How To Quit Stressing After Moving Out Of Parents

Why can't my parents stop stressing me out?

I'm a freshman in high school and I am already displaying signs of stress. To begin with, I have a B in two classes, LA and Biology (both honors courses). I have never received that many B's before in my life! I'm already spending up till 1 o'clock just to finish my work because of my after school activities (which I pretty much have to do since it will look good on my resume for college) and my parents just call me lazy and irresponsible and think that I'll be at the local community college with two B's (my LA and Bio teachers are the hardest teachers in the school. My sister who goes to Harvard had a B in my LA teacher's class for one marking period). My dad bullies me nonstop for being a nerd, playing videogames, and for not having A's like my sister. My mom cries everyday because I forgot to turn in one homework assignment (I was not in school that mother ******* day). I fell sick three times already and my doctor says I'm being pushed way too much. My dad thinks im a ******* loser (he doesn't even have a job and he has the audacity to say that) just for not turning in that homework. My mom even says that she would rather do the work for me and she does not know how much effort I put in to my work. It literally shows in class. Please help me I'm seriously about to lose it and I'm only 14. Even my sister has less stress than I do and she's in mother ******* college.

How to tell my strict parents im moving out?

Hi, He absolutely has NO right to slap you. If a stranger did that to you they could be arrested for assault. Adults need to know how to communicate without violence. You are no longer a child....even so NO ONE deserves to be hit and, no one has the right to hit another person. There are laws pertaining to this. If you were a minor it is called child abuse....you're an adult so now, it's called assault or domestic violence, which is also a crime! . It does not matter if you are in his home or not! He is disrespectful and violent. Standing up for yourself does not mean someone can hit you for goodness sake!! NO, do not leave your daughter. This is one of the reasons you stated for leaving! If you do that, they can say you abandoned her and they can get custody.Where would you be then? You seem to be very dependent on your parents and it seems like they have had total rule and control over your life, from day one. It's time to be the adult you are and not let them use you as a doormat or control you in any way. They raised you for this many years and it seems they have doubts about thier methods. They seem not to think they did a good job and therefore, they feel they need to continue treating you like a child. Take your child and go live your life and make your own decisions.
Taking control may be appropriate for parents of young teens or for parents of teens who are very immature. But what about parents of 21 yr olds? When do parents stop trying to control a child's work and leisure schedule and hand the reins over to the young adult? Parents who don't try to control the issue of "when" can certainly make suggestions and offer advice; the difference is that they do not lay down the rules. In this way, they show respect for the older child's intelligence, ability to learn from mistakes and increasing need for independence. Stepping back from control has to happen some time between the ages of 17 and 20. Individual differences in personality and maturity will determine how soon to transfer control.
What they want is your daughter and, DO NOT let that happen. Untie those apron strings girl!! Just move out...have someone there helping you in case he gets out of hand. I doubt he would hit you in front of other people! Jennifer

My cat is stressed from move and parents want him to be put down - please help?

We've had this cat for seven years and we've moved house twice before with him, but this time we moved from a house we've been in for almost six years, and it's really stressed him out.
He's lost weight, returned to the old house multiple times, at first he wouldn't let our other two cats near him, but he's stopped doing all that and now the only problem is he keeps urinating everywhere. I know he's probably just scent marking or acting out, but my parents are sick of it so they want to give him to the RSPCA, but he won’t be able to be adopted out, so he'll have to be put down.
He's everyone's favourite and I don't know how they can do this, I need to stop them. Is there anything I can do to stop my cat from urinating everywhere, that doesn't involve keeping an eye on him 24/7? Can you help me find any research that says it’s a phase that will pass so I can convince my parents to let him stay?

Should I move out of my parents' house?

If you move out now, you just might be trading one stressful situation for another. I see you've done the math for the basic necessities for renting, but what about the 'extras'? Things like clothes, haircuts, car repairs, cell phone, etc. How would you and two roommates split the utilities - each pay a third? What if one of you tends to run up the electric bill more than the others? Will that bother you that you still have to put in the same amount when the bill comes due?

Of course, you wouldn't have to ask permission to hang with friends, but will you have enough left over after paying expenses to go out and do anything with them?

Yes, you get along with your co-worker, but how about actually living with her? Could be a whole different story when sharing living space. And what if you do find a third roommate, but that person turns out to be a deadbeat when it comes to paying their share. Would the two of you be able to cover expenses until you find a better roommate, assuming you can get the other one to move out. It's always advisable to have a nice bank account as a cushion whether you're a homeowner or renter, for just in case situations. Do you?

Who pays your college tuition? If it's your parents, will they continue paying if you move out?

You would, in all probability, have to increase your work hours and decrease the classes. You say you're ok with that, but you're looking at a ton of stress trying to work almost full time and scheduling classes around those work hours. and doing the homework. and doing the house work.

There's a whole lot of other things that need to be considered, but I think you get the idea.

I know living at home at your age is no picnic! I remember it well! Couldn't wait to get out and live by myself. But I was already working full time for two years by the time I was your age. (no option for college and my parents made that clear very early on when I was in HS). So I sucked it up, stayed at home, saved my money (and I had to pay my own way while at home anyway, except for rent) and moved out just before I turned 21. No roommate, one bedroom apartment, and I loved it!

My honest opinion? Stay home, finish college, save every penny and move out when you know you're definitely able to take care of everything yourself. You'll survive, believe me!

How did you move out of your parents house?

First off, I am very sorry for your situation. I sucks not being in a happy family, but you should try to talk with them about their issues without hitting them with everything at once. Your parents should know where you stand in life. Just make sure they know you love them and it is not an attack brought on my anger.

I moved out a few weeks short of being 17. I fought a lot with my step dad. It was all very childish stuff but I just could not take being treated without respect any longer. (I have had 12 years to rethink the whole thing, and even knowing what I know now, staying at home was not the best option for me) I moved in with a friend and his parents for a couple of years. Shortly after turning 19 I landed a great paying job then moved out on my own.

You seem intelligent enough to really understand the right moves, you might just be too scared to do it. No matter your age, everything changes when you move out. You have the ability to do many stupid things without facing your parents, but your decisions may affect your living situation, job, school, or could land you in jail. Just consider the options when you have your first party. Life can be fun but it is not a game.

Making only $800 a month, you will need a roommate. Make sure you pick someone that is trying to better themselves rather than someone that may bring you down. Look for an apartment that has utilities included in the rent. If you are lucky you can find someone renting out their detached apartment or converted garage. Make if close to work and school or near a public transportation line. Understand you will have to be very tight with your budget, and you will not have any money for entertainment.

When I was working at the movie theater, I created a budget that allowed me to have a car and an apartment with all other expenses covered. This was off of $200 a week as well. Note, prices have gone up in 12 years, that is why you will need a roommate.

The most important step is to get a better paying job. At 21 the only thing holding you back from that is your own drive. Don't tell yourself you can't go to school and get a better job. Even though it is tough, I know many people that went to school full time and worked 40+ hours a week. Set your sights at $10/hr with 40 hours /week then look for something even better.