My husbands friend "touched" me. What do I do?
He casually flirts with me and my husband isn't aware of it. They're like best friends and grew up together. The other night he came over to celebrate his birthday and my husband was passed out. His friend was drunk and he tried to kiss me and i pushed him away. I'm very uncomfortable with this. I didn't tell my husband because I didn't want to ruin his relationship with his best friend. They're like brothers. What do I do? He also sends really weird innapropriate texts and blames it on alcohol.
My husband touched my best friend's sister Boob?
Last week I had to get out of the City for work, my best friend had a meeting at home because of her birthday, she invited my husband and my child, that night she texted me and said my husband was getting drunk and she was worried about my child, she texted me three times, When I came back home he told me he had a bad feeling about doing something wrong, he said he didn't remember Very well, but he thought he had touched my best friend's sister Boob When she close to him to say good bye, When he told me that I felt so angry with him, and embarrased about my friend, I asked him to call my friend and ask her if that really happened, next day When he called her, he told me that really happened, I felt so bad about his behaviour, I was so ashamed about it because all my friend's were at the meeting, I called my friend and asked her to tell me everything, she said that When she was saying good bye to a boyfriend, her sister came to her and took her arm, and extremely nervous she told her that my husband touched her Boob, then my husband was getting close and told her wait for me! I walked you, then this girl said, no I have to go! my husband told me that he kind of realized what he did and try to reach her to Ask if he had really done that and apologize to her, my friend stopped him and he couldn't Talk to this girl, but I feel so bad with my friend because her sister told her she got so offended, scared, she only got close to say good bye and he did that to her, I really don't understand why did he do that, he was too drunk but I don't justify him, he had never done something like that before, I've talked to some people and they have told me alcohol was involved in it, that he must try to Ask for help about this, my friend is so angry because he did that to her sister who is an adult as my husband, I don't really know what to do, I'm so mad at him, I told him he was the worst guy in the world, that he has a child, that was an abuse to this woman, because she didn't do anyting to deserve that, actually her child and my child are classmates and I can't even see her face at school, my husband apologized to my friend by telephone and asked her to say sorry to her sister, but I don't think this would be good enough, please tell me what should I do? What should my husband do, I'm so confused, he says he's really ashamed about it
Got too drunk with friend, got touchy and my husband got in between, is it considered cheating?
So my friend and I got too close while drinking and we started kissing and the whole touching went on but then my husband comes in and starts having sex with me and he got close to my friend and started touching her as well. It surprised me so I kind of stopped it bc I didn't think he would do it. Now I am feeling regretful and wish he never got involved at all. Feel like it's all my fault that he basically cheated on me in front of me and that my friend let it happen also. I feel so ashamed.
Husband was drunk and touched my friend?
Hello.. My husband and i have been married for 5 years bf and gf for 2 yrs. On his bday party we had his friends and my girl friends over. We were all pretty drunk. I have a friend that feels really bad about her self because of her weight lately when she drinks she starts yelling how bad she wabts some D**k and stuff like that. So she was sitting on the table playing with her boobs and my husband kinda like smacked/touched her boob. He told me he felt horrible about it and now she is saying he tried doing more than that. She was soo drunk. he has cried to me, begged on his knees to please believe him he has even texted her telling her to please think of what shes saying because he didnt do any if the other stuff she says. I have never ever seen him cry that way before. I have ppl that were there when she claims he was grabbing her and no one saw him doing what she says. 2 of my friends said she was flirting with him & he kept moving out of the way. I dont know what to think.
My husbands friend touched me inappropriately.?
At a get together last night at his home, my husbands friend (who was fairly drunk) grabbed my breast and made a "honk" noise. I did what I felt I needed to do and slapped him. His wife came over and instead of slapping him too told me to loosen up and what was the big deal AND that I owed him an apology for slapping him. My husband at least told him that he should not touch me ( I thought he should have decked him) and we left the party. My husband apologized for his friend and I did calm down. My questions are as follows. Did I overreact? Would you have laughed it off or slapped him too? If you were his wife, would you have gotten mad at him for touching me or would you have also told me to lighten up? I felt like I was in a room of adolescents!!
