How do I deal with my best friend leaving me on read?
So I moved 10 hours away from my best friend this August, but still stayed in contact with/texted with her. Recently, I sent her something I found funny. She read it but didn t reply so I just assumed she didn t have a chance to text back. Fast forward two weeks, and I ve sent other assorted messages without bringing up the whole left-on-read thing and she still hasn t replied. I m not sure how to handle the whole situation since I can t see her face-to-face but I still want to maintain the friendship.
I read my best friend's diary?
I've been in love with my best friend (she's a girl and so am I), for the longest time, and although I knew she doesn't really return the feelings, I've kept my own secretly inside. I was in her room, and I feel really guilty, but I wanted to see if she likes me too, so of course, I did the stupidest thing even, and I read her diary. There was one entry about me, and it talked about how detached she is from me, how she doesn't listen to anything I say, care about our friendship or care about me. Not only did this break my heart from having a crush on her, but also because she is my best friend. I guess this is karma for snooping, but I really don't know how to deal. I don't plan on telling her, and PLEASE don't reprimand me for snooping, I know it was a horrible thing to do, but it's too late to rewrite the past. How should I cope with this mess that I've brought on myself, and my feelings that I need to keep even more inside? All I want to do is be mad at her for being such a heartless friend, but it's not her fault that I read her personal thoughts.
Why can’t I stop loving my bestfriend who has a girlfriend?
Having a relationship is not a prerequisite for love.You say he’s your best friend. Why do you want to stop loving your best friend?But this is not about love is it? In our minds love means there must be a certain kind of relationship between the two.If I can’t have certain romanticized relationship with someone, if I can’t show certain acts of affection towards someone — we can’t call that love.This is what we have made love into; a mere sign of being in a relationship.So for you love only exists when there is a relationship. If that is the case, then you don’t love him. Your only desire is to possess and have him with you. Love does not exist.There is no need to stop loving your best friend. If you truly think of him as your friend, love should be there anyway. Without love there is no friendship.You are free to love anything and everything around. Isn’t that beautiful?Best Wishes
How should I convince my best friend to stop dealing with drugs? The struggle is real.
I cannot offer any ways of convincing people, because convincing people requires the other person to be submissive by choice.And I believe the pursuit of high dopamine intakes of drug use will always triumph over someone’s mind to submit to healthier ways of living.I think Illicit or legal drug use is specifically for people who have no intention or will power to naturally be happy.Which is always the case for people with a chemical imbalance in the brain.The pre-frontal cortex which regulates higher reasoning can and will disengage on drugs and The frontal lobe increases which is responsible for emotional responses, which is happiness in your friends case.Perhaps you should Ask him/her this: Do you want to be happy sober?Friend: YesYou: then why the fuck are you on drugs then?You can only try to help a friend out best as you can but if you are seeing no improvement whatsoever then its best left to a professional.Drug and alcohol counseling centers which keep the sessions confidential from the police (unless there’s been assault or murder) if it makes your friend at ease to try it.Hypnotherapy is another method.Bottom line is a detox center which is a last resort.If your friend does not want the support that means he/she does not want to be helped, And will most likely tell you to support them like a good friend should.But that's a cop-out to keep himself/herself in the circle-jerk.And when you realize he/she does not want help then either the drugs gotta go or you.always remember that his/her higher reasoning is not functionating properly.I’ve only known by other stories that people have turned their lives around when they’ve hit rock-bottom and lost all their friends and family for a high supply.
I love my best friend and its really confusing.?
to thoughs who remember this question, i just had to resubmit the question with added deatails. everyone please read the whole question and updates. thank you. now he it goes. i love my best friend. we both consides each other as best friends. the problem is that i love her and she just thinks of me as a friend. i talked to her about it and spilled my heart to her, but as far as i know it didn't help. everynight i think of her and even hug my pillow wishing it was her in my arms. i tryed to rid myself of these feeling and just try to think of her as a friend but it doesn't help. i am not after sex it isn't lust i just wish to be able to cuddle with her and not have it being ocward. we do hug all the time and now is kinda our "good bye" when she leaves after she visits. i've been wanting to be with her for about 5 years now. she has never been in a relationship and it makes it harder to know what is going on. i am running out of space so i will continue on "add details"
How do I tell my best friend I'm in love with her?
