How would you define vulnerability?
Everybody talks about vulnerability as something fragile, something hidden, your softness. The weakness that comes from caring. Your sweet and delicate, hidden talents, emotions, thoughts. The thing that needs to be risked, and yet, our hidden power; our power to send out fragile-as-glass-fronds into the cold and sharp and exciting world, to create, to explore, to become new.I think these things are vulnerability, but it is a cultural norm to look at our vulnerabilities in this way only.To me, vulnerability is also: when you try your hardest, and you still fail. When you really look like a loser, no matter how hard you try not to. When you are usurped, made cuckhold, stolen from. When you feel lonely and empty inside and when you open up to someone they don't honour your vulnerability, but take advantage, or cut you to pieces.And when you are so aged and fragile that you can't look after yourself. When you can't stop things from happening. When you miss a beautiful and special opportunity. When you miss the train that last time, when your boss has warned you; late one more time and...When there IS no poetic depth, no redemption, no story of heroic opening up and learning and understanding. When you have egg on your face. Bad breath when you can't help it. Dying of a painful and protracted illness or so angry you can't control your emotions.All the things that are us that we don't want to be us. The lack of control and the damage. That's vulnerability; not just poetic, beautiful/ugly fragility, but real, horrible, shitty pain.
How do girls define a guy's vulnerability?
Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough.For men, it's the fear of not being wealthy enough, tough enough, or smart enough. The number one shame trigger for men is being perceived as weak.Men walk this tightrope where any sign of weakness illicits shame, and so they're afraid to make themselves vulnerable for fear of looking weak. But if you can't be vulnerable, then you can't truly grow and be your best self.-Dr. Brene BrownThis is how I see a vulnerable man.Guys are extremely sensitive when it comes to their masculinity. But I could never make out when a guy is vulnerable. Male race is not good at expression.
How do you define vulnerability? What makes you vulnerable?
I think vulnerability means you dont have to be strong and you can just be yourself, be relaxed and open. I'm pretty much always open and always relaxed to the point where I'm not vulnerable because I'm not afraid to tell people anything and so people can say what they want because it doesn't matter to me. I will only hide a few things and if you ask the right questions, I will answer honestly, but if people ask vague questions/not specific enough my answer will be the same. I usually give back what people give me, if they are vulnerable I will be. But I don't let people under my skin. If your talking about vulnerable as in weak/scared then its when I'm in water, I see a wasp/bee, when I'm in a place I dont know and I'm alone and when people ask me really personal questions WHILE I'm listening to music haha. I am usually vulnerable (emotionally) when I'm by myself because I feel safer being weak with myself than being weak around someone else- if that makes sense? Anyway, I don't think vulnerability is a bad thing but I hate weak, unconfident, scared people who never stand up for themselves. I am rude and blunt according to some people but really I'm just honest, if they can't take it then don't talk to me-simple.
How do you personally define vulnerability? How has it brought you closer in a relationship?
Vulnerability, in my opinion, is being open and not letting pride or ego block you from expressing your true feelings/emotions.I still struggle with this in alot of ways, its hard to say or act on the things that i would like to say or do. Sometimes i even have a thought like im going to go right up to my son and tell him that its ok to do this or that and i think you are doing an amazing job in life and i love you and always will. Then when i see him, something just locks me up and i am completely unable to say any of what i wanted to, its like something comes over me and my mind just changes out of nowhere.However when i am able to express my feelings i can see my son light up with appreciation or my fiancée will listen to my feelings and it makes me feel much better to get them off my chest if they are bad feelings. It also seems to bring my fiancée and i closer together when i do share feelings with her whether they are good or bad.
What is YOUR definition of "vulnerable"?
Many would say being 'vulnerable' would be, being weak. This can be true in many situations such as peer pressure to do drugs or drink but in others, vulnerability can be caused from a family member dying, from loving someone so much that you would do anything for them etc. My definition of 'vulnerable' would be : open. Open to be attacked, criticised, hurt and all of the above. Hope that helped! :) :)
How would you define vulnerability? What makes you feel vulnerable?
Being emotionally attached to someone makes me vulnerable. It makes me human enough to feel bad if someone ignores me, lets me down, dissapoints me or downright disrespects me. By validating my own feelings of being vulnerable i am able to express these true feelings without using the garb of being strong and brave hearted or masking it with other emotions. I truly think vulnerability is a strength.
What does "vulnerability" mean?
The term “vulnerability” can have both a positive and a negative connotation. For instance, experiencing “vulnerability” in the context of a relationship is generally considered a positive if it’s a serious relationship that you hope will last and become stronger, because it’s means you’ve opened your heart to the other person.Course, there are men who would view that as a negative, because, if he’s opened his heart to a woman and allowed himself to fall in love with her and, as a consequence, shared personal experiences or personal feelings with her that he’s never shared with anyone else, in his mind he’s become vulnerable, which means he can be hurt by her. This is why we want a close relationship only with those whom we trust implicitly.To put another way, if you’re a career woman who, by necessity, has developed a personality that others see as strong, invincible, and unaffected, the man you’re dating who loves you will eventually become frustrated, or even complain, that, because you’re not vulnerable or don’t ever feel a sense of vulnerability, you don’t need him. If you don’t need him and aren’t willing to at least drop your tough exterior enough after work to need him emotionally, then he feels he has no real place in your life other than as an appendage.If you’re a man, the woman you love and who loves you can feel just as insignificant to your life if you’re unable to be vulnerable with her.On the strictly negative side, if your car gets stuck in the snow during a blizzard when you’re wearing only a coat sans hat, scarf, gloves and boots, leaving your car to walk a few miles or more for help substantially increases your physical vulnerability to the cold temperature, as in your exposure, susceptibility and sensitivity.#VULNERABILITYIN5WORDS:Though I’m the least technologically savvy bloak around, the above reference to “#VulnerabilityIn5Words” appears to be asking for examples of vulnerability that can be expressed in five words [or less?] . . . or maybe it has to be exactly five (5) words. For that determination, we need someone more savvy than I.Thanks for A2A.