Am i bad friend?
i'm 21 and i never had a friend but i do now but i do now and i keep messing things up. i ghosted her but we made up then i called her a hoe and now i told her that we can be friends for 2 more years. I know this all makes me sound like a bad person but im not i have really bad trust issues and horrible self esteem that im too focused on trying to erase myself from the world.
What do I do if I have bad friends?
I'm a freshman in high school and I've been friends with the same group of people ever since I moved into this town which has been about 3 years. They've been my "clique" you could call it, for a really long time. However, I've noticed that the aren't really good friends, and it took me this long to realize it. They're never here when I need help or support, but when they need it, I'm always there for them. They come to me when they need something but when I need something they leave. Also their mothers are really rude. For example, when I desperately needed a ride home, friend 1's mom was too lazy to drive me and when she did, she said straight to my face "I will not drop you home ever again, this is the only time I'm doing this, do not ask again." This was very rude of her to say, and even she knows it. Plus, friend 1 always has a problem with everything I do and makes fun of me for everything and criticizes me a lot. Friend 2 also has a mom that called my mom and screamed at her because I asked her for a ride and said some very rude and insulting things that I should not write here. That same friend only wants to be around when I'm happy, but hides away when I'm upset or in need of help. However both these friends come to me all the time when they need something and I'm always there, which I hate about myself but I'm too nice to do what they do to me. Unfortunately, these "friends" are the ones I'm closest to and they're part of my huge clique that I've been in for a while now, so I can't just leave. I have 2 other friends that are good to me that are in this group. But I can't just leave friend 1 and 2 because I've been close to them for so long now and I see them most out of all my other friends. I'm not good at making new friends, and none of the other cliques want me or talk to me. I'm stuck and I don't know what to do.
Why am I such a bad friend?
You say your heart feels like it is shut off. Maybe it's just numbed as by asking this question you must have some hope for a future with better relationships. You sound like you believe at least to some degree that most or all the break downs were your fault. Are there things you or they could've done differently? Sure, but there's no point thinking about it now unless it's to change your future. You know one thing that will definitely happen if you become one of those 'blessed people in a cemetery' you mentioned? You will no longer have a chance at a nice life. Sure it sucks when your relationships break down with family. However there are lots of good people out there. Just do your best to find them once your ready. Remember to be open to it and not to project previous relationships onto new ones. Hey, if it doesn't work out. You've been through it before and should be more prepared for it. You're 19 too so you have plenty of time to turn your life around. Giving up is always out of fear. If you're not afraid of death then why should you be afraid of life? Look for the signs of incompatibility in people if they are there and make sure they're real. You've been hurt badly and you even said yourself it's just a matter of time before things go bad with any new friends you get. Treat every new relationship as what it is. A new start. I know this probably sounds like feel good crap. But it is your right as a human being to live a happy life. Go out there and find it.
I'm such a bad friend?
I have that best friend that everyone wants. That you can do anything with and talk to anything about. She's probably the best friend I've ever had, and I don't know how she still puts up with me. I got really annoyed at her this week for stupid reasons and I ended up telling someone that she self harms. I KNOW! Please don't tell me I messed up big time because I know I did and I know it's al my fault. She knows I told her and she still wants to be my best friend and she puts in effort to our friendship that's why it's lasted for years. Now she probably thinks I'm the worst and that she can't trust me and that's probably true but I just love her so much and I'm the worst friend ever and I just want to give her everything because she puts up with me and ugh. How do I stop talking bad about people when I'm annoyed? it's kind of my addiction
How would I know if I am a bad friend?
If your friend ask a pair of jeans and you give him the brand new one, you are a bad friend.If you go out for a meal and you propose to pay the bill, you are a bad friend.Your friend comes to you and ask lets go, you say 'where?' You are a bad friend.You both like the same girl and you say i'll back down, you are a bad friend.Your friend pulls a prank on you, and you get upset instead of plotting a revenge then you are a bad friend.Your friend asks his crush's no. and you didn't give him the the grumpiest lecturer's no. then you are a bad friend.Your friends plan to break into girls hostel and you say you need to prapare for test tomorrow, you are a bad friend.Your friend is working on a project and you decide to help instead of munching snacks infront of him, you are a bad friend.Your friend calls you at 3AM to tell you he has decided to bunk the morning class and you say you understand, you are a bad friend.Your friend got 100+ upvotes on quora and you don't ask for a treat, you have a heavy, dark, twisted, evil soul. P.S. If somebody says 'Let's do drugs' then stare him like crazy, say you're vegetarian and move on. Say No to Shit.