My best friend proposed to me two years back. I was a nerdy-type of a girl belonging to a conservative family. I had no idea how to respond. He mailed me a love letter and I freaked out after reading it. My mum read it too (it was unexpected and my mum was sitting right next to me while I opened my mail). I ignored him and deleted the mail.I pretended like nothing had happened, so did he. But it had. The barrier surrounding our uncomplicated but hidden friendship had been shattered. And the worst part was, while I was unaware of his feelings, the girls I used to hang out with used to tease me about him. They knew that he liked me, I don't know how.Needless to say, it was awkward. We didn't talk for almost a year, until the school farewell. I was starting to miss him and I wanted to talk to him. We had gone from being best friends to strangers and it was upsetting.After school finished, but before starting college, I took matters into my own hands and messaged him, apologized and requested to continue the friendship. I felt cruel and selfish for doing that but when he told me he wanted us to remain friends, all my doubts went away.College started and our friendship resumed. Some time later, he told me about this girl in his class that he had a crush on. He's a happy boyfriend now!The thing about falling in love with your best friend is that if the other person doesn't share the exact same feelings, it becomes the biggest what if of your life. I love him, but it isn't a romantic kind of love.The positive aspect is that your best friend knows you better than your other friends, so the relationship doesn't feel much of a strain. I don't claim to be an expert on relationships, or dating for that matter, but I think you should go ahead and tell your best friend how you feel about her. Talk directly. A phone call, or a face-to-face chat. Start it as a question. Ask her how she feels about dating. Take her out to a place special to her. Don't be afraid to lay it on thick. Tell her how much she means to you. If she doesn't feel ready, go slow and let her know that she will always be special for you.PS: I had to go anonymous because the said friend is on quora and I don't want to hurt his feelings. Don't hate me please!!!!!
I'm not Gay, But In Love with My best friend?
My thinking is it's fine to love people. In some ways the emergence of homosexuality into the public eye killed off 'homo-romance', 'gay' is a deadly insult now, whereas in the past it was quite accepted for boys to have close friends in ways only girls have now, it depends on where you live, but only in the last couple of years have close friendships and physical contact again become acceptable, the BFF that girls have sometimes, can on occasion resemble romantic relationships, my step sister pined for her friend in a way that screamed 'crush' when they stopped hanging around together. Go love your boy, I just hope that he reciprocates.
I'm in love with my homophobic best friend, please read this?
I'm sixteen and I'm bisexual, nobody knows that I'm bisexual, not even my parents, and I go to a girls school and I never meet boys, I'd say that I'm a lesbian but I'd still fall for a boy. I have a best friend who is kinda homophobic but I'm in love with her, and I'm sure that if she found out she'll leave me, and when I was young before I found out that I'm bisexual people at my school thought that I was a lesbian and I cut because of it, even though I wasn't totally straight but I thought that they meant to say it like I was different because in my country gays and lesbians are so rare and they're made fun of and hated by everyone, and I've had a horrible childhood at my school. She's the closest person to me but I'm not to her because she's had another best friend since she was in kindergarten (I've known her for just about five years) so I think she's closer to her than me, and she's homophobic too, I've tried being straight but I couldn't, I was probably born like that. I've tried making stupid dirty jokes with her that any two best friends would do but she's always like eww no, but she's dirty minded and we always do dirty jokes and laugh at it until the joke is about us, no matter how little and stupid it is. Please tell me what to do, but just if you're going to say that I should get a new best friend, I can't because I'm hated and bullied by everyone at my school and I'm really bad a making friends. I need help, please guys tell me what I should do in this
I read my best friend's diary and I think she likes me?
I know it sounds awful, but I was in my best friend's bedroom alone (waiting for her) and there was her diary, just ready to read. I've liked this guy for a while and suspected that she liked him too. I just couldn't resist and took it, and flicked through the pages. Now, I'm a female, and straight. I always thought she was too, but she never said it straight out. But when I saw her diary all I could see was my name in little hearts with swirls around it and "I love you's" and what looked like a LOVE letter to me but I put it back before I could read it in case she came in. Please don't kill me for reading her diary, what I want to know is...what to do? Is she gay? If she is, what do I do? I can't help but feel awkward around her and I know she's confused. I'M confused, and I feel sick. What can I do?!?!?
Any good ideas for a poem to read at my best friends wedding?
Hi everyone I am maid of honour at my best friends wedding at the end of the year and am looking for a really beautiful poem to read out at the end of my speech. Anyone have any ideas... thanks!!