He's 45 years old and fell in love with a 17 year old?
There is this guy that lives next to me that told me today that he has fallen in love with a 17 year old girl and that he plans to divorce his wife. What in the world is happening to Men nowadays, I think it is sick?
I love a girl who is divorced and 9 years older than me. My parents are against this relationship. How can I convince my parents?
You don’t say how old you are so I will assume you are a consenting adult. I am 15yrs older than my husband, I am 61 & he is 46. My oldest daughter is 41, & my middle daughter is 35. My daughters were completely against this marriage as well as my parents & siblings being totally unaccepting of it. I kept hearing he was using me & what a mistake I was making. My parents said he would never be allowed in their home or welcome at any family function. I let them all know it was my life. I married him, took my daughters & moved 3 states away. We’ve been married 21yrs & have a 19y/o daughter together. With time, patience & understanding my older girls realized he wasn’t trying to replace their deceased dad. They have a great friendship now, but true to my parents word he has never been accepted by them. My father passed away in 2015 & I attended his funeral (alone). Neither my husband nor our daughter was mentioned in his obituary. My father had only met my youngest daughter twice. I go visit my mom & siblings every couple of yrs (alone) & speak to my mom every couple of months. We never discuss my husband, & she doesn’t care to hear about her granddaughter I had with him. Do I regret my decision? Not at all. Am I happy? Very much so. You as an adult need to do what makes you happy NOT what makes your parents happy.Good Luck.
Im 44 years old and she is 52. I like her so much. She is divorced, I’m a widower. What’s your take on this?
I would want to know everything about the divorce. I would even want to speak with the ex.I would even look up her background. Police report. And certainly how many divorces she has had.Even then, she’s quite a bit older, and that would concern me. Women that much older, sometimes…… start treating you like an adult son, rather than a husband.You think it would be ok now, but wait until she starts talking down to her adult son when looking it you. It will drive you absolutely nutz.But…. if everything checks out, and she has a good attitude, it can work out.The only other thing of concern is, does she have any dealings with the ex. Because if she’s still dealing with the ex, then you need to understand that marrying her, means you are marrying the ex. That ex she has… is now your ex. Trust me.So you need to know if the ex is involved in her life, because then he’s going to be involved in YOUR life. Are you really ready to deal with that? If not, move on.
Is it true divorced men over 50 don't remarry?
Well, as already stated, there are no absolutes when it comes to these kinds of questions. And of course, many men in this age group would give the example of George Clooney and say, nononono that is not true at all!But reality will eventually sink in! Your chances are not all that great! First, a divorce at this age will set you back financially. Emotionally. Health-wise. You most likely will lose a few years until you get your act together again.Only to find out that after 50, on average - you are on your way out for most attractive women. Sure, you can always try to marry someone of your age or above, somebody who was never married, maybe. But do you really want that? It will take an extra effort on your side to keep yourself attractive for dating again. Like getting rid of that beer belly, shaping up otherwise so you do not lose your breath when trying to kiss. Getting a new set of clothes and working on the issues that got you divorced in the first place. I happen to think that most divorced men do not get there because their exes are some sort of selfish witches.That does not mean that you should never divorce. But the hope to remarry soon is not one of them. Certainly there are way more guys my age out there that are left behind and lonely than those that get a second relationship going. After all, these establishments with the red lights outside are doing a brisk business and their best clients are - men my age! At least that is what is being said in surveys here in Switzerland.But those that get successful with their second relationship not always remarry! They just have a girlfriend.
How many people committ suicide after divorce?
It's not the lost love I think. It's a matter that simply I'm 46 years old. I gave up most ofthe things I wanted to do or be in my life for the sake of just maintaining a marriage. I made a mistake in my original text. My wife was quite a bit younger than I, not older. Many of the options in the world are closed to older guys like me. I hate searching for jobs, to work just forthe sake of making a livingfor myself. It's actually beneath me. And I don't want to get married again. A woman in my age group would have a grown child or two most likely and an ex-husband roaming around somewhere. I'd rather be on my own. Thank you for your words of encouragement.
How many people found their soulmate after a divorce?
Since over 80% of divorces involve people who were under the age of 24, which is when a female matures, it is possible. But, there is a very high repeat factor. My mother met my stepfather on Thursday and they were married on Saturday. That was 49 years ago. It would not have lasted more than a few years, except for one thing. They became Jehovah's Witnesses. Family is the center of the structure of the belief. My older sisters, as well as my step brother and sister, were a constant cause of friction. They play the parents against each other. The economy was in recession, due to Vietnam, jobs were scarce, and my stepfather was in arrears in his child support. My father didn't pay any support, and when he died as a result of a medical accident while in the hospital, I was specifically excluded as a recipient of any award. I did see my Uncle and Grandmother a lot, but not my father. Here's something I wrote about my stepfather in 2005: APPRECIATION FOR JOB WELL DONE IS WHAT FATHERS WANT TO HEAR http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20050619
I'm 32 years old and never been in a long-term relationship. Is that strange?
No it’s not strange at all. My son is now 49 years old. He got married at 29. Now you would think that was old enough to know what you are doing, but no he just threw out his wife. ( they have a 16 year old daughter). He and the daughter continuously walked on egg shells everything they said my daughter in law flew in a rage. Age really has little to do with love. But you must have that I will die for you love, that I can’t live without you. LOVE, that you are the Quench ofmy thirst. That kind of love is hard to come by., but it can happen at 16,19,21,49,62 any age.Don’tsettle For anything less.if you never find that kind of love, well You are better off single. Being trapped and unhappy is pure hell on earth. No one should settle for it. There’s other things that can bring happiness. Music, art friends. I will admit loneliness is bad. But hell is worse.