Complicated situation... how to tell my parents im moving?
Ok only serious answers please. Ive been on a long distance relationship for two years already and till this day hes the one who always visited me since he has family here in Portugal (he's from Texas). I've made my decision and i want to go visit him and spend 2 months with him. I know you guys are going to say living together is different but to be honest we talk through skype every single day and almost never hang up not even to sleep so it must be close as living together lol. Anyway i have everything ready, visa, ticket and money and im an adult,20, the only problem are my parents... They have no idea what im about to do and worse i dropped out of college and they dont know about it either (i can always go back in case it doesnt work as planned). My boyfriend is not helping either because now he says he wants to talk to my parents to make sure they know i'll be safe and he said it has to be tomorrow! Im pretty sure he's going to say he wants to marry me soon and i dont think they need to know that now... he's 25 i know hes a good guy and he really loves me the same way i love him he even told me he was going to call his mother to talk to my parents in case they didnt believe him but i dont know where to start :/ Ive been lying to them for the past days saying that ive been going to school but thats not true... and my boyfriend keeps pressuring me saying that ive got to tell them now because the sooner the better and its not like im doing this just for fun because this is also going to give the chance of having a better future and i couldnt agree more with him but i dont really know how to tell them... Education is very important to my dad and i have no idea how is he going to react to the fact i dropped out but my boyfriend already offered to my for my college there which i refused because i wanna do it myself, im also an only child and worse i lied... although my boyfriend's right when he talked about having a better future specially education, Portugal is in crisis and everyone is immigrating because they cant find a job not even with a college degree and my dad knows i'll be doing the same cause its inevitable but how am i supposed to tell him? even though ive given them hints that i want to move to texas I dont even know where to start this conversation :/
Complicated situation... how to tell my parents im moving out?
Ok only serious answers please. Ive been on a long distance relationship for two years already and till this day hes the one who always visited me since he has family here in Portugal (he's from Texas). I've made my decision and i want to go visit him and spend 2 months with him. I know you guys are going to say living together is different but to be honest we talk through skype every single day and almost never hang up not even to sleep so it must be close as living together lol. Anyway i have everything ready, visa, ticket and money and im an adult,20, the only problem are my parents... They have no idea what im about to do and worse i dropped out of college and they dont know about it either (i can always go back in case it doesnt work as planned). My boyfriend is not helping either because now he says he wants to talk to my parents to make sure they know i'll be safe and he said it has to be tomorrow! Im pretty sure he's going to say he wants to marry me soon and i dont think they need to know that now... he's 25 i know hes a good guy and he really loves me the same way i love him he even told me he was going to call his mother to talk to my parents in case they didnt believe him but i dont know where to start :/ Ive been lying to them for the past days saying that ive been going to school but thats not true... and my boyfriend keeps pressuring me saying that ive got to tell them now because the sooner the better and its not like im doing this just for fun because this is also going to give the chance of having a better future and i couldnt agree more with him but i dont really know how to tell them... Education is very important to my dad and i have no idea how is he going to react to the fact i dropped out but my boyfriend already offered to my for my college there which i refused because i wanna do it myself, im also an only child and worse i lied... although my boyfriend's right when he talked about having a better future specially education, Portugal is in crisis and everyone is immigrating because they cant find a job not even with a college degree and my dad knows i'll be doing the same cause its inevitable but how am i supposed to tell him? even though ive given them hints that i want to move to texas I dont even know where to start this conversation :/
How should I tell my parents?
i have a friend whos boyfriend was 39 when they began seeing each other when she was 19. she was seeing him for ages before introducing him to her parents, although they know she was seeing someone. if i were you i would say you have met someone and are taking things slowly, and say he makes you happier than any previous boyfriend has. say all the positive things like how he respects you, is likely to be more financially stable than someone our own age etc and that you love each other which is all that matters. if you just tell your parents gradually and gently, then after a while let them meet him it should be ok, although i dont know what your parents are like! my friends parents seemed a little apprehensive at first but are now totally fine with it, baring in mind most parents are apprehensive at the start of any of their kids relationships! They have now been together five years and still going. good luck hun hope all goes ok!
