Why can't a full time college student live in section 42 housing or low income housing?
I am trying to do my research on the internet but I am coming up short. I am a full time college student. I am 33 and recieve a grant which basically equates to $100 extra a month which is not for living expenses but school expenses. I am on disablity and get $600 a month. My current rent is $405 a month. My parents only help me out ocassionally but but if they do it is only $100 or $200 a month. My mom says she can't help me much anymore. I have applied for 50 jobs and had several interveiws but no one will hire me because of the disablity and being a full time college student. I am on the waiting list for public housing/section 8 and will only have to pay $188/month. This will save me from going bankrupt. The apartments are brand new and very nice. I was very excited about moving there but then they hit me with you can't be a full time college student. I asked why they said the government won't allow it. They say a college student can live in the dorm or with their parents. But.cont.
My adult son (28) who lives at home with us refuses to clean his room even when asked multiple times. It's not that he's rude about it, he just seems incapable of completing the task. What do I do?
It’s time to stop infantilizing him. If he doesn’t listen to you, nor respect you by following your wishes under your own roof, it’s because he doesn’t have to. If you follow through on any ultimatums you give him, then he’ll take you seriously and change. If he doesn’t change, he should leave. It’s for his own good.Many years ago, I once went out with one of those infantilised men. It was a truly horrible experience. I felt sorry for both him and his parents.Tell him once more that he must keep the room in good condition, and that from now on you’re going to invite a visitor on a weekly basis to come and look at it (can be a friend, or older, respected member of the family). He doesn’t listen to what you say, but shame might move him to pay attention to what an outsider thinks of the space he lives in.If they disapprove, then he must leave within one month. He can stay with friends, or get his own place.That way he will be free to live under his own rules and can do what he wants. Whether it’s living in a pigsty as he currently does, or tidying up, as he should as a responsible adult.THEN FOLLOW THROUGH!If he still doesn’t pay attention to what you’ve said, pack up his things into a series of boxes, and put them outside on the pavement. He will be upset, but he will be perfectly fine.A grown man who is pushing 30 years of age has - or will be able to quickly find - the resources to sort his life out.If he doesn’t, then his problems run way deeper than dealing with a messy room, and it may be time to talk to a medical professional about dealing with depression, as the mess may be a manifestation of that. But don’t let him use that as an excuse to live a clean life!EDIT:I recommended the weekly inspection suggestion specifically because I’ve SEEN it work before in a pretty extreme case of a person whose self-care and hygiene were out of control. They were embarrassed as hell when visitors came round and saw how they were living, and cleaned up their act completely, prompted by the shame. So I’m speaking from personal experience.
19 year old, still living with parents...pathetic?
ok first of all, most 19 year old's DO live with their parents. why would that be pathetic? you are still pretty much a teenager... society here in america has put so much pressure on young people its insane! there's no certain age when you have to move out.. seriously with the way the economy is right now, i advise stay there as long as you can. or at least until u can finish your schooling and get a better job. because trust me, $8.00/hr. will do NOTHING for you. think of all the bills you are going to have to pay. -rent. -electricity -water -trash -home phone -cell phone -cable -internet -car payment -car insurance -food -gas -tuiton ... yeah, thats just to name a few =]
Should parents charge their adult children rent?
Due to horrific circumstances, I moved in with my dad the day I turned 22 - bringing my 20mth old daughter with me. 11 yrs later, we are still all together.The first month, I paid nothing except groceries.We were starting from scratch and had to replace all of our things we had to leave behind when I fled to live with dad. By the end of that first month, all I really had to get was a bed for me to have finished replacing the essentials. I knew the bed would be expensive, so I was prepared to wait.After that first month, I started paying half the rent, at my insistence. The month after that I started putting a bit toward bills. We'd been there for 3 months when I got my bed. Dad took me to pick it out and bought it for me as a gift because I was, in his words, too stubborn for my own good.After that, I insisted on paying half of everything. And have been ever since. I am an adult, with an income, and a child. Just because my dad was OK with looking after me, it didn't mean it was OK.My younger brothers are still fully supported by dad and their mum, because they are both in university. My daughter, now 13, sees how things work financially in our family, and understands and appreciates it.If I need financial assistance for any reason, dad is there. I pay him back, even though he says it's a gift.I pay him back because it's the right thing to do, and because eventually, we won't be living together.I've been paying my way since I was 14, I can't be any other way. But even if my dad didn't want me to pay towards costs of living, I still would, because I live in the house, I use power, gas, water, and internet. I am not a child, and I am not a parasite. Living with dad has taught me financial responsibility and conservation concepts: power is expensive.So yes, parents should charge their adult children rent or board, if circumstances allow or require it.