I'm a bad friend, how do I make it right?
I had this friend. And she was the greatest, and she meant the world to me. She's gone through a lot in her life and really all I wanted to do was help her, make her feel good about herself, since she doesn't seem to. Because I love her like I would love a sister. But...I messed up, badly. She recently became best friends with this girl, named Ashley. And naturally I'm very, very jealous. Which is probably my prime reason for disliking her, but she's also very rude and selfish. And I'm not sure if it was just me at the time, but it seemed like she liked to rub the new friendship in my face whatever chance she got. Which hurt and angered me all at once. And I would try to get my friend to see this, and I'm sure she did. I wanted my friend to do more about it. I wanted her to drop this Ashley as a friend, But they were becoming ever so close, and the more forceful I became, the more tensions came between us. And this upsetted me, but I felt like if I didn't force things to go my way then I'd be alone in the end. I have a serious fear of being alone, So I'd bug her to hang out with me, to talk to me, to do something that might revive our friendship in some almost-impossible miraculous way. Until one day. I mean, I already said mean things that hurt her and stuff. But this one day, I pushed it by getting a friend of mine, and we....did damage. At the time, it felt right. I felt like my friend deserved every last bit of it for drifting from me, and hurting me so much. And besides, I had told myself, she did bad things to you too. But I know when I'm wrong, and I started realizing what I had done literally the next day. I can't help it sometimes. I'd feel so evil and mean and do things that I know I'll regret and yet I still do them. It's really not how I am but it happens. Now, I have no idea where we stand. I doubt we're friends right now. She deleted me on Facebook, she got her number changed (but that part I doubt was my doing) and the last time I texted her....it didn't go so well. But I don't want her to hate me. Even though she should, and has all rights to, I don't want her to hate me. I want her to know I'm sorry. How do I do that??
Am I a bad person - why do I have no friends?
So I ask this beacause I genuinely have NO friends. In the past I was okay-ish with a couple of people and eventually we got to be almost friends but then they would drop it and never see me again. I was bullied for 6 years in school and my self esteem was destroyed due to that, then in high school I changed schools 4 times and in college I also changed universities 3 times. So I think that's why I have no long-term friends. My family doesn't help, they are overprotective and we argue a lot. I am a nice 20 year old female, I have good looks, I had one boyfriend, once. I don't have a charismatic personality but I am nice enough, I can really commit to people if they need and I'm very, very altruistic, I would give awa my own shirt if a friend was cold. I never lie, I never badmouth people, I'm just terribly shy. So I just don't get why people hate me.
Is this a bad friend? Or am I overreacting?
I have this friend I've known since grade school. I was his best man in his wedding. We've always been cool. Problem is, his wife deletes girls off his facebook page, including my girlfriend. I take offense to it, because I want to know what the deal is. I approached his wife about it and she said she didn't do it. So a year later it happens 2 more times. My friend admits that it is his wife that does it. Apparently shes on his facebook often. Keep in mind, there is nothing between my friend and my girlfriend. We barely ever talk to his wife, because she doesn't want to talk to us. I approach my friend and he just shakes it off and says, "Just let my wife be. It's all good. She gets like that sometimes." So I tell him, "you don't need to add her again if this is going to keep happening." Am I overreacting? Because I plan on marrying her one day, but I don't want to be around this drama they cause. She can't even apologize to us or explain to us that it's not a big deal.
I'm really bad at making friends?
Like.. I can meet people but I can't get close to them or hang out with them. I have like 3 friends that I talk to on a regular basis.. other ones I'll start getting close to but then it just fades away and I don't know how to change it. I try to ask them to hang out and we will sometimes but then they seem like they don't really care to ever ask me to hang out. I feel lonely and unloved but at the same time I just want to be by myself a lot. I wish social things came naturally for me like they do for a lot of people. I have to work extra hard just to make a friend and in the end it's for nothing because we end up growing apart. please help, i need to learn how to be closer to people if it helps any, i get really nervous around people. I'm constantly biting my nails and thinking of what I look like and what they think of me