Is it possible to set things on fire with your mind?
In the 1980's, Benedetto Supino was able to set a comic book on fire he was reading in a dentist office and then later set himself and his bed on fire while sleeping. What could have caused him to do this? Is it possible for other people to have this ability as well? (Source: The World’s Most Incredible Stories)
What are good ways to get your mind off things while tending to the things that stress you out because you need to tend to them?
Push ups. Alot of them… it hurts the arms like crazy when you do 10, 20, 30….100’s of them successively… not the causal kind of push ups but Army style professional ones (all the way down to your chest 1 cm from the floor kind of push ups) that makes your arms go screaming and numb afterwards.Trust me… you can’t think of nothing else except trying to catch your breath and wonder why you did that in the first place.Instant stress reliever.Instant mind off anything else.After you recover from the sore arms about 20 mins later, it’s time to cut the procrastination and go back to work on the important things, stronger and with bigger biceps.It works like magic for me, that’s why I procrastinate less and less over time, ironically, so does the size of my biceps.*winks*“Mind over matter, it’s not always that if you don’t mind then it doesn’t matter because when your body is super tired, nothing else matters. Not even a very strong mind. When you are tired, you are tired.” - MaynasEric Chua Yanshan
How do I control my mind when I can't concentrate on one thing, but thoughts keep flying everywhere? I feel like I want to do everything but am actually doing nothing.
So most of the answers here talked about meditating and similar things. And you could look up on internet on various ways to do it. But the method that really works for me is this. First find a silent place. Take earplugs like in the pic. You could easily get from any medical shop at very low price. Pop them in your ear, press both plugs for 5-6 seconds. Then keeping your back straight or just in normal position , sit calmly with legs crossed. Now what most people who try to mediate , try to focus between their eyes for so long which becomes painful after sometime. But all you have to do it, is close your eyes and start listening to your breath. After 2-3 seconds start counting from 10 to 0 , every time you exhale. And every time you exhale try to loosen up your body and breathe normally, don`t be in hurry . DO NOT TRY TO STOP ANY THOUGHTS THAT ARE COMING IN YOUR MIND, THE MORE YOU ARE GOING TO FIGHT MORE THEY ARE GOING TO INVADE YOU. JUST LISTEN/OBSERVE the breathing, slowly you`ll be able to listen your heartbeats. After your count is over then start again from 0-10. In the beginning try to do it for 3-4 minutes. You could use earphones also but ear plugs are more preferred. Do it regularly in morning and in night before sleep.Hope this works for you too:)SOURCE :Basic Meditation Session by Sandeep Maheshwari (in Hindi)
How can I get over my husbands infidelity and the things he did sexually with this woman?
My husband of 11 years has cheated on me 3 times with his daughters mother. The last time he cheated he told me 10 minutes before I went to my psychologist. He even told me that one of the days that I thought he was at work, he wasn't. He drove over 7 hours roundtrip to go see her. He came back like nothing had happended that was over a year ago. He told me that he had to come clean and tell me the truth because it was waying on his heart. He has changed and he is trying to do better with our marriage. I' ve forgiven him. I asked him one day recently to write down on a sheet of paper the sexual things he did with her. Every sexual position he did with her I 've done with him. I can't get it out of my mind. Everytime I look at him I think of what he did with her especially when we have sex. I don't know how to move on from this, my husband has cut off ties with her and devoted himself to our marriage. How can I get past the sexual thing and stop thinking about what he did.
I have something in my mind that keeps bothering me all the time. How do I get to the core of this unknown problem?
