My husband accused me of having affair with brother?
I would have to say that you all need to try some counseling.... There are obviously some things going on that you can not put your finger on... It could be insecurities from things that happened before you all even got married that he has not discussed with you (that occurred in his family....) That could range from his confidence or an event that occurred that has caused him to feel threatened.... The whole issue with the strip club and stuff is something that needs to be addressed as well....via counseling.... I fear that there is some type of sexual misconception or notion that your husband may have that he has not quited connected with because of something that he is dealing with in his life.... Because...all of the issues are focused around sex...or sex like issues.... So, try that and see what happens, but I think that it worth addressing because you all have a great marriage outside of the issues that you have addressed here (as I picked up from your outline) But, when someone has that in their mind, it is hard for you to convince them otherwise, because the situation has been created in their mind With the mind being so powerful...I would suggest some type of intervention...that could help communicate and mediate the issues that are being misinterpreted....
What should I do if my husband doesn't believe me and always doubts me?
Some incidents related to his family members might have disturbed your husband and he has cultivated this habit of doubting/suspecting. If you can spare some of your valuable time and try to interact with him, assure him and find out the real reasons that is troubling him. He might appreciate your concern and empathy, may open up and unburden himself. You can treat this exercise as a challenge in relationship management.Talk to him when he is cool and calm, tell him this attitude of doubting you always is disturbing you that is affecting your day to day life. Ask him how he expects you to function so that whatever is reasonable and within your possibility, you shall try to act accordingly.Tell him trust is the foundation to any relationship, particularly marital and in the interest of nurturing your loving married life, he must put an end to this doubting character.
Why would my sister say my husband hit on her?
My sister is claiming that my husband hit on her on 3 different occasions - by text in feb 09 and in June 09 and apparently he went up to her door and asked her if she wanted to mess around with him. My sister said on each text she responded back saying "hell no" and "I would never do that to my sister" and she said she also told him that when he went up to her door. She said he never tried to touch her but only asked her those 3 times. Also, when she denied him in person, she said he then carried on with a different topic of conversation. My sister told m mom that all of this happened and I was only told 4 days ago. My sister has been living with us for the last year. She claims she never toldme because she wanted to stay to protect me and my daughter, whom she stayed at home with everyday to take care of. M husband also worked from home everyday, and never had tried to make advances toward my sister. I have never seen him flirt with her and even when we want to be sexual, he doesn't even approach me with words like my sister is saying he used. My sister is saying she has been scared everyday for the last year bc she thought my husband might try something but there have been millions of times where they both have been Alone and nothing has happened. She voluntarily smoked cigs alone with him, they've even both fallen asleep on separate couches in the living room, been in the car together, etc. We are all very playful with joking and it seems like it's been like that every single day since then. How can you fake having fun and get along with someone that supposedly hit on you and made you scared everyday? My whole family knows now and they want me to leave my husband. We have two children together, a home and so much more. We are a very happy family and my siste claims she never told me bc she knows he makes me so happy. She said the only reason she told my mom abou it was bc I was hassling her why she starts to not be home often the last few months. My husband is a vey honest man and even when guys do guys talk he is hardly one to participate. I am stuck between choosing what my sister is saying and leaving my husband bc my familythinks that's what's best or staying with him and carrying on with our happy family. My husband says that he would never ask my sister to have sex bc he has considered her like his real sister. What do I do? How do i decide?
My hubby left me for his mistress?
I'm so sorry to hear about your pain and your situation. I am in the same boat, however, my husband has been with this homewrecker for over a yr and a half now. I am a firm believer in the bible too. Its a shame that the kids have to suffer behind these two selfish idiots. But let me tell you something, and make no mistake about it: WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. GOD DOES NOT GIVE A WOMAN ANOTHER WOMAN'S HUSBAND, AND HE WILL NOT BLESS A UNION BUILT UPON DECEIT AND SOMEONE ELSE'S PAIN. SHE AND HIM BROKE UP A MARRIAGE. GOD DOES NOT HONOR SUCH THINGS. SO that being said, collect your child support, keep working your job, improve yourself and your children and let his 18 yr old tramp *ss whore have him. She will do it to him, and he will do it to her. Whichever comes first. I would change my number and allow a family member be a third party contact person for him to see the kids. I would have nothing further to do with him. IT amazes me how ppl can say don't be bitter and angry! How the hell can you not be at first? Don't seek revenge, its like drinking poison and hoping they suffer. PLEASE don't have anymore convo for him unless it involves the kids. Cut him OFF, just like he did you. PLEASE keep your head up sister, cause it does get better. PLEASE believe it does. MOVE ON with your life and let GOD and let go. Hate to say it, but you gotta LET GO OR GET DRAGGED. BOTTOM LINE. PS: HE recently found text messages in her phone from another man...See how stuff works? LOL
How can repair slander in my inlaws family circle?
