How do I convince my father to let me marry his friend's daughter?
Your father will be convinced you are ready to marry his friend’s daughter, and will give you and your prospective wife his blessings, when:You are independent and capable of supporting a wife (and baby!) financially, and emotionally;You demonstrate impulse control consistently over time, going forward;You acquire character traits he would wish for you to pass along to your children and into the world (humility and love such as are acquired through community volunteer work; patience which is acquired through skill acquisition — woodworking? Pottery? Carpentry? Electrician? Plumber? Leatherwork? Knot tying? Knitting? Mountain climbing? You acquire skills by following your interests);Since it seems you made the commitment to attend college, you complete your courses honorably and graduate;You demonstrate discernment and maturity, characterized by an ability to keep private things private. Your soul searching and adopting of various religious ideas are developmental and absolutely appropriate and fine, but the child will share these explorations with everyone who will listen, while maturity allows a person to know what is personal, what is not, and to set boundaries to keep private matters private.You don't have to ask your father or mother for permission to marry anyone — you tell them as an adult who you will marry, and when.The expectations of parents matter less to you as an independent and healthy adult than they do to you as a child.To jumpstart your understanding of the human trajectory during a lifetime, I recommend you take developmental psychology classes in college. Gail Sheehy’s seminal book on the subject, Passages, is easy reading and prepares you for various stages in life.Young love is wonderful. Once you can handle the commitment and relationship skills which marriage requires, you, your bride, and your families will all know whether your young love is true love and ready for the next passage in your lives — marriage. Until then, make good choices. Become the man you know you can be.
My brother is in love with my father's friend daughter. He feels shy to tell her. Should I go and tell her?
No, if he is not man enough to ask her out or for a hand in marriage, he is too immature to be involved with her or any other. He must sense that she will not be in agreement and that is his hesitation. This happened to me and I was insulted that the man did not come to me. I was not really interested, but if he had come himself, I would have dated him. To do it this way is triangulation and manipulation and sneaky and cowardly. In African countries, I am told that this is the custom but it is not the custom in America so it seems offputting and awkward.
I found out that my father is my grandmother's brother. How do I continue to live?
Hi. So this kind of marriage is a typical example of what is known as a consanguineous marriage.Consanguinity is quite rampant in South India particularly the uncle-niece marriages.The main concern with consanguineous marriages is that, the offspring have a slightly higher than normal risk to develop autosomal recessive genetic disorders. Because both your parents belong to the same family, the probability of them carrying the same genetic traits including genetic errors is high.So in your situation currently if,You are healthy and you do not have any disorders, particularly geneticYour parents brought you up lovingly and provided for your needs and provided a secure family environment as you grew upThen you do not have to worry at all!!!Your parents have provided you with a good quality of life! They just happen to be related before marriage..I get that their relationship may sound very weird to you but there is nothing you can do about it right now except you don't marry in a similar fashion (that is, since you don't find it all that great).I am Indian and when I was a student, I would discourage (A LOT) my close friends from marrying their uncles/nieces. I have many friends who have done either (married their uncles and married their nieces). I was then a trainee genetic counselor and would try to convince them that it is just not right to put your offspring at risk for a genetic disorder. I was like an activist convincing and cajoling them into marrying into different families. After one such episode, one of my mentors took me aside and told me to think about it from the angle of love. Many girls in India are told that they would be one day marrying their uncles once they grow up. So these girls and their uncles end up falling in love with each other at a very young age and continue to do so till they marry. To separate them on the context of consanguinity is cruel.So this is another thing you need to consider.3. Do your parents love each other?Basically, if points 1–3 are true, then you are in a good place and you don't have anything to worry about. Focus on the relationship you have with them!Hope this helps.
Me and my half brother share a father. My half brothers' mom is dating a guy who already had a son, would the guy’s son be considered my half brother's step-brother? Also, me and the guy’s son are best friends, would it be weird to date him?
If your half-brother’s mother (‘HBM’) is actually married to your father, then she’s your stepmother. If not, then she has no legal kinship relationship with you.Since your HBM is dating some other guy, that presumably means she isn’t married to your father and therefore isn’t your stepmother. So her dating the other guy is nothing to you and the other guy has no conceivable connection with you.If that other guy actually marries your HBM at all, that still doesn’t make any conceivable kinship link with you. It’s just some guy marrying a woman who happens to be the mother of your half-brother.That other guy’s son is just another random stranger to you in kinship terms and therefore okay to date him.Is it weird to date your best friend? — That is the real question, isn’t it? You decide.
My 6 year old brother likes some girl things. Is that normal?
My brother likes poodles, Littlest Pet Shop, and other things-that are mostly for girls. And whenever me and my dad tell him that, my mom chimes in saying "Anyone can play with them". And my brother ends up getting mad at my father and I. He doesn't play with cars-something my best friend at the time and I played with constantly. I'm a 15 year old female. I liked Power Rangers when I was younger. I never really played with barbies. And now that I'm older, I'm a cars fanatic. My grandmother often says I'm "not a girl". I tell her that just because I don't like skirts doesn't mean I'm not a girl. Now, I don't want my brother playing with things like Poodles and naming them "Princess". I've rarely ever seen him play with Power Rangers. He has them-but he doens't play with them. Is it normal for my 6 year old brother to like girl things-things I didn't really like as a kid?
