How to stop being a terrible daughter?
How to stop being a terrible daughter? Well to start it off I'm fourteen, And a absolutely terrible daughter, I use the worst swear words directed at my parents, I treat them like slaves, Disrespect them, Tell them i will do something and then dont (I did this to get a phone I know awful) And am just awful and extremely disrespectful, My parents are pretty good people, They did a good job raising me, But since as long as I remember which was around 10 years old, I started rebelling, I think it was because i was allowed on the internet around this age, I was supposed to be homeschooled but havent done any in like years, So im many grades behind my age, And I have said some awful stuff to my parents, No i do not do drugs or alcohol, I resent my parents for some stuff but they do not deserve this, And any time I have tried controlling my anger I just cant, My emotions are too strong I end up hurting myself (psychically) And i would rather hurt someone else then me (i know selfish) and A counselor is not an option, My parents are christians and they cannot afford it. So how can I stop my extremely rude behaviour towards my parents? They have alot to deal with having two other teenagers that are way worse then me, My mother cries and breaks down alot, When she gets fed up she starts screaming at people, Which i totally understand but then my siblings make it look like her fault to my dad, Which makes it worse, Their marriage already isnt doing well, She is a servant to everyone :(
I will stop seeing my daughter but I will send money to her. Am I a bad person?
I have experienced the same situation with my father, at 7 years old which is when my parents got divorced. Long story short, it was daddy's little girl the one day and no dad for the next 11 years…(no financial support either). I will say given that there isn't too much detail in your explanation, you could approach it from a different direction.Being 23 now, I've had time to deal with it and think these are some things to consider in your decision making :● Financial support is great, but your daughter (especially if she's still young) needs your emotional support more than anything else.● She WILL grow to have some sort of emotional issue… Trust issues, abandonment or rejection. This happens because there's always a point where u realise that your parent up and left you… The outcome here becomes “why wouldn't anyone else” which becomes a difficult hurdle to get over.● Something she'll probably look back on is how the situation was handled. You and your wife should really consider her best interests and her father would definitely be in that category.I will say this, regardless of how a marriage ends, parents should always be very mindful of their children's best interests. In hind sight, I've accepted that my parents really didn't put my and my brother's interests above their own, and that comes with a price to him and I. I have forgiven them as I now realise that they're like anyone else and make mistakes. Save your daughter future troubles and find a way around the separation for her best interests.*PS: Saw that your post had since been edited with more info so I've adjusted mine accordingly. Apologies for any harsh commentary from the initial post*
I'm a terrible daughter?
Okay well I'd like to start off with the fact that I'm not pregnant and I don't do drugs or anything and I'm a freshmen in high school. I'm just a very horrible human being in general and I have a terrible personality. In fact, if I ever met myself, I would just walk away. I say this because my own parents don't even like me, with all reason not to. My parents provide me with everything I could possible need: food, water, a good education, a home, medical attention, etc. Whenever I get into an altercation with my mother, however, I just get really mad and I disrespect them. I'm just rude in general for no reason. Sometimes when my mom says hi, I'm just angry/sad. I feel as if my only two emotions now are anger and sadness. I haven't felt happy in months. I feel as if I take my anger/sadness out on my parents. I want to learn how to better myself and be an enjoyable person, but I fear that that's impossible. To the outside viewer, I could be looked upon as the perfect daughter. I get straight A's, I've never been in trouble with school or anyone for that matter (excluding my parents of course). I, however, am beginning to disappoint myself with everything I do. I feel like I'm not good enough for my parents or my friends and so I avoid my family. I feel like everything I do is a mistake. I called my mother crazy in the midst of an argument today and now she's crying to my father, to which I heard him say "Our children are worthless pieces of sh**. I wouldn't consider any of them friends or someone I could go to. You're better off just to stop caring. I did years ago." (I have two older brothers btw and one of them is in college). So as you see, my parents don't really care about us. I feel they would in fact be better off without me, and I've been having suicidal thoughts for the past couple months (there are many other influencing factors but that has nothing to do with this). I just want to know how I can become a good person and love myself, and most of all, win the love of my parents. Long story short, I'm an awful human being, how do I change my personality? Sorry this was so long, there's just a lot to tell. Thanks in advance.