What would you do if your friend's husband said to you that he would like to touch your ass? He was drunk at that time.
Well, I’m probably drinking, too: I’d poke my butt out and tell him/her/they “That's something I can get behind”.Their more involved drunken intentions aren’t immediately relevant to me and making a joke of it is, for me, the best play. If there was more pressure after the quick butt squeeze, I’d decline - my interest in making a mess of things died in my teens - and I’d….get to the bottom of it later.People do dumb things & say dumb things & are generally at their dumbest when they drink & you’ve described someone who's had a few beyond prudence. Oops! It happens. That’s a time to deliver care. Maybe some other sound advice is to find the spouse/friend (or anyone, really) to help provide some care for the impaired & slow things down. I’d certainly look for backup (?) if there was more pursuit after the squeeze.If the squeezer was some kind of serial party-drunk butt squeezer, I’d channel my resulting offense into a more immediate public shaming. My butt is special & won't be disrespected.Would I tell the friend? Probably not. It's something for me and the squeezer to unpack as needed. If there is a relationship challenge there, I want to know. That's a topic for the morning after.Less advicey & more sincerely: If this spouse/SO is a habitually heavy drinker & always handsy when drinking, I’m going to be having words with both of them together. They’re my friends & would expect me to steadfastly call them out on it. I choose wisely when I commit to people & am in for the duration.
My husbands best friend tried to have sex with me while we were drunk.?
I think...threesome.
How do I deal with a friend’s accusations that my husband touched her inappropriately when I know he did not as he does not like her and never has but put up with her because she was my friend? How can a friend betray a friend like that?
Have you considered that she might be telling the truth? Do you really think that your friend would make something like that up, especially knowing that you would be unlikely to take her side? The reasons you give to support your husband's innocence actually do far more to convince me of his guilt. Why? When I was younger, I had this boyfriend who I tried to push on my friends. Unfortunately, one of my friends hated him and couldn't figure out what I saw in him. For his part, he found my friend unattractive and annoying. They were both quite vocal about their mutual dislike for each other. But oddly enough, within weeks of us breaking up, those 2 got together. They ended up staying together for years. Since then, I have noticed this over and over again. Your husband may actually dislike your friend, but that doesn't mean he didn't sexually assault her. Alternatively, he may have wanted you to believe he disliked your friend. It is far easier to convince a trusting wife that you would never touch a woman you claim to dislike. I would be very careful here. The most likely scenario is that your husband assaulted your friend, she got the courage to come to you, and your response has traumatized her further. Perhaps you and your friend should see a therapist together. I think it is extremely important for you to hear everything your friend has to say. If it makes you feel better, you could tell the therapist that you believe your friend is lying and allow a neutral party to help discover the truth.
Husband got angry with male friend who had his arm around my waist at a party. Is this considered disrespectful?
Friend or not, you don’t touch someone else’s partner.Hand/arm around waist, shoulders are social signals of possession. Leave that to the actual couple unless you are looking to antagonise the partner.Disrespectful?Yes, all around.
My friend and I were drunk. Later on, he started touching me. He says he can't remember and that I made it up. Could that be true?
No, you didn't make it up. This is not an uncommon story. Most people who sexually touch someone under influence claim to not remember it or flat out deny it ever happening, especially when it was met with rejection like in your case. Alcohol gave them the liberty to act on their desires in ways they wouldn't when sober. When they are being rejected, it leads to cognitive dissonance: they didn't really want to anyway. Maximize this idea and you'll get denial or twisting the story, like your friend did. Note, it's very possible he did get drunk enough that he didn't remember, but that doesn't make it any less true. For the other party, those that get touched against their will, in some cases they turn into survival mode with senses working better. Like the adrenaline that makes you sober up when something dangerous happens. So if you're looking for who's story is more accurate, I'd say yours. But more than anything, the fact that you question your own memory shows you have more rationale than he does concerning this particular incident. Don't let someone bully you into a lie. (PS if anyone has an actual psychological/biological evidence for what I'm saying here, please add or correct!)