I feel neglected by my parents?
:( I hate how my life isn't normal. I'd rarely get to see my parent, and I'm always home alone. I hate how they are either working, or out partying. It seems like they're never home, and of course, me and my dad never seem to talk unless I want something (money) There's never been a place I actually like to live in. I've lived with my grandparents, and it was one of worse place I've lived in. Then my uncle, he on the other hand wasn't as bad, but I still didn't like it. Now I'm living with my dad, and still, nothing. The only place I actually enjoyed staying at, was my cousins. I remember visiting them a couple of years ago, and I loved it there. They had what I'd like to have, a normal family, where your mother would cook for you. Where you could sit down, eat your meal, and have some family time, and to have someone who's there for you all the time, someone to help you with your hw, and most of all, someone who shows you that they love you as every parent should. I'm getting so sick of being bought. I know my family could by me nearly any object, but what I want is priceless. It's something I need and should have. Ever kid should have what I want, but why does it have to me who doesn't have it? :(
Do you feel that your parents love your siblings more than you?
Oh, I know for a fact that I’m less loved.She said it straight to my faceMy two older brothers are marines, and have been pretty successful. Then again, they’re adults and I’m not. I’m just this stupid teenager still trying to figure out what I want to do in life, and it appears that my mother doesn’t care for any of it.I remember sitting on our porch swing because I heard my mother crying. So I sat down, let her cry, until she was ready to talk. Once the crying stopped, she looked at me.“I miss your brothers..”I’ve obviously heard this a thousand times before, so I’m not too worked up about it.“I know, ma.. we both do, but hey, at least I’m here. You still have me in the nest.”My mom snapped her neck in my direction and gave me the coldest stare I’ve ever seen to come from her.“I don’t want you.. I want your brothers. You’re gonna be gone in 3 years anyway, so why should I care? Ever wonder why I don’t spend time with you? It’s because I don’t want to get close, I don’t want to get hurt again.”That just.. It completely shattered me. You want to basically ignore your child besides for basic needs, because you don’t want to get hurt?I wanted to scream, but I couldn’t do anything. I just continued to watch, hoping she would correct herself, but she never did. I clenched my chest and held back tears.Why would my mother do this? She always wanted a daughter and now she just wants to set her aside like you never wanted her in the first place? How is that going to fix anything?Nonetheless, it still hurt… It hurt horrifically
My parents don't want me to join the army.?
Be your own man If you join and your parents aren't proud of you, than come to my house for thanksgiving. know your options you can be reserves, guard, active, or you can go to college and do ROTC. If you have not contacted a recruiter send me an email and I can refer one to you on line(if you join I would get some money) I always wanted to be in the Army as well but it was peace time when I joined so I never had any problems with my parents, they signed the waver so I could join the week I turned 17 Email me if you have any questions.
I don't feel wanted at home...?
Welcome aboard little darling...take it in stride and not too personal!You'll get stronger as time passes so just let it go out the other ear...sometimes parents don't even know why they are being unfair...it's okay,they're parents.
My Parents don't want us together....?
You know, when I was 16, I thought I was in love with a girl. I thought she was all I ever wanted, But, I made a promise to my mother not to go through high school stuck to one person and end up being miserable the rest of my life for lost opportunities. I explained it to the girl and she agreed with me. From then until I was 24, I dated several wonderful girls and had so much fun. When I met my wife, I knew, based on my experience, that I wanted her as my wife and I proposed on our first date. 1 month later, we were married. 19 years later, I am still madly in love with my wife and am so glad that for once in my life, I listened to my mom. Actually, I listened to her a lot and learned a great deal from this woman who Loved me unconditionally and only wanted to see me happy. What I am trying to say is that while you may feel that you love this boy now, You don't know how you will feel in a year from now and if you spend all of your youth on him alone, you may come to regret the lost opportunities which will turn into a resentment of him for what he took from you. Please don't rush into anything that you will live to regret. If you were raised to be mature, then you should understand that the mature thing to do is Honor your parents and Respect yourself enough to slow things down a little. As it sounds like you are already having sex with the young man, you should start getting prepared to be a mommy soon and on your own because your young man won't stick around when he finds out your pregnant. Don't tell me that you practice safe sex because the only safe sex is no sex. I am sorry that you can't talk to your parents about this because they are who you need to talk to. As a father of 5 daughters I found that when I talk to them with an open mind and not throwing accusations around, I accomplish more than when I yell or threaten or make unrealistic demands. I think that you are an intelligent young woman who needs to slow down a little and realize that you won't be young soon and will regret the things you missed if you don't slow down a little.
What do you do when you realize that even your parents don't love you unconditionally?
First of, I just want to say I think I know what you are going through. I had a similar realization, it was slow coming at first but now I think I can say I have come to terms with it.My mom and dad separated when I was around one years old.It wasn’t their choice, but circumstances outside of them forced my mom to move thousands of miles away. My father already had his other family so I ended up moving in with my grandmother.She loved me, I mean she accepted me when no one else wanted anything to do with me. I was her seventh ‘child,’ she took me in, fed me, clothed me and took care of me. My mother did her best to send money for us so I can go to school and have a comfortable lifestyle.I guess I took my grandmother for granted for a long time, until I moved to the United States with my mother. Who at that time was a complete stranger to me. The transition did not go smoothly. We are both headstrong, stubborn so from the get-go things were going awfully bad. I did not know my own mother and she didn’t know me; she tired her best to mold me into the ‘daughter’ she wanted. But the more she tried the harder I pushed back, for me it felt like she did not accept me the way I was, in other words, she did not love me unconditionally.That really hurt; especially over the years when she had two other daughters whom you can tell she loves unconditionally. They are her everything, they get the things I never got; maybe its because she got the chance to raise them, which she never did with me. Does that make me sad? yes, sometimes.It sucks feeling all alone. Having the people that were ‘supposed’ to love you not display their love in a healthy and caring way. It sucks, and it takes a chunk of your heart and self esteem with it. But if there is any silver lining it is that it can teach you kindness, kindness towards yourself and the people around youAt the end of the day I understand, and even though a lot of things happened in my past, sometimes you have to leave it there and realize that life is long. Right now it might not seem like it, but it is possible that other people outside of your family will love you unconditionally. And they will accept you for who you are.Some of us are not born with the privilege of being showered with love, but other times, like flowers we have to lean towards the sun.