How do I avoid physical attraction?
The more you try running from a thing,the more it will chase you.This is the rule of the nature and you can’t deny it.i respect your views for you want to work hard for your future wife and i hope you do! but,do you know what are you going to miss all through?EXPERIENCESimagine this! you are married and earning pretty well. now,will you avoid your wife for you think your wife wastes your time as you are not able to concentrate on your work for she is attractive at par?obviously,no! so why not try getting along with them instead considering them as distractions?in life,you got to do everything you wish to!don’t beat yourself for getting attracted to them.Be a gentleman,approach a lady.all the best :)
How can I stop looking only for physical attraction in women?
There are two types of women. 1. Very beautiful, very sexy. 2. Not that beautiful but loyal, sincere, and full of spirituality. The number one type of women are sexy, have good physique and because of that they have a high self-esteem. You love them because of their beauty. But deep in your heart you also believe that there are people who are better than you who can make your beautiful girlfriend their friend. I don't mean that beautiful women are disloyal, just that they have more options and opportunities. The less beautiful women have intrinsic beauty. They know the fact that they are not so much beautiful so that focus on soft things like: Loyalty, Love, Affection, Care, etc. They are good life-partners. Now.. You have come to believe that you should give more attention to the girl who is less beautiful. That's cool. She is the one you really need in your life for staying happy and content. Do this: Keep appreciating beauty. And on the other hand know the fact that you need her ( the less beautiful girl) for living a content life. This will be a balanced approach. :)Hope it helpsWaqar
How do I get over the physical attraction I have of a guy with whom I definitely know a relationship could never work?
This may come as a surprise but there is such a thing as "being addicted to a person". If you look at the words you use: "I stare at his smile... fingers... hands... broad shoulders for moments too long to consider normal"... or "I am in trouble"...That is what is known as the language of intrigue... a mental construction to make us feel alive, to pretend there is something there when in reality there is nothing there. (Because as you say, you know it will never work)It is exciting to think of it in these terms... It makes everyone reading, and probably you too, interested in the story. A good story can cover up for the real work that is necessary, for looking within.You are putting onto this person, projecting, all the qualities you want to have in yourself and then admiring him for them... But you already possess all of these good things in one form or another. There IS good in YOU.If instead, one day at the time, you start focusing on the qualities you want for you, then slowly, like water over rock, by refocusing on what is good on you, you will let go of the thrill of thinking that he is so special. He is not.Or not...It all depends on weather you are asking because you really want to confront the issue or because you'd like to create a bit more intrigue for yourself.There is nothing wrong with either of those things, this is NOT a punishment, it is an addiction, a direction of your sexual energy towards a fantasy rather than towards you or towards reality.In a way it is a form of escaping.I've personally been on both sides, I have followed unavailable men to the ends of the earth and tried to convince them to like me. It never works. Because we cannot control anything, let alone another human being.What worked for me in releasing the addiction to a person has always been to turn it over to a higher power, to say God, I am powerless over this person, please help me release him, cut the cords that bind me in an invisible way so I can let go and focus on my life and how to serve others.Wish you very good luck.
If we eliminate physical attraction from relationships, what is left?
friendship, companionship, trust, love
How can I stop feeling physically attracted to my ex girlfriend?
Why do you need to stop feeling attracted to her? Being attracted to someone is normal in life, and it's not always going to be your girlfriend, your ex, or even someone with whom a relationship is possible in the first place. If you're frustrated by persistent fantasies, then take control of your thoughts by creating alternate stories to focus on. For myself, I learned to turn the story in my mind into "realistic scenarios." In other words, I told myself I wasn't allowed to lie about the other person's personal choices or character when imagining about them. I will not imagine them as other than their real selves, because that devalues their real existence within me. I want to appreciate them as they really are, not as I wish they were. So if someone has rejected me, the fantasy that they have fallen in love with me or want to be romantic with me is no longer on the table. From the moment of truth on, my imagination is restricted to reality-based interactions when they are on my mind. I have a stock imaginary character (pure fantasy, of the alien/magical type) that I pull in to replace a real person if I just desperately want to have someone to cling to on a miserable night. He's really just another aspect of myself that knows I'll be okay if I cry and get some rest and knows how to calm me down. (The subconscious is an amazing thing.) If I can comfort myself by splitting and providing my own shoulder to cry on, it's just as "real" as it would have been if that shoulder was a false projection of someone I know, without the emotional kickback of coming back to the reality that I'm still rejected by that person every time. That feeling is as bad as being broken up with repeatedly, so why would I do that to myself? In the end, this practice helps me preserve a truth-based perspective of the person I admire, and helps me remain consistent in how I behave toward them. I recommend this technique if you need it. Eventually you'll meet someone else who is attractive to you, or your memories will fade in the face of your current interests and occupation. To speed things up, pursue your goals and investigate what inspires you.
Do married people just suppress their sexual attraction to others?
Some people are married but non monogamous. Some people are married and cheat. Everyone experiences the sexual attraction and simply don't do anything about it, it's not hard. It's really no different to not hitting on your friend’s and family's partners, colleagues, random people at the gym who don't want to be harassed or any other person you may be attracted to who is off limits. If you can't resist coming onto everyone you find attractive then you will struggle to do simple tasks like go to work or do the shopping.
Why are only ugly girls attracted to me?
I really have no way of answering that, but I do feel your pain of attracting people you aren't interested in. I'm always getting hit on by Arab and Indian men that I don't find appealing whatsoever and I ask myself the same question. I guess certain types of people are just drawn to an individual.
Is it bad to be sexually attracted to furries?
No, it's not bad at all. People have been attracted to fictional characters of all kinds ever since humans became creative enough to make them. The same is true for furry characters in art and animation. For example, look at the main characters of the animated Robin Hood cartoon movie. The way they were drawn they possessed cuteness, beauty, and sexiness. Female characters most often have alluring, seductive looks to their eyes and lovely curves; male characters are fit and strong, handsome and masculine. The intent is to convey beauty, handsomeness, sexiness, and overall attractiveness. It's perfectly natural to enjoy that sexiness that's present not only for the aesthetic appeal but also the sexual appeal. Romantic, emotional, physical, or sexual attraction to a cartoon animal character does not equal that same attraction in animals, so that attraction and interest has nothing to do with zoophilia or bestiality. Sly Cooper does have a hotness to him. Krystal from the Starfox series is a mega-hottie who appears in very many pieces of furry art from G-rated up through tasteful nude to adult/X-rated. Many people thought Lara Croft was sexy as could be, so why not have the same feelings for anthro characters such as Sly or Krystal? It's all fantasy. There's nothing wrong with that at all.