Parents are crazy, not sure what to do, and I may have to tell boyfriend?
Graduated from college in the beginning of the year (January 2016). I can't find a job yet and its been a year. Have not worked since January since I wanted to see if I can get a job for what I went to school for first. Anyways, since I have/had no luck in anything, I tried my advisor from school for his input. Went 2 days ago on Monday in afternoon (told me to come in early afternoon when he was having lunch). Conversation was basically him asking what I have been doing for a job, so he can know how to advise me. Well, I told him and gave his input. He told me that it would look bad if Im not working or going back to school after a year, so if I dont get a job offer, I need to do retail part time so I can save money to go back to school since what I want to do is impossible and theres no jobs in that area for my major, which I figured because wherever I look some places say the same thing - I cant just have my single degree, its needs to be attached to something or I need to go back to school to continue something to get a job. Plus I never worked before so he said I need work experience and I wont get hired without work experience, which is why practically everyone in college works in retail.
I need help?! What do I tell my parents? What do I do?! Seriously?
I don't know anything about Jehovah's Witnesses, so I'm just wondering here, why can't you date? I've had that happen in my family... he ended up moving in with his friends a couple of months ago. Is there anyone they can move in with? Life is hard for everyone, but there's always ways to make it better. Don't give up. It may just be that you have to tell your parents. I mean, I know y'all are engaged, so they'd have to find out soon anyway, right? You know, what with the whole getting married and everything. There are many organizations that will help people in need, not always by housing, but they'll give a ton of free food and clothes and stuff. If they go to a church, they can ask the church for help. It's a hard thing to do, I should know, but ever since we asked our church for help, we've been able to make it. We're in serious financial trouble ourselves, and I am always babysitting my three little brothers (4,2,1) which I'm actually doing right now, and my stepdad works two jobs and my mom's trying to find one while going to nursing school so she can give them a better life, while I'm just trying to get through high school. I have kept my faith in the Lord, and I've trusted in him with everything, and my mom's trying to do it to, and we're forming a family back together even with all the stress. I don't know why I'm telling you this. Nobody knows, not even my best friend, and now the whole world can read it. But I guess what I'm trying to say is, there is a way, even when there doesn't seem like one. I mentioned what we have done in my family and I'm sure there are many more. I wish you all the best of luck in whichever path you choose, and I will pray an entire Rosary for you guys right now. love from a stranger <3
I would strongly suggest you go online to http://GSAalliance.com (Gay Straight Alliance) and read up on it. There is a lot of good information that will help you and help them. I would be ready for some information about transgender issues. Come prepared to educate your parents about what you are experiencing. Be prepared to be disbelieved at first. It is a natural thing for parents to deny it at first. Be prepared for them to be hurt as well. It doesn’t reflect on YOU but the situation. They might feel like they have somehow failed you. You haven’t. Please, please educate yourself so you can help them through it. You have already gone through the realization and acceptance and they will need time.I would also suggest you try to talk with someone who has experienced it themselves but understand each person’s experience is different. I have been an adviser for the GSA at schools and it is a wonderful organization that will be able to help you and your parents. You certainly could use support. Maybe check with your counselors at school. My former school district had personnel specifically trained to help LBGT students.Above all, be patient and honest with your parents and yourself. Good luck and keep your chin up.Ms. A.
