help in learning to have two-way relationships, or she will eventually burn-out everyone around her. You need to tell her that you need her support sometimes, you heed to see her smile sometimes to help you. And she needs to seek help from doctors, therapists, family, friends, groups, reading....help to control at least some aspects of her depression so that she can carry on relationships. Being depressed does not excuse you from considering other people's feelings, health and well-being. Maybe she does not understand this now....another reason for her to see medical treatment.Your feelings are very real. The entire arena of helping a depressed person is full of questions and controversy. You help her now to seek medical attention.
What do you do over winter break when you have no friends?
I know this may not be easy, but try to make friends. :) Get to know people or if you get a job usually you make at least one friend because you and other employees will see each other often. If you stay positive, your mood will stay positive and then you'll see the value that life really has! Too many people take life for granted, but don't!! (well that's prob why your asking this question) If you like baking around Christmas time try baking for your classes in school like cookies etc. :) if not. when it starts to snow go snowboarding because you can do that solo and it's so much fun! AND REMEMBER (no matter who argues with this..YOU have the choice of being happy or not) YOU have the choice of going out and choosing to do activities that are fun and if you want to make friends, it just comes naturally just be yourself and the people who accept you will be friends that can last forever. Keep your head up high. Live in the present. And if you like the city, I recommend you visit because I'm pretty confident that you'll meet very friendly people there!. That's whats great about this world! Everyone is different, you just got to find people that like doing things you do :) GOOD LUCK and NEVER I say NEVER GIVE UP. Trust me ;)
How do I tell my friend that I think he should break up with his girlfriend?
Stay out of other people's relationships. lf you try to meddle, he will ditchyou before he ditches her. Be his friend. When she does something immoral or illegal, point it outclearly. Try to lead him to what is right. But whatever you do, don't make himtake her defense. The more he defends her, the more he will bond to her, an'us against the world' mentality. You may also be able to modify her behavior by pointing out to her when she isdoing something clearly wrong. Saying things like 'Mary, doing cocaine is notthe solution to the fight you had at work' That sort of thing.