How do I get my 13-year-old daughter to stop being so dirty-minded?
That isn’t really possible. Teenagers, particularly in the younger stages, have uncontrollable hormones.When I was thirteen, I was definitely no angel. I was extremely curious about pleasuring myself. After all, the first time I was exposed to porn happened five years prior, back when I was eight. Sex was nothing new.Taylor, thirteen years old, 2016.I already knew how to sexualize myself. Every time I put on a shirt, I’d find a way to make it highlight my cleavage. Crop tops and v-necks became a wardrobe staple. Almost every guy that looked in my direction was a flirting target, even if they were a few years older. By the time I was thirteen, I had already dated two boys, and my first kiss was a thing of the past.Naturally, my sense of humor developed with me. Many jokes I made were about my own body. I made remarks about my large breasts, wide hips, and poor masturbation skills. Other kids my age were talking about the same stuff.Instead of discouraging this behavior, which seems to be almost universal among her peers, try and have an open discussion about it. Tell her that dirty jokes have a time and a place.Make sure you seem approachable to your daughter. This is very important during the teen years, and it can make or break your mother-daughter relationship. She should feel at least slightly comfortable talking to you about some of the urges she has. Of course, she is a teenager, so she’s bound to keep some secrets no matter what.Teenagers are stubborn creatures, so there really isn’t any stopping them. Your daughter could be doing things that are so much worse, though, so be glad she’s just going through some natural changes and not making bad life choices.
Why am I such a bad daughter?
I don't get along with my parents at all and I can't really stand being around them. Two years ago they decided to get a divorce and they were separated for a year and a half. I was really upset about it but once they were going to the attorney to sign the papers, I was okay with it and was actually happy I wasn't going to have to hear them fighting anymore. But, they changed their minds. Now they've been together for 5 months and I cannot stand it. I've never gotten along with my father but once he moved back in with us I just couldn't stand him anymore. I don't feel comfortable around my dad either. The way he plays around is inappropriate to me. I don't think you should be wrestling your teenage daughters and pinning them on the ground, all by force. I think it's uncomfortable and awkward. Also, he'll hit my butt and I'll yell at him not to and all he says is, "It's so big, how could I miss it?" I'm not the kind of person who likes to be touched either. I guess all that is just information or what ever. My dad will poke me and after I tell him to stop he won't so I get frustrated and blow up and yell at him to stop and then go to my room. Earlier today I got up to get medicine for my head ache and he was in the kitchen where we keep it and when I was getting it he came and tried to hug me and I said, "Don't touch me" and he continued so I started jerking around trying to get him to stop but he wouldn't so I started yelling at him really loud. Then he hit my butt and my mom said that was uncalled for and he said, "She deserved it. Maybe if she would accept my love we wouldn't have a problem." I went and took a shower to cool down and when I was done they made me talk to them about what happened and they were laughing like it wasn't a big deal. I couldn't even look at him. Honestly, I feel like I have something wrong with my brain. I blow up and have meltdowns almost on a daily basis and I don't think that's normal for a 14 year old. I'm perfectly fine at school. I have lots of friends and I'm completely calm and normal. I don't know why it's only at home. I guess some advice would be appreciated, haha. Sorry for this being so long and thanks for reading all of it.
How to stop my daughter's habit of playing with her belly button?
You know what, lady? I've got a newsflash for you, a BIG wake up call!!!!!!!!! It's NOT NOT NOT NOT your body! It is HER BODY! It is YOUR DAUGHTER'S BODY! And you have absolutely no ******* right to tell her what to do with it! NO RIGHT! You're just gonna upset her, and make her feel weird.....her own mother, is going to make her feel abnormal...is that what you want? For her to think, "Mom doesn't think I'm normal"? If I could have things my way, we would take her to the surgeon and get it tucked in, but I don't want to force my daughter to change her body if it isn't something she wants........And yet you're OKAY WITH TELLING HER TO STOP DOING SOMETHING SHE ENJOYS? I agree with the other poster...why would you want her to SUPRESS SOMETHING THAT IS COMFORTING AND ENJOYABLE? You're just gonna make her ashamed, and if she does feel ashamed it will be YOUR FAULT. On YOUR SHOULDERS. What the hell is wrong with you? You are a ******* hypocrite! STOP telling her to quit! Just stop! STOP! It's HER body, NOT YOURS, and I don't care WHAT YOU THINK.... if she wants to play with her navel, that's NONE of your business. Does she tell you not to have sex? NO! And why the HELL are you worried if she does it in private? As long as she does it in private, then YOU CANNOT SEE HER DOING THIS! AND IF YOU CANNOT SEE IT, WHY SHOULD YOU BE BOTHERED BY IT? There is NOTHING wrong with this, so long as she does it in private! I cannot believe you are bothered by something so SMALL, MINISCULE, and TRIVIAL....seriously, go worry about something IMPORTANT. And GET OFF THAT POOR GIRL'S BACK. I hope she reads this, and I hope she resents you for talking about something so personal about her online. Leave her alone. LET IT BE.
