Is it a sin to masturbate to thinking of your future husband as long as you don't think of a specific person?
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My husband thinks too much. How can I sort this out?
You are right-- you can't directly affect his thoughts so the accompanying question you ask is really the one to answer. How do you deal with it?Consider that he may not be thinking too much but you in fact are the one who isn't thinking long enough or deeply enough about things. I am sure if you put your mind to it, you can learn to expand your thinking so that you can have extended conversations that go past simple direct answering of questions or noticing things. If you can eventually do this--and it will take some time for you to acquire new habits of mind-- then you will be in a much better position to ask him what criteria he uses to come to decisions. But remember, you have to learn how to use your own thoughts more completely first or the answer he gives you may be too long and involved to hold your interest.Deep-well thinkers can often wonder why so much of the world settles for a shallow understanding of almost everything.
Why do I keep thinking that my husband is cheating on me?
Unless you have a history of being suspicious and not trusting…there is nothing I trust more than a woman’s gut. In 30 years of counseling there has not been one instance when a gut level instinct wasn’t true in some way. Either the partner was thinking about leaving, flirting with someone or literally having an affair. Does he lock his phone? Do you have the password to his phone and computer? Can you check the charge cards for misc charges? I am sorry to say, if the answer to all of that is no you are probably right .Some thing is going on. It may not be an affair. It could be an addition to porn, gambling, drugs or other things but he is hiding something. Get a detective or be one and find out what it is? Take care of yourself and don’t make excuses for his behavior. Your well being and health depend on it…especially if you have kids.
What will happen if a husband and wife have the same thinking and qualities? Is it good or bad?
No two persons on the earth can have the same thinking and qualities. However, a true husband and a true wife have the same thinking pattern between themselves. It creates a great affection between themselves. It is good to have different qualities between a husband and his wife. This is because the children generally are more associated to their mother than their father. She could better understand the needs of her children. Furthermore, regarding the educational qualifications of a husband and his wife, it is better for them to have diverse backgrounds. For example, if both the husband and the wife are working in the software sector and recession sets in after some period of time, both of them may have to suffer.
My husband and i are thinking about Gestational surrogacy?
I definately understand your situation and i say go for it. I, myself, would probably do this to! Adoption is great but it is such a money market and costs twice as much as serogacy. NOT that money is an issue but with serogacy you know the genetics better of the child because its still your child. ***important note...please check the laws in your state because not all states recognize you as being the mother...some states recognize the serogate mom as the full custody parent!! Be very careful in this decision PLEASE....or you could wind up heart broken over them changing their minds. Also, NOT all states allow monetary compensation to be provided as its sometimes illegal..so check that too. GOOD LUCK TO YOU!
Any Advice, husband thinking of getting circumcised.?
I think most people do not like uncircumcised guys because of unfair stereotypes and prejudices. As long as he washes himself it will be clean if he has foreskin or not. There really is no reason to get it done especially if he has gone this long without it. Most people don't like uncircumcised guy because they think it looks weird or it is not what they are used to. I really don't think it makes a difference in the amount of pleasure. It will feel good if he knows how to please you with or without it. It comes down to do you and your husband himself want to hold him up to a standard of "This is how you are supposed to be!" (If that is circumcised or not.) I suggest doing whatever makes you too most comfortable. I really don't think there is a need to do it but if it make you two happy then do it! I think the biggest part of why one is better than the other is all in our minds!
Thinking of sending him pizza on valentines day.... what do you think?
so instead of sending my man flowers and candy which just is a ridiculous idea.. what kind of man would want flowers and candy or baloons? seriously... anyways.. i am thinking of sending him a pizza from like pap johns or something... having them arrange the peperonnis in a heart??? you know.. to spruce it up and add a valentines day themem to it.. what do you think??? maybe send him a card with it and a nuddee pic inside?? comments appreciated!!!
Why would a man find pleasure in thinking about death?
A2A Why would a man find pleasure in thinking about death?When someone is born again (John ch.3) they have this to look forward to.2 Corinthians 5:4While we live in these earthly bodies, we groan and sigh, but it’s not that we want to die and get rid of these bodies that clothe us. Rather, we want to put on our new bodies so that these dying bodies will be swallowed up by life.2 Peter 3:13But we are looking forward to the new heavens and new earth he has promised, a world filled with God’s righteousness.Revelation 21:1-3 New Living Translation (NLT)The New Jerusalem21 Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the old heaven and the old earth had disappeared. And the sea was also gone. 2 And I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven like a bride beautifully dressed for her husband.3 I heard a loud shout from the throne, saying, “Look, God’s home is now among his people! He will live with them, and they will be his people. God himself will be with them.[a]
How do I stop thinking about the man I had an affair with now that my husband and I have decided to work on our marriage?
You probably won’t like my response —nor will many others.If you are still dwelling on your ex-lover, this is extremely telling: you love this man. Affairs are love affairs. Just because you’re married does not mean they are less relevant than if you were single. And it hurts just as much when a love affair ends, if not more. For some people, this is also the death of a dream—a dream of a happier, more fulfilled life with a more suitable, compatible partner. We don’t like to mention this too much, but there are some instances in which cheating spouses are better paired with their affair partners.Personally, I find it wise for those who have engaged in affairs to separate from their spouses temporarily. This is known as “controlled separation”. When I was married to my first ex, we did CS. It was incredibly beneficial, and it shed a lot of light on the real problems in our marriage—and the problem was not my ex’s then-girlfriend, I can tell you that much. A great book to read is called Should I Stay Or Go? : How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage by Lee Raffel. My ex and I didn’t follow the book down to the letter, but we did use it as a guideline.The benefits of CS are enormous. It gives the betrayed spouse a “cooling off” period, during which time they can grieve. It gives the spouse who had an affair a chance to see what place it had in his or her life—and if they are really in love with their affair partners.Most importantly, it gives both spouses the gift of objectivity and a fresh perspective of their marriage.
I never not think (always thinking about something continuously) and my husband never thinks, are we normal?
It’s totally normal that you are not able to “not think”, but if he never thought anything, he wouldn’t be able to talk nor do anything that requires at least a tiny bit of thought. Humans just cannot “not think” all the time.