Cute ways to show my boyfriend more affection?
I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 16. We've been together for a little over one month now and we are crazy about each other, but I have a problem! I have such a hard time showing him affection BECAUSE IM SO SCARED TO. He shows my afffection a lot, such as putting his arm around me while we're watching TV, he holds my hand all the time (whether we are walking somewhere or if we're just sitting in the movie theater), and he kisses me a lot too. It's just a quick peck on the lips though, but it's still really sweet. I feel really bad because I have probably only kissed him first like 3 times since we've been dating and I don't want him to think that I don't like kissing him or whatever. I really just want to be able to snuggle up with him when we're on the couch, or just kiss him whenever we're really close to each other. He does it all the time to me, but I'm always so scared to do it to him. He says that it doesn't bother him that I don't really show him that much affection because he knows that I'm shy and he thinks it's cute. He's really shy too, and we are very straight forward with each other. We don't really like being spontaneous that much right now because it's too scary for us! Hahahaha, after all he IS my first boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend he's had since 7th grade. So I guess I'm his first actual girlfriend and yeah. I would just like to know what I could do to show my boyfriend that I love him and make him feel special like he always makes me feel special. I don't want him to be the only one that ever makes the first move, because I want our relationship to be fair and have both of us putting the effort in, even when it just comes to holding hands. So please help! What are some really cute ways to show my boyfriend affection? Hugging, kissing, cuddling, whatever! Thank you everyone :)
My girlfriend says I don't show her enough affection. How can I improve on this?
I can tell you from experience that couples can be baffled by their partner's request for "more." I was in a long relationship where both of us gave the other a lot, but neither felt satisfied because what we were willing to give was not what the other valued or wanted. So we gave and gave while we starved.So, you need to listen to your girlfriend when tells you want she wants. Do NOT (I cannot stress this enough) take what she tells you and turn it into a checklist, another joyless task on your to-do list. She'll end up completely unsatisfied, and you'll end up impatiently asking her what she wants now, since you're giving her what she asked for. But you won't be if you don't actually see and listen to her with a willingness to understand what she's telling you. If she's asking you for things that you can't give her, tell her that, that you simply don't have the capacity for it. It doesn't mean that she's asking too much; it only means that you can't give it to her. There is no blame accrued to either person.If she seems needy it may be that she's insecure, or it may be that you're giving your best to your work and your life-building. (I have to ask if she's part of that life-building? If not, why not?) Save some of your best for her. Don't just give her the leftovers. If you feel that you're already doing it, maybe it's time to have a long reassuring talk, using "I" statements. (If you don't know what I mean, I'd be happy to elaborate.) And don't forget to tell her what you need from her; not in exchange, this isn't a quid pro quo situation, but the kind of attention and support that makes you feel loved and safe.This is a process that isn't done once and finished. It continues as a relationship evolves, so if you can make it part of your normal communication, then it doesn't have to be a big deal, and both of you will feel confident enough to trust the other.
Why does my boyfriend not show affection???
Later in life you will come to realize that love is much more than kissing or holding hands. Just because people kiss and hold hands in public don't mean they are in love. As I look back on my youth I realize moments where I thought I was in love was in reality, nothing more than infatuation. Infatuation is tricky because it will have you believing that you are in love. True love takes time and cannot be rushed or forced. When two people are really in love, they don't have to kiss or hold hands in public for the world to know they are in love. The public will be able to tell just by seeing how happy they are just being together. Remember, love is also showing patience. You are the first girl your BF has bought around his friends and he is probably feeling just a little awkward. Give him time. It is all a part of growing up. I am sure in the end that you guys will be fine. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and God bless.
My dad shows no affection... Plz help this really hurts!?
I think you're overthinking this a little too much. I can't remember the last time my father told me that he loves me. When I read through your post- I felt like I was reading about my family. My parents don't express their love with words either. But they always joke and laugh with us. They buy us things. Sometimes I feel like they don't love me. But the more I think about it I understand that they would not have done what they did to me if they don't love me. The way people convey their emotions varies from one person to another. Maybe that's the way how your dad shows it and as you said he treats everyone the same way including your mother- so it's not like he's isolating you from the rest. And it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. So... And if you're really upset about this and you feel like you can't rest until it's resolved I think you should talk to your father.
My boyfriend is too physically affectionate?