You probably will not be able to repair the "latest" damage. You should speak with your husband, somehow making him understand what his actions created. (Ask him how he would feel if....) You mentioned that you speak with "key" friends. Keep in mind, that you trust them--and what you say to them could color their image of your partner (even though they may not say anything). I suspect that he spoke with a family member believing that they were "key." It seems as though you both may be doing the same thing, with different justifications for who gets told what--but both CAN have similiar results. Talk to your husband and examine yourself. (Is there anything that he can come back with on you?) Meanwhile, TRY and rise above the pettiness that is currently happening--don't give it fuel, let the fire die out--and by your actions, be an example to them all. (How hard is this! Whew!) Of course, you know that they are going to need something else to chew on, so let them gnaw on somebody else's bones by not giving them anymore of yours. By all means, never bash your mother-in-law to your husband. Who wins doing that? Everyone but you. If you know how to deal with your husband effectively (calm down, everyone--I'm not talking about manipulation!), you should be able to make him see how his actions create FURTHER problems. Once you and your husband get an understanding of how to treat future squirmishes, are you able to make yourself "bullet-proof" with your mother-in-law by having chats without bringing other people's lives into the discussions? (And if she does try to suck you in, a respectful reply could be something you say casually, perhaps with a girlish shrug: "I don't really think I know enough to comment on that..." or anything that provides an example without "smacking" her in the face with your words. Families. ...My wish for you is a long-term solution to...family politics.
What’s a good way ‘get along’ with snobby in-laws?
Do not ignore them and don`t attack them.Very assertively stand your ground and don`t let them bullie you.I believe this is a power struggle in your husbands family to keep things the way they were before you came along.I think I can help you a Little more as well but this is a touche area.There is probably one member of his family who truly doesan`t like you and they are in a position of power.The rest of his family will pick up on this without a word having to be spoken and treat you according to that person of powers behavior towards you.This is very difficult and your husband knows this is happening but is denying it to the point that he is convincing himself otherwise.You are going to have to journal and keep very accurate accounts of what the behavior towards you consists of.Not what you feel but what is actually said then record how that made you feel.After you have enough information that you can effectively present your thoughts and records to a professional phyco therapist you should do so.Then you and your husband should get marriage counseling,hopefully with the same therapist and work on resolving this issue.If you don`t you will drive your self insane thinking you are responsible because they WON`T DO ANYTHING I have been there and it is torture.It was like my In laws were sociopaths and had no feelings for me at all because my wife's mother never liked me.I would educate yourself as much as possible on subjects concerning family system theroy,either on the net or through books.There are very interesting dynamics that accur in all familys and I know of none that I could call totally healthy groups.The familys that realize that all familys have these difficulities and try to work together to remedy these problems are the ones who do the best.Your husband needs to open up to your needs in this situation and believe that there is a possibility that there is a problem if this is to work.I hope with all my heart this will help you in your effort to solve this problem,I know the experience of rejection hurts terriblly Good Luck!
My husband called me stupid. does it means anything?
It means that your husband is losing respect for you. It may also mean that he is trying to gain some sort of control over you by crushing your self-esteem. If talking to your husband isn't an option, then you may need to think about hiring a divorce attorney. When you say you are still with him because of your 1 year old son, consider this... It isn't doing your son any good to hear his father call his mother stupid. (1) Your son might believe it. (2) Your son will start to lose respect for you or your husband or both. (3) Your son may believe it is okay to call others stupid. If you are trying to protect your son, the best solution might be for you to leave that environment. Also, if your arguments are starting to escalate, your husband may do worse things to you in the future than calling you stupid. I wish you the best of luck!