I'm worried my boyfriend will hurt himself if i break up with him?
I'm in a relationship but i feel trapped, not free. I dont know what to do. I feel helpless. Most of the time when we talk he's depressed and angry, i want to be supportive and help him, but i can't...and his depression is bringing me down and making me depressed again. i dont want to leave him right now, but i sense i will soon, but im scarred of what he'll do when it comes. It's like his sub consciously holding me to emotional ransom. The thing is, he's going through a bad time right now...sometimes when i see him, hes like i was when i was depressed, he cries and screams, and punches himself in the face, im honestly worried he could kill himself if we brake up... and he keeps telling me hes in love with me, im the most important thing thats ever happened to him etc...so what kind of person would i be if i left him at this time in his life? if i say to him in my break up speech... "i just cant be brought down with you, i cant allow you to make me as depressed as i was" that would be honest, but im not oen of these people who brag about "telling it like it is". I think it would be a hurtful reason to leave him...are there any more delicate ones?
I'm worried that my boyfriend won't fit in me?
first off- he will fit. biologically we are designed to have sex, and were there's a will, there a way. but there are some things you can do to make the experience easier; 1. to prepare your vagina to be able to withstand a penis you should begin with something smaller than that. fingers are your best option. whether they are his, or yours- fingering your vagina will help loosen you up. you should make sure that you are able to withstand at least 3 fingers inside you comfortably. if you can't- hold of sex for another day or two and have him finger you to help prepare instead. 2. lube. Lube will make the experience easier. (and you can also use it if he fingers you). this will make it easier to have sex, and less pain full. lubricated condoms are also a big plus ( you should make sure you have some form of birthcontrol) sex for the first time is different for everyone, some it is very painful, others it is not. the best way to avoid pain is by trying to get your vagina use to larger things inside it- you can even pop your hymen with fingers instead of his penis- that may make sex less painful. any way you do it, remember to use birthcontrol!
My boyfriend keeps blaming himself and I'm extremely worried about him?
My boyfriend has always had a little problem with putting himself down...From everything thats happened in his past with his abusive childhood and how his parents were he will often blame himself for everything they did and everything that happened. What really worried me also, is sometimes he has the thought that "He's not good enough for me, He thinks of me as an angel and that I might just be too good for him" He's said this before, but I denied that and just explained nobody in my life has made me happier then he has, he's perfect to me. There been times were he would totally break down into tears and get completely emotional with me, a couple times randomly and he would talk about how he grew up so fast and how I'm the only one he has, how we are already living together in our own place. On Christmas we celebrated together, just the 2 of us. He doesn't really "have" a family anymore and I don't exactly have many family members either. I made him a scrapbook of everything we've ever done together and with over 1000 pictures and immediatly hugged onto me and just started to cry telling me how happy he was to be with me and trying to explain how much he loved me but all the crying made alot of it a little hard to follow but I totally understood him! It just really worries me when he blames himself, puts himself down and when he will sometimes get the thoughts he isn't good enough to be with me. He's EXTREMELY sensitive on the inside I'd say his heart was more fragile than glass...He is 4 and a half years younger(17) than me, him bing younger I just hope that isn't what is causing him to think I'm too good for him... What are some things I can try and do to help him not have those thoughts how he will often blame himself?
My boyfriend gets extremely worried/nervous when I am going through anything that may cause ME pain or turmoil. Could it be that he is a very empathetic person or am I possibly emotionally abusive?
I don't know you or your boyfriend very well and this is kind of a general question to be asking without details offered and I'm not saying your question is wrong I just simply don't know the details but I'm going to be very honest with you my first instinct was concerned about his reaction to your pain and turmoil and it makes me think that he could potentially be a manipulative individual and not you that is my first instinct and I don't want you to quote me on that or go with that or start blaming him for things that I would definitely not jump to self blaming yourself before you really get to know the person and try to understand where they're coming from a little bit longer
I'm worried I've already moved too fast with my boyfriend. What do I do?
First, a more descriptive question (e.g. what it is that’s been done too fast) would assist in the quality of answers.Second, ‘doing things’ is a sideshow - the relationship is really about your emotional connection with him, and someone bored with their boyfriend or vice versa likely hasn’t achieved that, or has been with them for many years, or probably both.Third, what you perceive to be ‘too fast’ is likely to be slower than what he thinks is ‘too fast’. This is of course speculation based on the lack of description of the boyfriend as well, but most guys view the formalities and waiting as obstacles, whereas most women view them as necessary steps that should not be violated.
I am constantly worried about my boyfriend dying. What should I do?
Have you been formally diagnosed with anxiety? I recommend going to a doctor and seeing what they say. I have severe anxiety but do not take medication, I run and meditate to help bring myself back to base line and to calm myself down. Im not against medicine or treating anxiety with pills, I just think that we are a society who overly prescribes medication and I think that we should try to see what other options are available before taking medication.Run daily, meditate, close your eyes and breathe and relax and force yourself to think about nothing for five full minutes, examine the thoughts that come into your head, “My boyfriend might die? Wait, why would I think he would die? Thats a weird thought”. Observe those weird thoughts. Recognize and realize that they are simply bad thoughts and nothing more. Push them back out of your head and take a deep breathe. Continue to think about nothing for the rest of the five minutes. Every time a weird thought comes into your head, examine it, say huh, thats weird that I would think something like that, and then push the thoughts back out again. When youre done, do breathing exercises, they work wonders as well. Google different breathing techniques and meditation techniques for anxiety.Good luck and hang in there. Everything will get better :)
I kissed this guy, and am extremely worried that I'm pregnant?
I am in seventh grade, and I really liked this reeeeally cuute guy who is in 12th grade. He is 17 and I heard that guys older than 14 are biologically capable of producing sperm. At the age of 13 is it possible for me to become pregnant. I think some of those little "swimming impregnators" might have entered me in the transfer of saliva during the kiss. It was almost a french kiss, and I am really concerened that his sperm entered me dring the kiss. How long till I find out If I am pregnant. Ths guy is reeeeeeeeallly cuuuute and It would be a shame if meerly kising a guy thats a little bit older than me would cause me to become pregnant? Does sperm enter a female by way of french kissing, my friend old me so, This guy thinks I;m soooo innocent, and he is extremely cute, so I really hope it is not the case and we can still stay a couple and enjoy kissing.
My boyfriend wants to join Navy EOD. Should i be worried?
As with any job in the military, there is always a risk of dangerous situations. You should be supportive of your boyfriend and feel very honored to love such a brave man. Of course it is natural to worry, but keep in mind that this is something he wants to do. Many wives, fiancees, and girlfriends are linked to military men. It takes a strong man to be a soldier, but also a strong woman to love one. Good luck to you and your man:)