My dear friend why are you worrying. What makes you feel bad? It’s not your mind bro. It’s you troubling your life yourself. Let me ask you is if your mind works without your existence? No, your mind doesn’t work without your existence. Will it work when you die? No absolutely no. It’s you who creating all negative thoughts in your mind and bothering yourself. There is nothing Impossible. Everything is possible in this world. You can Ignore the Problems and You can be aware of the negative thoughts. when you follow good habits and when you know how to think and when you know how to place your thoughts and when you know how to understand. Dear friend, you can feel some thoughts will be coming That makes you feel bad and Reduce Your Productiveness. Thoughts will come according to the way you understand.I can Tell the possible steps to achieve positiveness1.) Think In such a way that You Understand Clarity2.) Consider only Positive Aspects of any person or thing.3.) Involve in work that gives you happier and Joy.4.) Think Spiritually5.) Believe Yourself and Have faith On yourself6.) Keep working On your way of understanding.Another Possible method That make You Feel Better1.) You can try MeditationMeditation that makes self-focus on your Thoughts and makes you understand clearly. That makes you think in a such a way that Makes You develop every day.Steps You need to take while doing meditationDo Meditation twice for a day. Do one morning and another one in evening.Focus on your breathing. Control of your breathing makes you control on your thoughts.Don’t allow unnecessary thoughts allow the thoughts which make an impact on your way of living, thinking, regarding self-development.My dear friend doesn't feel sad when These unnecessary thoughts come to your mind. Be Strong. Cultivate yourself by allowing thoughts which are necessary.Cultivate Yourself with positive emotions and feelings.Change your life style. Don’t be alone Mingle with friends, Roam with them and Enjoy the Life.Allow people to your life and make yourself strong.God has given only one life Why you spending time with unnecessary things.Just get Clarity on your negative thoughts. Work on your negative thoughts why they are coming. Take a paper write all the thoughts and problems which are coming to your mind. The next moment on wards you will start thinking clearly.
What does the saying "Mind over matter" mean?
Sorry. That picture of mine is a “smart ass” response but … it is funny. In t he field of current day’s physics its the mind of the observer that initiates the formation of matter. Mind is at cause … matter is at effect … if quantum physics is accurate that is.
How do you get someone out of your mind?
I broke up with my boyfriend 6 months ago and it was terrible.He was my best friend and we were awesome together.I thought I couldn’t love anyone again in my life.I couldn’t think of a life without him.I thought it was the end.I couldn’t get him out of my mind.I tried harder not to think of him.I tried to do different things to make myself busy.I tried to prove that I am bold and strong enough to handle the break up.I spoke with my friends.They comforted me.But nothing could sooth my heart.At some point I even tried to patch up with him gain.I stalked him on every social media .Life was hard.Days passed…I realized if anyone could make my life better, It was me.I blocked him everywhere.I decided to do some thing for myself.I joined dance classes.It was always my dream to perform on a stage.I faced the truth.I accepted the fact that he is not gonna be with me and that is okay….I didn’t try to avoid his thoughts.I cried my heart out whenever I felt like crying.Now ,after these many days…Everything is fine. and I am writing this answer on Quora.Thank you for readingP.S: I miss him a lot..I miss our conversations…After all he was my best buddy.We broke up because of our religion..He was a christian and I am a Hindu.We valued our families decision than our Love.I locked my Love Safely at the deepest of my heart.Let it remain there.Years from now …When my hair turns gray and every responsibilities have gone off the shoulder…when I would be sitting in my room and gazing the shimmering moonlight outside…I may remember him …with a tear at the corner of my eyes..
How can I stop sexual thoughts and clean my mind?
This was what Buddhist monks and nuns are taught.I did it and it worked so well I freaked.Imagine someone you fancy as their bodily parts.Now imagine a row of large buckets.Next imagine putting their skin in the first bucket.Put their brain and lungs and eyes and other organs in the next bucket.Put their muscles and sinew and cartlidge and tendons and bone marrow in the next bucket.Now put their blood and mucus and snot and urine and faeces in the next.Finally odds and sods like eyes snd hair and nails in the last bucket.Now ask yourself which bucket sexually arouses you the most.Which bucket contents are the most attractive?This is the body you fancy is it not.Nothings changed other than the arrangement of the bits.The bits themselves haven’t changed in the slightest.Stay aware of the contents of the buckets, allow revulsion to arise.If you need to focus on a particular bucket to create revulsion do it.Don’t worry about the exact content of each bucket.It’s just a tool.Put whatever you want in each bucket.A simpler way is to visualise the person with their skin piled at the side of them.You can then continue this as your meditation.Every time you see someone recall what’s inside the skin, imagine the skin has gone .Every time your mind wanders away or you get distracted recall the exercise and start doing it again with the people around you.This is mindfulness of the parts of the body as they are.I did this diligently for a week or two.All sexual craving ceased as did finding any body attractive.I’d been married for a couple of years by then and I did it as an experiment. It worked dramatically well. But after getting spooked I chose to view my wife as I had before (beautiful) and that was fine.I’d be very interested to know how you get on if you try it.