How To Stop Feeling Bad About Not Fitting In

How can I stop feeling bad about not knowing much?

First of all, I hope you don't take this too harsh, but this is one question I don't want to answer. The reason is it is not productive. Feeling bad about not knowing much is a good thing, it's the drive to make one thirst for more knowledge. I feel this everyday. Everyday I want to learn something new, to know something I didn't, to evolve and improve. But maybe that's just me. With that said, however, I do think we need something to balance the thirst.There is always one thing I know for sure: I'll never know everything. It is this thought that have been keeping me sane and calm. How much is knowing too much? What about knowing enough? How is knowing too little? We can't really have a measure to how much we know. Aiming for enough knowledge to understand your own life might be a good cut line. Learn one or two great recipes to treat your family and yourself once in awhile, read some about fixing household equipments, learn and raise some plants or some pets and of course, know enough to perform your duties at work. That should probably be enough to be satisfy with yourself. Don't you think it will not take too much time?If you feel bad about not knowing much because you usually struggle to solve life problems. Then I suggest you surround yourself with friends who know things. Instead of trying to be the all-knowing type of person, build yourself as a connector to utilize all your friends knowledge. If you want to be this type of person, try to remember exactly what each friend knows. Don't ask everyone one same question. For each problem, only ask one person you trust most about it. Or you will confuse yourself.All in all, I think it's just a matter of accepting that you will never know enough and each and everybody will know something you don't. There is nothing bad about it since everybody is the same. But I think learning new stuffs is nice too. Little by little, if you just keep accumulate knowledge, one day you will be wiser than you ever thought you could be.

How can I stop feeling bad about not liking alcohol?

One option is to hang out with your alcohol-consuming friends and find something nonalcoholic that you can order in bars that you like to drink. This can sometimes be fun, and other times, hanging out with drunk people isn't as fun -- depends on the friends.Alternatively, there are, guaranteed, other people your age who don't drink. Look for activities that sounds like fun that are alternatives to hanging out in bars, and maybe try them out and try meeting some new people. These activities can be super wholesome if you want them to be, and those are the people you want to hang out with -- there's nothing in the world wrong with that if that's your comfort zone, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Or if it's your thing, you can do nerdy stuff such as serious tabletop gaming, which can be tons of fun sans alcohol.But if you want to live a more out there life, just without the alcohol, you can do that too. For example, it's taboo among most BDSM people to drink and play -- it's really dangerous. I guarantee that if you tell people that you tie people up and whip them instead of going out drinking, absolutely no one will think you're missing out. ;-)So there are absolutely options out there, and you definitely don't have to feel like you're missing out on anything.The one exception to some of this -- if you live in a really small town, maybe everyone really does go drinking. This obviously limits your options if you stay in town, and there isn't always a great solution.

How do I stop feeling bad about being gay?

How? By coming to accept yourself as yourself. You can no more change your orientation than you can change the color of the sun. I understand that acceptance, at times, comes long after acknowledgement, but why do you wish to torture yourself​ over inevitability.In the 1950’s, Evelyn Hooker conducted a study that tried to determine if gays were any more psychologically disordered than their heterosexual counterparts. Her empirical research determined that they were not. They were happy and content, and contributed to the betterment of society by their efforts in their respective fields to do so. They were normal in every way — the same hopes, the same dreams, the same desires for themselves, their families and friends. In point of fact, it was Ms. Hooker's research that helped get homosexuality delisted from the DSM-IV in the mid 1970’s.Think of the contributions gays have made to society over time, and then think how you can make those same contributions. Excel in your passion and let your accomplishments speak for not only yourself, but for your community as well. You shouldn't look at your orientation as a detriment, you should look at it as an asset. You are unique in your individuality, and you should let no one take that from you by slandering the honestly of your integrity.There are plenty of individuals who will cast aspersions on your character because of your orientation. Refuse to become a victim of their hate. Do not allow yourself to become marginalized by the insecurities of others. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror, and see the reflection of competency, of intelligence, and resolve. You are not an abomination, you are not deviant, and you should never let yourself be held hostage by opinions of others, including yourself.How do you stop? By accepting the unique nature of your personality. By looking past the hypocrisy of those who would condemn you and live according to the values that are a contributing factor to the foundation of society. You stop by realizing that what you see as an imperfection, is in reality a blessing, for by your actions they shall come to know you. And once they come to know you, they will accept you, as you have accepted yourself.

How do I stop feeling guilty after sharing an opinion?

Oh I know! The exact feeling when you share your not so acceptable opinion. If you’re someone like me, you even feel anxious, nervous and conscious; all at the same time.It happens to most of us, specially the introverts and it’s okay. This is the beginning of building your confidence.Recollect the moment you felt this way. Did you say something seriously wrong? Or your guilt is just because no one appreciated your view? Both are very different things. If you were right, don’t feel guilty and don’t stop yourself from speaking your words.Here are few tips you can consider while sharing your opinion:Make sure you’re not hurting someone’s feelings.Use humor; it’s the best way to put forward your contradictory view without looking rude.Scan your room and then choose your words. The importance of your opinion can vary from an office meeting to a friends’ get-together.Don’t dig too hard to make your point, understand when can silence be the best answer.