How can an unemployed single mother get housing?
I am a single mother without a job. My sperm donor tells me that I must move out his house by next month. I have no where to go. I know that the government can help me. I just dont know how to go about getting help I had to edit this for those who like to judge without knowing the full details....First when I say sperm donor I do not mean my child's father, I mean my father. Secondly I have been looking for a job way before I knew i was going to be homeless...Third point is it would not be a long term thing because I am in school and i am almost through with my nursing degree...Meaning in the next year and a half I would have a career...My grandparents are dead...My other family live very far not close to my school so there is nowhere else I can go. Unless you have walked in my shoes do not judge me just answer the damn question and if you do not know the answer keep it moving. Thank you....I live in Dutchess County, New york
Would you date a single mother?
I have had relations with a beautiful girl a year older than me. We just spoke today for the first time in about a year. We were doing well and at the time she had one kid. She is a wonderful mother and her kid is a sweetheart. She is everything that I wanted. We cooked some kick ass dinner and played with her kid until he went to sleep. Once he would go to sleep we would watch movies and go to sleep. With as much as I work, I couldn't picture a better Saturday night.Things kept going well until the father of her child wanted a second chance. She came over one afternoon and cried her eyes out telling me that she was sorry but it's the best for her kid. I was upset but I fully understood and encouraged her to do what is best for her child. We stopped talking until she called me about 2 months after she got back with the father of her child. She called to tell me she was pregnant. Normally I am all for sex. I'm a man, that's all we care about right? I told her that I wouldn't have sex with her until I knew we were exclusive and her child wasn't around. Because of this we never had sex so I knew the child wasn't mine. She was pregnant with the boyfriend she has just got back with. Now she has 2 kids and wants to pick up where we left off.I'm not sure the exact reasoning behind it, but I do not have desire to continue pursuing anything with her. Nothing past friendship level. I honestly don't know if it is because she has two kids now or if it is because I'm worried she will just cut me off again.I would date a female with 1 child that wasn't planned. Any more than that would be iffy, but I am a 20 year old trying to figure life out. I need to worry about my own life before I worry about a woman with 2 kids.
I find stay-at-home mothers annoying?
I don't know. The ones that I've met are just really annoying: they are for one, very easily offended if you say something bad about anything related to their kids (ie, the kids high school is bad); they seem to have NO independent life whatsoever; and they are lazy and just really annoying. My own mother was a SINGLE mother who worked FULL time and right now she's still working full time. (I'm currently living away at university). I really respect her full that. She also bought her own house on her own salary. I think stay at home moms are just really annoying..what do you think?
Dating a single mom...... How do men think of a single mother and dating?
Everyone has their own ideas, but I'd have to say that for some men, kids are a turn-off. They simply aren't ready to consider parenthood at this point in their lives. It can be more complex, of course. When I was single, I had no problem dating single moms...until I actually began a relationship with one and ended up really liking the kid. He was like 3 or 4, and we got along great. He was smart and funny and I really looked forward to seeing him. But...I wasn't getting along as well with his Mom anymore. She and I grew apart, and it really hurt me because not only did I miss the kid, but she would tell me (of course) that he was asking about me and stuff. It broke my heart....much more than breaking up with the girl did. So, after that, I chose not to date women with kids. It was only ironic because I'd heard from other friends of mine how they'd break up with girls they liked because the girl's kids didn't like them, or they were just plain bad kids. But, in my case, the kid was awesome, and I didn't want to go through that pain again if things didn't work out with the Mom. So, yes...a single Mom with a kid will scare away some guys. Usually it's the fear of becoming an "instant parent" or the unpleasantness that normally accompanies dealing with the child's biological father as the 'new boyfriend'. It can suck- especially if the kid's Dad is a jerk who still has feelings for the Mom or something...or if he's an addict or whatever and makes a habit of stopping by whenever he feels like it, or when he's drunk or high or whatever. Ask me how I know these things....! LOL Also, as a guy who's dating a girl, you'd like to be "priority one" in her life for awhile. You'd like to feel like the most important person in her life. But, if she has a kid, that will never be the case (unless she's a bad mom, which is another reason to leave her.) Things are just MUCH simpler with a girl who doesn't have children. Sure, sometimes things work out, where the guy loves the girl AND her kids, and the kids love the guy, and the girl's ex (kid's Dad) is really cool, and everyone gets along famously. But honestly, that's pretty rare.
Which military branch can a single mother join?
Despite your circumstances joining the military is never a bad option. I know for a fact that you can join Air Force active duty as a single mother. While you are in basic and tech school you will have to have someone take care of your child though. Basic i think now is 8 weeks in San Antonio Tx and tech school can be at 1 of prolly a good half dozen or more bases and can last 4wks- >52wks depending on what you do. What are you goals? I have been active duty AF for the past 10 years and can answer just about any question you can have. Guard and reserves have the same training requirements, but once you are done you only drill one weekend a month and 2 weeks in the simmer and thatd be the only time youd have find some one to take care of your child. I am no recruiter, but can give you a true low down on how things are. I forgot to mention that you will need to provide a family care plan (meaning you will have to have some one take care of your child in case of deployment). if you are unable to then that may become an issue that will prevent you from joining. Addition: Why dont whoever gave me the thumb down speak up? I stated nothing but facts. What is wrong with that? The military is not a bad life and i know many single mothers from neighbors to Airman that i have supervised that make it just fine.
Single Mother...Do We Have a Chance to Find Love AGAIN!!!?
I am a single mother, for the past couple of years I have given the dating scene a shot and well it seems that when I am ready and I think I have found "the One" I get turned down. In all honesty, us "Single Moms" do we have a chance of even find someone that loves, you cares for you and even wants to be part of your childs life. ????
Single mother w/ 2 kids: Better off making $40,000 a year or $7 an hour?
I am trying to prove that a single mother of two who makes $40,000 a year has less disposable income that a single mother of two who makes $13,000 a year and takes advantage of social programs. I am looking for problems/unconsidered factors with my calculations. I am assuming that neither mother receives support for her children. Mother # 1 Starting Salary- $40,000 (approx. $22 an hour) Minus 15% in taxes $34,000 Monthly take home pay = approx $2800 2 children $2800 Minus $1000 for mortgage Minus $1000 for childcare Minus $150 for power Minus $50 for telephone Minus $150 for children’s health insurance Expendable income for food, clothing, and entertainment= $400 Mother # 2 Starting Salary- $13,000 (approx. $7 an hour) Effectively no taxes Monthly take home pay = approx $1000 2 children $1000 No rent/mortgage because of Section 8 No childcare costs because of free day care vouchers $50 in power because of “need based pricing” No payment for health insurance because of Medicaid Expendable income for food, clothing, and entertainment= $950 I did not include cell phones, cable TV, etc. because those are optional. I am trying to keep it to as few variables as possible. Thanks for any suggestions!