Can I use my husbands short term disability?
This may seem like a silly question. I am on my husbands health insurance through his company. My employer is very small and doesn't offer insurance. If I were to get pregnant could I file for STD under my husbands work? Does anyone know of any companies that offer maternity insurance privately? I had AFLAC but my new employer doesn't offer it and my old employer didn't pay the proper amount so they dropped me and I can't get the short term disability without an employer.
Is it wrong to cheat on a disabled spouse?
I read this article and i was speechless ...it is easy to say one should not cheat his/her disabled spouse but practically it is not possible ...i would like to advice her that she has choice to live her life as she want but it would be better if she makes some arrangement for her ex husband ...He is her moral responsibility . Suppose if her son would have been in her husband 's place then whatevr help she would have given to her son ,same is required for her ex husband.
What can I do for my pleasure now that my husband is disabled and I've wasted a year of what's left of my life sitting around making sure he's alright?
I am troubled that you think your year has been wasted looking after your husband.That may be associated with the issue of your pleasure.I have the impression that you are referring to sexual pleasure, although I am not sure. I have comsidered my comments in the context of either.I also don't know the nature and seriousness of the disability.Usually there is a way around disability so a couple can both enjoy life’s pleasures. Sometimes that is not possible.If it is not possible, are you able to discuss the issue with him? Maybe not. Maybe he is not aware of what you are doing.I would never demand that a person live a celibate life or a life without just because their life partner was completely unable to share.If I were contemplating a life in which sexual participation or other shared pleasure were permanently denied me I would be inclined to give my partner permission to seek pleasure elsewhere. If that meant having an affair I would understand. I do not believe our species or the concept of marriage excludes that option. The religious view of marriage is one I believe is incorrect in this respect.If you have truly tried everything to enjoy pleasure with your husband and it has not worked, then I would say you are morally free to seek it elsewhere.I know many will disagree, but they are simply wrong.
Should disabled men date date disabled women?
Disabled men should date women who they're compatible with, are attracted to and who feel the same way about them...just like everyone else does!
Why aren't there laws protecting disabled spouses being abandon by their husband or wife?
There is no such thing as putting a lien on your property for using food stamps or Medicaid! I don't know where you heard of this but it's incorrect. Only if you are on Medicaid do they put a lien on your property after death, if you still have the property and a nursing home or Assisted Living Facility was involved. There is no such lien for food stamps.
If your spouse became disabled would you stay or would you leave?
Hey George. I would not leave because I made a commitment and because I love him. I would help. Not gonna lie, I would have to find someone that I could have sex with, discretely, a regular partner. I would expect the same if my husband was faced with the same situation.
My wife has been disabled for 30 years and bedridden for 10 of those years. Is it wrong for me to seek intimacy elsewhere?
This is where the rubber meets the road. When you took, your vows, did you pay attention to the part “for better or worse”? This is the reality of those words. We never really think we are going to have to prove we meant it when we said “yes.” Or just how bad the worse can be.I recently saw a story on the news where a man who is a paraplegic due to a diving accident, proposed to his girlfriend. They had to tape the open ring box to his hand. The girl said yes. Who does that? Who could love someone so much they would sign in for a life of diaper changing and feeding a man, changing his catheter etc?. I will tell you, a woman who puts her love above her own interests. She loves him so much she will give up all the things most of us take for granted. She willingly signed up for this life. But you didn't. But you said you would when you married her. Were those just words? If the tables were turned how would you feel if she did this?I'm sure some would give their spouse their blessing under such circumstances. But I assure you they are a minority. I'm not a paraplegic and I'm not bedridden but I do have a challenging disability that made it impossible for me to have sex with my wife for five years. I was grateful she was so loyal to me that it never occurred to her to seek intimacy elsewhere. She meant it when she said “for better or worse”. Now she was proving it. If the tables were reversed I would do the same for her. So now you have to ask yourself is, are you are willing to do this for her? I would never judge someone in this situation but I think you would judge yourself.