Is it unhealthy to be "obsessed" with your child (children)?
Some women with co-dependency issues get so enmeshed in their childrens lives that it is unhealthy for the child. The Moms suffer real separation anxiety and find ways to sabotage the child's natural and normal developmental stages. The idea that the child may have a life that is not centered on them is both frightening and maddening to such mothers. It often takes professional help to get these families back on track. Other mothers are just so self centered that they don't see that their children are not wrapped up in every thing their mothers do. They seem like they are wrapped up in their children but they are wrapped up in their own needs, forcing their children to accomdate their plans and often interacting inappropriately (like attending a HS dance because it will be so much fun and I want to see the hot guys my girl likes.) A parents job is to raise children that can function in the real world. Children are NOT the parents personal entertainment centers.
What's the difference between being obsessed with someone and being in love with them?
Welllove and obsession are related in some aspects but can never be thought to be the same. It's like the difference between fresh and processed orange juice. Both are orange juice, but one is healthy while the other is very unhealthy. Same with love and obsession. The former is a beautiful feeling that's based on care, compassion, support, admiration, etc...while the latter is a crazy feeling that's harmful and selfish.There are some points which can easily differentiate both feelings well…When you love someone, you want the best for them whether they're a part of your life or not. When you are obsessed with someone you want them to be by your side all day. You want them to be yours regardless of how they'd feel about it.Love is when you give space to the other. Love is freedom. An obsessed person will make you feel trapped and suffocated with his/her constant calls/questions/doubts...You will never be able to satisfy their needs or breathe some air without being questioned.An obsessive person will try to sabotage your social life because they're jealous and controlling. He/she wants to have you for them only.An obsessive person can never trust you. A true loving relationship is based on trust. An obsessive person will always want to know every detail about the other person, while a true loving person will give you space because they know you, trust you and want you to be happy.Love is when you want the other person to be happy. Obsession is when you want the other person to be happy ONLY with you.Obsessive people are dependent. If they breakup, they could threaten with suicide or seek revenge because their lives is dependent on the other person. You are not allowed to be happy with someone else.Love is when you are happy on your own, but have chosen to share your happiness with someone else. Obsession is when your happiness depends on others.Obsessive people may have their lives wrapped up in the other person, so they may lose focus at work or lose their friendships or perform poorly in different areas in their lives while feeding on the other person's life.Love is when you take care of the other person's needs, whereas an obsessed person gives more importance to his/her needsFrom my point of view little bit of obsession in love is healthy but as very well said excess of everything is bad . So it goes here too…
I'm a boy obsessed with wearing pantyhose. What should I do?
You are not alone in this. There are hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of 100% straight men who love wearing pantyhose. It is not weird and certainly not unhealthy. Pantyhose are fantastic to wear, they feel wonderful and they also look great. Of course, like with everything, it is not everybody's cup ot tea. A lot of people are narrow minded and stick to convention without really knowing why and just don't accept the fact that men also can wear pantyhose. And it is difficult to work this into a relationship or into sexual encounters, as you put it. But it is not totally impossible and one day you might be lucky. I am a man and 100% hetero, and I have been wearing pantyhose for over 20 years now and still do as much as I can. At one time I had a girlfriend who accepted it, even liked it and encouraged me and made me feel good about it. But women like that are few and far between. I would say don't worry about your pantyhose obsession.You obviously also have your reasons why you like pantyhose so much, one of them being feeling good in them. Why should only women have the right to wear them. Why should a man not be entitled to wear what feels good. So just accept it of yourself and wear pantyhose as much as you want to, they are just about the greatest item of clothing ever invented. There are many who hate or dislike them, to see or to have them on. Now that I think is very weird. Just enjoy your pantyhose as much as you can.
I have realized that I am a bad person. What can I do about it?
You, too, huh? I'm not being flippant. I'm telling you every "good" person comes to a point in their life where they feel exactly like you do now. I once told a friend I could never apologize enough to everyone I had ever interacted with in my life. That was exactly what I was feeling right then.But please understand, the fact that you are able to regret some of your past choices means you are not a bad person. A bad person wouldn't care. But you do care, deeply. So, you're off to a good start.The thing to do now is go deep into yourself and find what it was that made you behave that way in the past. Until you do that, you may do the same things again. A lot of the time, the problem is solved by you simply growing up a little more. That never ends, by the way.Now, here's something you should not do: Assume responsibility for how your actions affected the other person. You should absolutely take responsibility for your actions, but you are not responsible for how the other person interprets them or how they feel about them.I've heard people bemoan that they ruined someone's life. If only they hadn't done this or that, that person would be so much better off now! What I say to those people is: Get over yourself! Who made you sooo powerful that with one careless or mean action you could completely ruin that person's life? Huh? 'Cause I thought only God could do that.And what are you saying about that other person? Oh, no, poor person! They have no will of their own! If they get hit, all they can do is stay down and cry. Oh, so sad!Gives it a different spin, doesn't it?Everyone has done mean things. Sometimes because we don't understand that that's what we're doing. Sometimes because we're experimenting. And sometimes, just to be mean. Kids do that a lot because they don't realize yet that other people matter as much as they do. And sometimes people do it to see where the line is. Because sometimes, you don't know until you’ve crossed it. But unless you are a serial killer, there is nothing you have done that is so bad that, in a room with 100 other random people, ten of them haven't done the same thing.Yes, you've made some bad choices. And thank God for that! It is the ability to do the wrong thing and to choose to do the right instead that gives us our nobility.So, stop worrying. Just make better choices from now on.
Best friend is obsessed with getting drunk!?
im in 8th grade. i go to private school and my best friend goes to public. in private school no one really drinks or anything so i guess im just not really exposed to it but in my friends school all of her friends drink. for the past few years my friend was always like im never getting drunk its so scary (she even said that a few days ago). then last night she got completely drunk and its horrible. now shes like that was amazing it was so much fun u have to try it. but im not doing that. i go to her house pretty much every weekend and her parents keep beer in the house (not for her). now she says that next time we hang out shes gonna sneak more beer so we can get drunk. what am i supposed to say to her?
I'm getting obsessed with Leonardo DiCaprio, can someone help me?
GOD I can so relate to you. at first i used to be like "oh yea leo's a cool actor...wutever" but now its like "omfg hes gorgeousss!" anyways i have a pretty short attention span so im always doing stuff and i usually forget about him when im active, so just hang out with real (which means everyday reasonable guys you actually have a chance with and are your age) hot guys and go find your own "leo"
I am obsessed with Christmas??
I love Christmas and I can't stop thinking about it!! I want it to come soooo bad!! I have already started to make gifts (I'm not all that keen on the whole, spend a million bucks on you loved one thing that most people do.) I have already started to listen to Christmas tunes (Duke Ellington, Ella Fitzgerald, Al Hirt, Dinah Shore, stuff like that I LOVE the classics) I have already started to watch my favorite Christmas movies and planning my party!!! Is there something wrong with me??