My 19 yr. old son is not motivated by ANYTHING! HELP!!!?
hi there, my 19 year old son doesn't work, isn't going to school and still lives at home! i've tried everything i can think of to get him to get a job and live a normal life for a person his age but nothing seems to work. he lacks motivation of ANY kind at all whatsoever. all he likes to do is wake up late, hang out at home doing nothing while i'm at work or go hang out with his buddies and smoke pot. that's it!!!! he doesn't contribute at all at home and getting him to help with chores is like pulling teeth!!! i've threatened, pleaded, begged, had "serious talks" with him, i've yelled, i've talked in a kind manner, i've told him how concerned i am, i've threatened to kick him out, etc. you name it, i've tried it. i'm pretty much at my wits end. so last night after a long day at work, i came home to find the house in pretty much the same condition it was when i left and told him to clean up a bit and that was it. i didn't yell or anything, but i told him that he has 2 weeks to get a job or he has to move out. where to? i have no idea. i'm heartbroken over this, as well as stressed out to the absolute max. has anyone else out there gone through the same thing with their teenage/young adult children? i had my son when i was somewhat still young, i was 21 when i had him so our age difference isn't so much that i'm "out of touch" with his issues/ideas, etc. we used to be soooo close and about a year ago he started smoking pot and drinking occasionally. i tried not to over-react and would tell myself that it was somewhat "normal" for him to experiment with this. he doesn't really care for drinking much and doesn't really drink much at all, but he LOVES smoking pot and that's pretty much all he thinks about. honestly, i don't really have a huge issue with him smoking occasionally but i wish he would GET A JOB!!!! any advice would really be appreciated, thanks!!!
HELP! I am being forced to wear things I don't want to wear!?
I am 19,my girlfriend is 22. i just found out she was into bondage/fetish stuff which i didn't mind too much. it is now getting too far and she makes me wear latex stuff, gags and collars every night. if i refuse she says she'll leave me. i love her so much and want to satisfy her but its going too far! last night i had to wear this to bed http://www.honourclothing.com/product_info.php?cPath=80_88&products_id=6916 and saturday night this... http://www.honourclothing.com/product_info.php?cPath=80_84&products_id=6969 she's also making me wear 8" heels with padlocks on http://www.fantasyheels.co.uk/acatalog/lap_dancers_8_inch_stiletto_08.html i get that this may sound really REALLY weird but it IS happening to me and i'm not gonna talk to anyone about this face to face so this is the only way i can get advice. i do feel a bit used, but love her so much and don't know what the hell to do. I go to work with pain in my neck every day cos i had posture collar on all night
I don't want my baby anymore... please help?
Interesting. Yesterday you said you and your husband live in a nice 3 bedroom house (and you're 25) and you don't want your sister living with you: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqPcSmzMyHBezEXK2pgPSF_sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080904175653AAgJKDB Then yesterday, you said you are 16 weeks pregnant with twin boys, and you have a 7 year old step daughter: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmC_ziO_9hCm_srkfgoRS17sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080904180526AAt12hN Then earlier today, you said 'ALL your kids are brats': http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aksg58aTh9x4TFgVHTUU_cHsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080905174949AASs2yh ..your '14 year old daughter' .. etc. ODD that a 19 yr. old can have a 14 yr. old daughter? Then, a few hours ago you said 'Kalan is 8' and you are 27: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmLc8mmI68khsWUJyHT3hFPsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080906085520AAx64hx I think you have an over active imagination and entirely too much time on your hands. You should get a hobby (or write a short novel) instead of making up all these silly fictitious questions .. Good luck with your future endeavors.
Don’t want to be alive?
I’m a 19 year old female loser. No driving license, no car, no job, no GCSEs (failed them all and got U grades), no friends, ugly & fat, no boyfriend, no job because no one will give me a chance, barely any job experience, don’t get on with family at all. I’m in college doing fitness stuff & getting an employability qualification, it’s a Military prep college but I won’t pass the medical for the Army so I cancelled my application. No family wants anything to do with me, they won’t even accept a friend request on Facebook, I might as well be dead because I don’t mean anything to anyone, no one would care if I dropped dead, I don’t value my life at all just like no one else does. I only live for my pets. I know others have it worse before anyone says anything but it’s not like I can change that and yes I am 19 but I’ve been through more than most people have in 19 years of living, my life is hell and things only get worse every single year. Shall I kill myself? I have no future. I don’t stand a chance in life.
I'm 19 and not allowed to do anything...?
Well, the most important question is, what would your mother do if you ignored her? 1. If she would kick you out and you would have no way to support yourself through college, then you'll have to do as she says. My suggestion in this case would be to spend time at a part-time job, and/or doing sports, or studying. If you can get a job that would involve late shifts, then she may gradually get used to your being gone at night. The bottom line would be to be out so much that she would have no idea what you're doing. Also, I think you'd be happier and healthier if you spent more time away from her control. What you're describing about her is not normal. She sounds mentally ill. At 19, you are an adult and she has no right to tell you how to live your personal life (as long as you aren't bringing guests she doesn't like back to her house). 2. If she would complain, but not kick you out, ignore her. Stop arguing with her. Simply do as you like. When she argues about your decisions, simply say, "I'm an adult. I'm going to see my friends. I'll be back later." Leave the room when the drama starts. Don't waste your life stuck at home. Try to get out and live it. Good luck.