My parents DESPISED my boyfriend at the time. They saw the abusiveness, and were desperately trying to help me out of it without pushing me too far.I simply told my mom in the car one night, "Mom, I'm pregnant. Yes, it's his."She was disappointed. And the thing is, I expected her to be. I was disappointed in myself. Looking back, parents know best sometimes.But my dad, god my dad was a different story. I told him while sobbing and shaking. He despised my boyfriend more than words, and has temper issues. He went and locked himself in his room for an hour to calm down.I didn't let them around my boyfriend for a while after that while it really set in. I then took a step back and asked their opinions, and they begged me not to get married.So, enough about my story, my advice is:-Be blunt and firm. This is YOUR choice and YOUR body and YOUR life. You are 20. You are a legal adult. You make the decisions in your life, not your parents, and not your boyfriend.-Do you want this baby? Do you want an adoption? Do you want an abortion? Is your boyfriend going to help out if you keep the baby? Is he excited to be a dad if so? Answer these and be prepared to give your parents those answers too.-Make sure they realize your boyfriend will step up too, if you firmly believe he will.It will take time. They may be angry, they may be disappointed. Let them come around. My dad still despises my now-ex who hasn't been around my daughter for almost her entire life, but adores my daughter more than the world. So does my mom. And they help me out a lot.Just be secure and firm in YOUR decisions. Make sure you understand their points of view too. Make sure you tell them before they find out from someone else. Make sure you involve them in your pregnancy if you think that'll help (I didn't involve them as much as I wish I had, and I regret that to this day).Best of luck for the pregnancy!
I'm keeping the baby... how do I tell my parents?
Kudos to u for keeping the baby. My situation is somewhat like urs. Baby daddy not my boyfriend, he wanted me to do an abortion, i took a while to decide, worried bout parents, had abortion before. All those happened to me. To answer ur question here, you need to sit down and talk to ur parents. My dad is very fierce so i didnt dare to talk to him. I sent my mom a text and told her that i need to talk to her after work. I told her the truth and not surprisingly, she wanted me to get an abortion. I told her bout my decision and that i dun wanna go thru another abortion. She was unhappy with me for a while. But soon after, she's very supportive. She managed to talk to my dad. Now, they're both very excited bout seeing their first grandson. Always expect the worst at first. Parents will definitely be angry. Especially mine because im currently overseas pursuing my degree. Suppose to study, not getting pregnant. Regarding my baby daddy, mine is very complicated. He has an infant son and is fighting for child custody. Me being pregnant might cause him to lose custody of his son. Therefore, he hides me in the dark. His parents doesnt know bout me, only his close friends know that im pregnant and he will deny it if anyone ask if he's expecting another child. It is tough for me. When we first found out that im pregnant, he told me to get an abortion and he says that he wont be around. He called the abortion clinic for me, didnt wanna see me, told me that he might move to another state, etc. Now, he's around but he has never attend any ob appointment with me. He touches my belly, gives me his son's old stuff (which i dun mind). We're both in love with each other but we just cant be together. He changed his mind and told me that he will be around just one month ago. Thats because i kept threatening him with child support. My advise for u is dun expect every guy to come around. My baby daddy is terrified with child support, thats why he's forcing himself to be around. Some guys will run away and never come back. I wish i could tell u more bout my situation but i dun wanna get judged here. Add me as a contact and we can talk. Good luck to u!
The next question do you have job some place to live that you can live there for a long time. Do you have food to eat, a place to wash your cloths, a way to get to work. Do you have everything that you need to move out? There are many things to consider when you get ready to move. Do you still go to school? Do you plan to go to college? I am 61 and now I am taking care of my mom now that my dad is going and mom knows that I am here to take of her now. Me and my wife take turns taking care for her. We come and stay overnight cook meals, and sometimes wash her cloths. Are you the only child and when they get old will you take care of them or just put them in a home someplace and forget all about them. There is a time and place for everything. Most parents try the best they can and they try to help you do better than they had it when they were growing up. Life is what we make it and when we get our own place and then we can make our own rules but do we have to leave mom and dad behind in our lives. No matter what they are still your mom and dad. As they get older you get older too.I think that you should sit down and talk to them that you want to try to live on your own for awhile to see if you really can do it. So this way they get to understand that this is what you really want. The thing is they might not be ready for you to move out and be on your own have you realized that? Some parents can comprehend that the children are old enough to move out on there own. You have to get them a little time to realize that it is time for you to be on your own. I remember when I told dad that I was moving out when I was 22 and dad said mom was not ready for us kids to move out yet. They still wanted to shelter us for everything that life has for us. I guess no matter what we have to learn the hard way that LIFE IS NOT FAIR. So sat down and talk to mom and dad about you move out. Then see what they say about it. You never know they might say can I help you pack.