I am dating my step-brother. Dad is not happy?
I honestly feel for you, they all seem like utter **** holes and I think you'd do better off without their nasty negative ways. My dad also said "id choose your step mum over you anyday" I don't care WHO you are or how tuff you think you are that HURTS. I have not been in contact with my dad or his nasty new wife and its the best thing I've ever done. They say you can't choose your family but you can cut them out of your life. I think its cool you've found somebody you care about in this horrible situation, so I say GO FOR IT and make a life for yourselves elsewhere. I really hope it works out for you....good luck. X
Best friend is dating my baby's dad?
Nooooo, You are NOT over reacting at all. Of course you have feelings for him; he's gonna be your baby's daddy! She should find someone else. Real friends wouldn't try to hook up with your exes, let alone some guy who will be the father of your child. As hard as it sounds, you should act like it doesn't bother you. If you act pissed and upset, she'll feel more satisfied. I can't believe she would do that. You should pretend to be happy for her. Is he interested in her? Or is it just her with him? I say if he's flirting with her, you drop him out of your life. I wouldn't want my baby to grow up with a bad dad like that. In my opinion, you should find someone who wouldn't screw around with your friends. You're a strong girl and you can do this. Good luck. (:
My dad and brother hit me...help please...long...?
okay so this is wat happened... I wanted to try somking pot (I kno it was stupid and it's bad) but my best friend does it alot so I wanted to try it. The nite tht I tried it my friend had alot more on him after we wre finished and something was happenin at his house so he begged me to keep it at my house just for one nite so I gave in and said yes to help him out. later on my dad found it!! he is a great dad and never hit me before until now... He said is this yours and I said no and then he asked if I ever smoked and I said yes and I was so scared I backed up in the corner because he was yelling rele loud... he then grabbed me, took off his belt and whipped me on the back somewhere between 5 and 10 times, I wasn't countng I was so scared...wen my oldest brother found out (he's 30 but lives 2 houses away) and was so furious he pushed me down on the couch and proceded to do the same thing as my father... I started to cry and ran home and hid myself under my covers praying no one else would hit me... My second oldest brother (he's 27 lives close by) came in my room and I thought he was goin to hit me too but he saw my back and just yelled at me instead as silent tears pored down my face I was so scared... then my last brother busted through the door (23 and still lives at home) was also going to beat me when my oldest brother told him but ddnt cause my 27 year old brother (in the room) showed him my back. there was already bruises coming up and small cuts everywhere were the belts broke skin. Im not as scared of my brothers as I am my father because they all have hurt me before...not like this but they have beaten me up so it wasn't as scary and Im used to there beatings...but Im terrified of my father now. I know tht I shouldn't be because he never hit me before..he's never hit me when he was drunk and he can always control himself... Im not complaining about my punishment because I no wat I did was wrong (and im never doing it again) but whenever I look at him I get scared he is going to whip me again even tho I kno he won't...wat shud I do to not feel so afraid? Im afraid of doing anything wrong anymore even tho I kno he won't hit me for anything else other then this. But Im scared to look at him the wrong way and don't kno how to get over my fear. It's almost the same with my oldest brother but not as bad... Wat should I do? does anyone have advice for me?
I'm in love with my step brother?
Last week I needed to go to the bathroom but my mother was in it and I was desperate so I decided to go to Luke and Adam's (my brother) bathroom. They weren't in their room so I took my chance and ran in. 3 minutes later I hear someone coming in to the room and sit on the bed. I didn't want to get busted so I stayed in the toilet until that someone was going to leave, it was a bad choice. After being in the toilet for an hour listening to Luke and his friend talking about their new football team on skype, I decided to get out of there and risk getting busted but then they switched topic and the guy said "Man you're living every guys dream" to which Luke replied "what?". "You have a hot stepsister living in your house, don't you think it's awesome?" "Are you talking about Kaycee?" "Whoelse, do you have two hot stepsisters" "You're sick dude who dreams of being with their stepsister" "Don't a
Should I delete a Facebook friend who was very rude to me when we were kids (and ignores me on FB even though SHE sent the friend request)?
Please don’t take this the wrong way, as I am not holding a grudge, and I understand that people grow up. However, her rude dad is proof that maturity’s not a factor. I am referring to an incident that stemmed from when I was selling my bike for about $25. When my FB friend’s brother and I (both about 12 years old) went to their house for permission, their dad explained the condition of my bike and said in front of other neighbors, “Twenty-five dollars for this piece of sh*t?” Therefore, I’m sure his daughter is still just as rude. I accepted her request, but she never replies when I post a “Happy Birthday” or Hello. I know it’s not necessarily a bad thing, but she appears to be on there a lot. So even though ignoring people on social media is not necessarily rude, I’m sure in her case, it’s a factor to how rude she is in person, thus the following incidents from back in the day... 1. She told me in a laughing matter that her father said he thought I was retarded, due to me saying in ear shot of him, “I don’t get it” to something someone said to me. 2. When I was watching TV with hshe and her little brother at their house, I said, “I have to go now. Good night,” but they continued staring at the TV and said nothing. So I repeated myself, but still nothing. So I ended up leaving their house without either of them showing me to the door. 3. When her then-10-year-old baby sister walked past me on her porch, I said hi, but she said nothing and kept walking.