Should I be forced to shave for a wedding?
No, you should not. The only thing is you should at least make sure everything is neat and trimmed on that day.
How would you react to a surprise wedding?
i would be against this, because i am against surprise weddings when both parties know its coming. the main point is that most people would cancel almost anything else to come to a wedding, but not to an engagement party, or house party, or whetever excuse you give to get people there. as for your specific position, people assume that guys dont care about the wedding because they dont talk about it as much as we do. but a lot of guys have at least a vague idea of how they want the day to go. i think that telling him you've gotten the divorce will be surprise enough, and a great one at that! twlling him "we're getting married today!!" might be a bit too much all at once. my advice, make a big deal of "now we can get married" but not "now we are getting married right now" dont do a surprise wedding.
How should a girl react to forceful intercourse the very first night of marriage? I am a 22-year-old girl, and I’m getting married (arranged) next month.
You are getting married next month! But you're talking as if your new (about to become) husband has already violated you!Just relax!When you meet him next time (hopefully before your marriage), tell him how thrilled you are to become his wife soon and how much you are craving to get physical for the first time, that too with such a nice guy like him. Sex after all, is a physical need for both men and women.Instead of how they show in movies, where the bride is extremely passive and docile on her wedding night and where the hero takes the initiative all on his own, you should try to relax and show a little bit of your naughtiness with your new husband. If the first time experience is getting too excited for him (who probably feels his own performance anxiety), you may want to whisper to him to just chill and not get stressed out. Tell him calmly that women want their sex to be slow and gentle with tenderness shown towards them. It is possible that he still may not have the necessary skills to patiently accommodate your wishes that first night! Virgin men can get too excited! But sex between a couple is not a one time affair... so, you both can and should laugh it off in case it doesn't go smoothly the very first time. Just promise to each other that you will work together patiently on your skills in bed. He doesn't need to stress and neither do you!
Men and heartbreak? Why do they withdraw?
Thanks for the replies :) I'm new to yahoo so not sure the best way to answer.... Our problems were that we started drifting apart and then my sons Dad died, I loved him as their father and was devastated so didn't put enough time and Love into our relationship, he also had issues with his father (he used to beat up his Mum then died of alcoholism at 40) he became angry in himself and has never known how to deal with it, is that passive aggressive? I heard men hide i their cave in these times and think he may just need space, he knows I love him but I had become angry for wanting to leave me when I needed him most, withdrew and have been depressed for a year really, its the anniversary of the boys Dads death next month, I have been getting counselling but it hasn't worked, she just says to me 'sounds like you are feeling...' I know what I'm feeling! I analyse everything I need some strategies to move forward out of this hole. I know I wasn't the goddess he married I turned into a witch
I don't think I want to get married anymore..please help!?
Alright, So my fiance and I have been engaged for about 8 months now, our wedding is supposed to be July of 2010. We recently moved in together and I realized I can't do this. Even when we were talking about getting engaged a little voice in the back of my head was telling me not to but I ignored it. I really just wanted it to work because this is the first guy I've found that my family actually likes, and hes a really nice guy, but I just don't love him like I thought I did or like I wanted to. I feel like I've been forcing myself to love him for the past 8 months and I just can't do it anymore. And, if I do call the wedding off I'm scared of what my parents will do. They love him and most of the time it seems like they love him more than they love me. Our sex life is horrible, we don't even really have one. It seriously makes me want to throw up just thinking about having sex with him. He is waay to sensitive too. He's the classic momma's boy. I told him last night I thought we were getting married too soon and I thought he was going to start crying. He doesn't take no for an answer. We've taken a break before we even got engaged and I wanted it to stay like that, but he kept bugging me and crying to me and my family, and my family seriously almost disowned me, so I went back to him to make everyone else happy. I know what I need to do, I just need someone to tell me it's ok for me to feel like this.
He slept with the stripper at his bachelor party!?
My fiancee had sex with the stripper at his bachelor party! I found out through one of the groomsmen and he admitted to it when I asked him. I am sooo angry and upset with him right now, I can't even look at him. The worst part is that he doesn't even seem very sorry about it. He said it was bad but EVERY guy does that at their bachelor party. I said no, most guys get a LAP DANCE from the stripper, they DON'T have SEX with the stripper. He said yes they do, and after that I just couldn't talk to him anymore. I just think he's so disgusting. So right now, we're not talking to each other. and our wedding is in 9 days. All the plans are already made, nothing has been called off yet. We will probably still get married, but I don't think I can do this now. I know it's going to cost a lot of money to rebook all the arrangements. It won't be the same as we planned. But the real problem would be telling my family. I have no idea how to tell my mom or my sister without crying alot. And a lot of my family is flying in from other states. Maybe we will just have a family party or something. Please, if you have any advice or have been in a similar situation please help. What would you do? and how would you do it? Thanks.
What are the difficulties Indian men face in arranged marriages?
I have been married for 1 and a half year now (Arranged Marriage). I faced the 1st problem with my wife within 1 month of our marriage. That problem was I used to skip bath 2 , 3 times in a week and she hated it.Short history about my 'Bad Habit'I was a hosteler during four years of engineering degree course (2007 to 2011). As many of you know that hostelers do not make efforts for something that won't even last an entire day, Bath. I was also part of that hostel ritual. This habit continued after my graduation until I got married to a very clean freak Girl.My wife prefers being clean or prefers keeping herself clean. So when she found out my habit her reaction was like this - Eww, yuukkk.(Source : Fuel For Brain)Followed by conversationShe - If I ever knew you do like this I would never have married you in the 1st place. You are the dirtiest person I have ever met in my life. Please go and bathe. (Angrily)Me - Baby I love you. (This line needs to be there when I have to convince her for anything.) I am saving water. Look so many people don't even have a glass of water to drink (pointing to drought news in the newspaper). Save water save the world.I went near to give her warm hug as I thought she will agree and give me a smile and hug for my great sacrifice for mother earth.She - Don't touch me. Stay away. I don't want to talk to you. (Went to do her work)I was happy that she didn't argue much. But wait, man can't win an argument with his wife.After 2 days I wanted to skip a bath again, this time, she harassed and argued with me a lot. This went on for many days and finally, she won. Now I never ever ever ever miss a bath. Sometimes I bathe twice in a day.In the end "Happy Wife, Happy Life".Originally written by me - A cute story that gives best marriage advice for newlyweds | Fuel For BrainYou can find more interesting stories on my blog.