How do i stop feeling so lonely and lost?
why do i feel so lonely and lost? I am a 21year old girl. I have spent my life being perfect. I have just finished a degree and obtained a first class, have got offered scholarship in the subject i love, i've never had problems making friends; when i leave the house, there seems to a million faces to say hello to that i know, i have close friends too, i have a family that love me, and i know this will sound quite conceited and i don't intend it on being so but i am also quite pretty and guys ask me out a lot, although, i have never said yes because i was always too consumed with studies. My life from the outside seems perfect. I have so many people around me and yet i feel so alone. I feel lost within myself. Even when i talk to friends or family, i nod and smile, but in my head i feel like i am a million miles away, an island of my own making. these days it pains me to smile because i know it is lie. Nobody seems to know me or understand the real me anymore. And my biggest problem is that i don't even know myself anymore. Why do i feel so lonely? and how do i stop feeling this way? this sense of numbness is shattering me. Please help! Thanks :)
Why can't I stop feeling lonely?
Loneliness is addictive. It's this constant thought that you aren't being fulfilled. This longing for something, someone. This idea of how that particular entity will come along and everything will fall into place. We all have that longing, to hold someone's hand, to feel that warm feeling in our soul, which makes everything acceptable and life worth holding on to.Sometimes it depresses us, sudden pangs of sadness swallow our minds, leaving us drifting in endless thoughts of wishful thinking, the ifs and whatifs. It's an unending cycle. You know it. I know it. But doesn't really stop us from doing it. Because our mind tries to make us happy, keeping us absorbed in this thought process of how soon something will come along. Soon your wishes will come true. Soon your questions will be answered.But the thing is,those aren't answers that someone else is supposed to answer for you. You have the answer to your question, because only you can understand it. And trust me, we are alone in this world. But the thing is, everyone is. So you are neither better off nor worse than anyone else you may know. We are all troubled by the same thoughts in life.It's just that some people have better answers to their questions.So I would say, find your own answer. Your quest begins with you and ends with you alone. Only you can make yourself happy. Others can only help. It's your life. If you don't have a clue about what makes you happy, start thinking about it. It's never too late to ask the right questions.And just know that it's okay. And it will be okay too.
Feeling LONELY :( !!!!!!?
I'm not trying to be religious or anything but most of the people I've given advice to have told me that they stopped feeling the loneliness you'd described when they turned to God. But my advice to you is simple; stop hooking up. I know it's easier said than done but think of it this way; your self-esteem can be knocked down to rubble just because of a hook-up. I don't recommend you to have a boyfriend because, and this is true, if you're not happy single, then you won't be happy taken. I think that what you need is to get out more, on your own. It may feel pathetic and lonely, but after a while doing things on your own will make you realise that you don't need to depend on anyone else but yourself to secure your happiness. Take up a hobby. Be it painting, shooting guns at a shooting range, throwing pots, riding horses, etc. Take up something you know that'll make you happy. Do something that you know won't need more than just you to accomplish. It's all about what makes you happy. You should also try having an endorphin rush :-) Learn to play an instrument. I suggest a guitar, since it's one of the easiest instruments to play. I picked one up last month and I started shredding like Hendrix ;-D kidding. There are probably other things you can do but you'll probably find that out on your own.
How to stop feeling lonely and depressed?
i have been feeling very lonely lately i feel ignored by my parents and none of my close friends have texted me back i even wrote a facebook status asking for advice and no one commented i just started school and i had been gone for a year and when i came back no one is talking to me i am overly stressed and becoming depressed..how do i stop feeling this and who do i talk to? i feel like crying this minute i have a therapist but it never helps i just want a boyfriend or a friend but nobody seems to see that im here..i feel invisible.. i used to like this one guy but now he has a gf... i was over him because i thought i could meet a nice guy at my school, but they all ignore me and act as if im not there i get picked last for everything at school who knows what rumors were going around while i was gone... im sorry to waste your time but i need someone..anyone... 2 great songs that describe how i feel are "i'm with you" by avril lavigne and 'Invisible" by Skylar grey thanks 4 ur help bye
How do I stop feeling so lonely when I have people around me?
If you talk to people, they will talk back and you will feel like you are with other people. At first it is awkward, but if you keep trying, you will actually develop relationships and eventually feel like everyone is aware of you.There are only a few commonly accepted subjects you can blurt out about with strangers. The Weather is a main one. Kind of boring subject, and very limited in depth, but if you follow a simple pattern you can at least start feeling less lonely.First- Make small and appropriate observation based on Weather and your own experience. Let them respond somehow. Second- extend that experience to the person you’re talking to. Third- ask them for advise or opinion on either how the experience can be made better, or how it will change in the near future.Good luck.
When will this lonely feeling go away?
OK.. you confuse me... lonely? Ok Ok! Sometimes its good to be on your own, find out who you really are. Its always good to get back to your roots and the reason you feel lonely is because your not yourself. Remember... You dont need anyone to make you happy. Once you are happy and whole... Then youll stop being lonely and be able to make others happy and whole aswell. Take care. Heidi
I feel so lonely and isolated. How can I stop this feeling?
You probably won’t believe me, my posts never get upvoted when I say this. But it’s the absolute truth, because I went through this.Loneliness is a conditional state, it is not the same as being alone. Being alone is the only truth in existence and there’s actually great power in it. A tree is alone, a dog is alone, the Sun is alone, the universe itself is alone. Your subjective experience of life is only experienced by you, so you are alone. It is the only truth.Even in the presence of other people you can still feel loneliness. So it is not that you are physically alone, it is because you are seeking happiness, and in order for you to feel happy, you’ve placed a self-imposed condition in order to experience it, otherwise you will experience unhappiness, which is where you are mistaking the feeling of loneliness with unhappiness.So when you create happiness, you also create unhappiness. You cannot know one state without the other state and both are conditions. These certain conditions lead to happiness for you, if they are not met, your mind will lead you to unhappiness. So what is happiness and unhappiness, it is the desire to want your reality to be different from what it actually is.Some say that if you do not desire, you will be free. This is false. To reject desire, is still a desire to reject and because you create one desire, the other opposite must be known as well and that is why loneliness can feel like a circle with no way out.So the solution is not rejecting desire, and not wanting to desire. There is a root to desire, and that is the simple act of ‘want’.want has not opposite. You cannot, ‘not want’. To do so, means something entirely different. To want means you desire, which creates the vicious circle of suffering experienced as loneliness.The solution is acceptance. Cliche as it sounds, it is not as simple as you think. Acceptance isn’t the rejection of the desire to not feel loneliness. It is the actual absence of the root of desire, the ‘want’.This isn’t some law of attraction bullshit, or some buddhist teaching or some other spiritual garbage. It is a very logical and analytical way to understand why you feel a certain way. Just give a shot and look within your mind and see if I am right.When you stop ‘wanting’ your loneliness will immediately stop, the suffering stops. When you start ‘wanting’ again, duality begins and you will suffer again.
Why do I feel so lonely? Anyone else feeling lonely?
You'll figure out what you're missing one day soon. It'll come to you like out of the blue. I've been feeling a little lonely lately but I blame my womanhood. That time of the month always makes me feel a little down. Crazy hormones.