What are the top bad habits to stop immediately or I'll regret big time later in life?
Trying to please people: My mom's best friend died of high blood pressure. She was always worried about how people perceived her. She never did anything for herself and she died alone.Forgetting to take care of your body: Oh! Junk food is sweet, yummy and cheap. It also clogs your arteries and kills you slowly. Buy a cook book and cook healthy meals yourself, exercise 4 times a week and sleeeeeeeeep!Postponing learning: I read at least a new book a week. When I'm broke. When I'm cool, I listen to 2-3 books on audible(average of 70$). Why? So I can become more. The only way you grow is to learn new things everyday. Stop being idle.Keeping your Thank you: That beautiful word. Thank you! I think it's the most beautiful word in the language and it should be used all the time. Don't be a greedy bastard. Say thank you when someone helps you.Dreaming small: I plan to have a blog with a million views per day. Now you might say I'm crazy. Well so was Google, Microsoft, Apple and Tesla. You can't ever achieve higher than you dream but if you dream it. You can do it.Staying at home: Yes it good to watch netflix. I just watched an episode before writing this. But I've to tell you that all what you want is right there outside your house, all the magic and aliveness is right where you don't want to go. So screw it. Get out of your home already and try things.Having non-intentional friends: 90% of people are guilty of this. They don't choose their friends and then they complain about what they get. This is very important because your friends make you or break you. So if you want success and happiness. Embrace lovely friends not useless ones.Not being selfish: Now you're like WTF! Yes you have to be selfish. I just rejected a party invite because I want to read a book and write a blog post. I say no to a lot of things so that I can say yes to the things that make me happy and successful. Yes I'm selfish. You're dumb if you're not.Hating people: There is this awesome feeling you start to have when you develop empathy for everyone. When you don't judge or criticize people. When you know people will always do their best according to their life experience and that you would have turned out the same if you were placed in their shoes. You start to feel happy a lot more. Try it. Empathy!If you like this answer and would like to read more of my thoughts. Check out my blog
How can I stop saying the wrong things at the wrong time?
Ok, I am a smart guy. But I tend to say whatever is on my mind. As in, I don't think about what I say until after I said it! For example: Most of my friends are black (im a white guy) so as a joke, I call them colored people. They all know im not racist so its not a problem. But I went to this party with them about a month ago, and I walked up to my friends (who were hangin with people in the bloodz gang) and I said, hey how are all u fine *****'s doing! And they almost shot me! I wasn't thinking at all! Next we have the time when my grandmother was dying, and my grandfather was sitting there calling her name, and I said "look grandpa, shes dead!!! theres nothing you can doo!!!!" it was one of the worst thing I have ever said to someone! There was also the time where at my uncles funeral, i said as everyone was crying "well atleast we don't have to hear his stupid jokes anymore!" you can pretty much tell how that turned out. Most of my family won't invite me to events now because of the bad remarks I have said. And I never say these things on purpose, it just sort of slips out. Also when i'm talking to girls trying to get to know them, I always say the wrong thing. Like they will say "tell me about yourself" and I'll say "what is this like 20 questions". Almost everyone I know thinks I am extremly rude. Like I will tell a joke to my buddys right, and they will think its funny, then I will add on another joke, and usually its extemely offensive. Like once I made fun of my buddys mom not knowning until after I left the room that she had cancer!
Are dirty jokes haraam?