Need some advice on how to stop my daughter's habit of playing with her belly button?
Hello all- My daughter just turned 12, and she still has this terrible habit of constantly playing with her belly button. She has a major 'outie' that was a result of a hernia when she was a baby thats about the length of my pinky and as big around as a quarter. The hernia is gone, but the 'outie' remains, and she has always had a habit of lifting up her shirt and pulling it out and twisting it between her fingers (Im guessing this is why she still has such a prominent 'outie!'). When she was little, I didn't mind because it seemed to be her 'comfort' thing, much like a pacifier. But now that she is almost a teenager she needs to stop it, but I can't think of any way to get her to stop other than constantly reminding her, which doesn't seem to work! Just the other day we were watching TV and she was laying on the couch, shirt up and belly button out. I probably told her 5 times to stop playing with it, and each time she had it between her fingers again in a matter of minutes! If I could have things my way, we would take her to the surgeon and get it tucked in, but I don't want to force my daughter to change her body if it isn't something she wants. Sorry about the long question, but I am worried because she will do it in private, public, doesn't matter; and it really is a repulsive habit. Does anyone have any creative solutions?
Am I a bad mother? I handed over my teenage daughter to the police after she confessed to being linked to drug delivery and sale.
I'm not sure why you thought that turning in your daughter to the authorities wouldn't have the results that she is experiencing now. OF COURSE the police are going to arrest her, and OF COURSE she's going to go through the system. She basically admitted to a crime with, I'm presuming, no legal counsel present when you turned her in (I'm betting you didn't have a lawyer because if you had gotten one, they would not have agreed to what you did). Why would you have thought otherwise? This isn't the Andy Griffith Show.Yeah, you shouldn't have done that. You had options. You should have sat down with your daughter and tried to help her to get away from that without involving the law. This would have been preferable if she could walk away from it without worrying about whether or not her associates would come after her.However, her trying to get out of the drug business probably would have meant harm to her since she knows who the players are and where all the bodies are buried. She may have also been in debt to the leaders of this little enterprise-either she owed them money or she was using the product herself. You should have gotten a lawyer and explained what happened to him or her-maybe your daughter felt trapped into doing it because they threatened her. Even if there was no such effort to strongarm her into dealing against her will, the lawyer probably would still have been able to broker some kind of deal with law enforcement/DA's office that might have kept your daughter out of jail or limited her sentence depending on the circumstances, her age, and level of remorse. The lawyer could also have persuaded the police to provide protection for her in exchange for your daughter's assistance with rounding up the whole enterprise. Police often want the big fish, and they could have used your daughter's testimony and knowledge of her associates as evidence to get to the real players-in exchange for her testimony, they may have not charged her and would have seen to her protection.The bottom line is, you as a mother should have taken steps to help your daughter. She was sorry and wanted to get out-she made a mistake and learned her lesson. What you essentially did was to be the initial prime mover for consequences that will now have a major negative impact on her future for years past her conviction (if she does get convicted). There were other ways to deal with this other than presenting your daughter to the cops with no legal protection.
How to stop thinking bad thoughts about my aunt and her daughter.?
All the advise on Yahoo! Answers won't help you. You need professional help. The sooner the better because these thoughts you are having could escalate into something else. You have the potential to do extreme harm to your aunt and her daughter. To other women as well. See a doctor and get help before you hurt someone and end up in jail. Remember that thoughts can become actions.