We’ve been in a serious relationship for about 3 years. At first the affection was appreciated and loved by me. I’m a moderately affectionate partner. I like to hold hands, I usually like to kiss, I like to cuddle sometimes when watching a movie but DAMN DUDE! I need some personal space. I don’t want to constantly be touched. Sometimes is really nice but ALL THE TIME is overkill. I’ve found I get annoyed quickly with him because I feel closterphobic (spelling?) around him. I’ve discussed it with him before and it’s helped for a about a week but then it goes right back to too much. It’s not just normal cuddling it’s me getting cooking dinner and he’ll come over and grab/hug me and hold me. I get annoyed because I’m f’ing in the middle of something. We will watch a movie and I’ll be super tuned into it and he’ll say “come here” he wants me to lay down with him on the couch. I’m busy watching a movie and laying down side by side on a couch isn’t comfortable. I feel it’s so much and it’s emotionally taxing me. I feel drained and I feel at times like I want him to leave my house. No joke it takes him like 20 minutes to leave AFTER he says goodbye. I don’t want to spend 20 minutes hugging and saying goodbye. Has anyone else experienced something like this? What did you do?
Girls how do u deal with a VERBALLY unaffectionate boyfriend?
Before becoming official a month ago we dated for many many months..My boyfriend is awesome without a doubt. He's really sweet and physically affectionate. He always kisses me and holds my hand and does sweet things but as a girl you know, it's always nice to hear things. My bf and I haven't been together that long (a month) but he often leaves me wondering if he would ever tell me he loves me one day. I'm used to another guy who was physically and verbally affectionate so while this guys amazing it's still hard for me ESP since well see each other like one or two days a week (we live n hour apart) and never talk on the phone- only text.
Why does my girlfriend show less attention/affection?
So I have been with my girl for 4 months now... The first 3 months the attraction level and interest was very high, for both of us. It has always been a little one sided where I show most the interest, but it was always manageable. Now the interest level has seemed to decline. We both live an hour away from each other and go to different colleges (we see each other almost every weekend). At first we used to kiss all the time, hold hands all the time, etc... Now we just cuddle, a lot, which I love, but whenever we hold hands now, its just a weak hold, etc. Things seem like they are slowly declining. It seems to be all about her now, I do sexual favors for her, nice things, cute things, etc all the time. I send her flowers, try to hold her hand, write her letters, literally give her my heart and all my effort, when she barely shows affection back... I always send her goodnight texts and morning texts, and they seem more of a chore now because she doesn't seem to appreciate them like she used to. What is going on? I feel like I give her too much attention. When I give her less, she gets upset and starts acting more affectionate towards me, I don't get it. What is going on? The other day I said, you rarely kiss me on the lips anymore, and instead of saying "No" or defending herself, she just kissed me on the lips back. Am I just giving her too much attention? And should i back off? Please help. Should I back off on the attention, and give her some space? Make her work for me a bit? Also, she texts me less now daily (maybe because she is busy a lot more), rarely texts when she goes out but calls at the end of the night, and she rarely calls or skypes at night anymore, which is essential in a Long Distance relationship. Am I worrying about nothing, or is my worry justified? I used to get so much affection and attention from her... Now its COMPLETELY OPPOSITE
I feel like my girlfriend doesn't reciprocate the affection I show her, is it because I do it too much?
Its like I am always the one who initiates the holding hand, always the one that hugs first. I always touch her and caress her and she would just sit there and do nothing sometimes. I would have to say the only time she initiates is when she gives the good night kiss because I am the one that leaves the train first. Why doesn't she give back affection? I mean she does show affection, but its rare? Do you think its because I am always giving her affection and she has nothing to work for?
My boyfriend doesnt give me as much attention and affection as he use to? Should i be scared or am i crazy?
u are not crazy. girl, let me tell you its going to always be "lovey dovey" in the beginning, always! because it fresh relationship, its new, and you're still trying to get with that person. but after a while it will slow down. i totally understand that us women are more sensitive and we want attention from our men but it will never be like it was in the beginning, i think you are being confuse right now cause it has transition from the puppy love to what is now. but it will be like that, and its true he doesn't need to do that stuff to prove he loves you, he did that in beginning cause he was trying to get with you, now that he has it he doesn't have to "try" anymore, get what im saying. YES, it be nice for these guys to still show some attention, but i truly believe that if u both know each other enough and love each other enough those little things doesn't matter. but i understand girls are always looking for attention but u have to understand from a "guy" point of view they done show emotions like us females. and trust me if he was too clingy or jealous u wouldn't want to be with him either. lol u will only get one of the other, as long as you no he loves you and have good intentions for you thats all u need. dont worry, its normal. i no we as people are always looking for re-insurance but dont worry its all part of being in a relationship.