Not haraam but frowned upon. What about YO MAMA JOKES.? Like these. Yo Mamma so Ugly... she put the Boogie man outta business in September, folk say, "Damn it, can't believe it's Halloween already..." when she applied for the ugly contest they told her 'NO Professionals' she looked out her window and was arrested for indecent exposure! minutes after she was born her Mother shouted "What a treasure!" and her Poppa said "Yes, now let's go and bury her..." they push her face into the dough mixture when making Monster cookies. when they took her to the Beautician it took 10 hours....and that was just for the quote! yer Daddy takes her to work each day so he doesny have to kiss her goodbye... she put Marilyn Manson out of business. she was a guard at Snake Mountain they knew what time she was born cuz her face stopped the clock... they embalmed her face on a box of super-strength laxatives and sold it empty! she gets 364 extra days just to dress up for Halloween. you papa throws the ugly stick and she goes fetches it every time. we had to tie a steak round her neck so the dogs would play with her. people at the Zoo pay cash so they DON't have to see her... her mom had to be Pissed drunk just to breast feed her. when born, the doctors had to fit her incubator with tinted windows. hotel managers use her picture to keep away the Rats. instead of round the ankles, they put the Bungee Jumping cord round her neck. she fell out of the Ugly Tree, hitting every branch on the way down. when she walked into the Haunted House, she came back out with a Job Application! even Slicky Willy Clinton refused to sleep with her... when she was born the Doc smacked her face. she turned Medusa into Stone. they filmed Gorillas in the Mist in her shower. George Lucas cast her in Star Wars 3 as Jabbas wife - without the need for a costume. they put her in the Chimp enclosure to stop the Chimpanzee's from jerking off! These r haraam as it is a sin 2 insult any body's mom.
Why does everything my mom says and does annoy me?
LOL. I honestly think it’s a combination of confirmation bias, familiarity, hormones, evolution and nature.You see it a lot with kids going through their teens and parents. It’s like, nature is preparing you (and them) for the separation that’s about to happen, so you can embrace the freedom develop your own life, and have a family of your own, and they can give you that freedom without their hearts completely breaking.So, what happens on your side, is that you get super-annoyed by everything your mom says and does, so you start looking forward to being independent.What happens on your parents’ side, is this incredibly adorable, loving child, who they love more than life itself, is now acting like a porcupine, ready to spew porcupine quills at them, whenever they say or do anything.So, your parents start looking forward enough to a cease-fire, that they don’t try to stop you when you decide it’s time to fly from the nest. Although they’ll always be there to catch you if you fall instead of fly.Basically, if you thought they were super-cool always and they were utterly besotted with you always, there’s no way you would ever let go of each other. And that might hinder your natural evolutionary process as you grow from a teen to an adult.Also, as you grow from a child to a teen and from a teen into an adult, you expect greater freedom and responsibility, and you want to be treated like an adult. For a parent who’s been responsible for you, from the moment of conception on through babyhood, toddler years, childhood, teenage years, etc., they can have a hard time letting go of that feeling of responsibility and that feeling that you’re their child (emphasis on child), so often that period of separation is necessary to change the relationship from parent-dependent child to something more equal.After the teen years are over, once the child is in their 20s, or sometimes later, (sometimes much later, depending on how rocky the parent-child relationship was), you’ll find that the relationship between you and your parents gets strong again, and they no longer annoy you the way they did when you were in your teens. That’s when you’ll start valuing them again. Or, at least, they’ll annoy you in a different way. LOL.
Friend always gets 'sick' when it's convenient. How to break the habit.?
If someone's calling her out on something, she'll get chest pain, and say she has a pre existing heart condition. If she's in the car and we're all having fun, she'll claim motion sickness at these really suspicious times. Then make us roll our windows down, turn off the music, and listen to her hum. And have to stop at a store for pills. If we're paying attention to a sick friend, she'll be sicker. When I needed surgery, all my friends visited me and were really sweet. She came in the hospital room and 'fainted', when she 'woke up', she was trying not to smile while nurses and doctors were coddling her. I had swine flu, and was fine... I just layed down and drank a bunch of juice for 4 days. She claimed she caught it from me, and was 'dying'. (even though it's a really mild flu) Her facebook statuses are always 'Doctor says I may be dying, pray for me' 'I'm going to lose my leg' 'I may have leukemia' 'I have the swine flu' We think she has munchausen, or some kind of attention disorder. She's not a hypochondriac, since I don't think she believes she's sick. I brought up her 'serious heart problem' to her mom, and her mom didn't know what I was talking about and said her heart's fine, then rolled her eyes. When we pitched in to send her flowers because she told us she needed her leg amputated, we got a call from her mom apologizing, saying that it was a joke, and she feels bad that we fell for it. I think she needs therapy, but I don't think she knows she's doing anything wrong. What can we do to stop this annoying behavior? She's in her mid 20s.