Help with this dream, having sex with boss!?
You're on the right track but it actually has less to do with your actual boss. He is just a frame of reference. These kinds of dreams more so represent your desire for acceptance in general, your desire to please others, be well liked, etc. More importantly, it represents your thirst for success. I'd guess you've been at the job for a while and you are advancing a little slower than you like. Maybe some healthy competition between another co-worker or two. You are probably at that stage in your life, where you're ready for the next step. You are wanting the things and the successes that guys like your boss have. You yearn for the kind of power your boss yields. By pleasing him in your dream with amazing sex, you are exerting control in the relationship. I wouldn't focus on the actual sex you are having in your dream and I certainly wouldn't recommend you have any type of intimate relationships with someone 30 years your elder.
Is it wrong to go to an interview without informing your former boss?
Questions like this turn up on Quora with surprising frequency. Your current employer has no such reasonable expectation.Beyond that, you are creating an unnecessary and unreasonable risk for yourself that doesn’t need to exist. I was an HR exec in Silicon Valley and Florida companies from 1980 through 2014. You’d expect me to be a pro-employer zealot, but I’m not. I’m essentially neutral.Your interview may not turn up with a job offer that you will accept. If you tell your employer, you may trigger a lot of vague worries and suspicions on the part of management that you are a “flight risk,” meaning you’re looking for a job elsewhere.This can hurt you in various ways that you may never find out about. Let’s take reassignment or promotion as an example. You don’t know what changes may be afoot that management has not yet discussed with non-management employees. You might be a candidate for bigger responsibilities or even a new challenge in a new area. You don’t know exactly how the people who influence your outcomes at the company talk about you in management meetings. You might be pleasantly surprised. That’s an upside that you might sabotage by telling management about your interview plans.On the downside—some managers or management teams expect asymmetrical loyalty from employees. I hate that. They expect employees to be far more loyal to the company than vice versa. Managers also mentally take credit for their employees work and professional development and feel a personal sense of betrayal when someone wants to leave for a better opportunity elsewhere. The company always has the chance to counter, of course, so where’s the disservice? If your supervisor has a possessive or vindictive streak, talking about leaving could trigger an excessive, personal vindictive streak that could make it difficult for you to stay if you don’t get a job offer you like.Clarification: if by “former boss,” you mean the person you currently report to who will be losing your services if you get the new job, then the question makes sense. S/he is not your former boss yet, because you don’t yet have a job offer that you’ve accepted.
I m obsessed with my married boss. What do I do?
My boss is very attractive, and not only physically. He is always super sweet and energetic. I ve never seen him without a smile. But, he is married and has kids so obviously I can t say anything. Plus he s store manager and i m an associate. The problem is I can t stop thinking about him outside of work, and when I work with him I get very panicked and embarrasseed when he comes near me. I try to avoid him... but that doesn t work so well. I just want to get over him..
Is it wrong to keep hatred toward your former boss?
Through your career you will have varying degrees of relationship with your bosses. Some good, some bad, some indifferent.While it is good to be passionate about what you do, it is al important to keep storm emotions like anger, love, hate, away from your job. At the end of the day, no matter how well it pays, it's just a job. You have the freedom to walk away. In this case, I would recommend you talk it out with someone. If your organisation provides you with an in house counsellor, you can talk to this person. Lastly, there was a phrase one of my ex bosses used to use. "Main doodh deti gaaye say laat bhi kha leta hoon."Meaning, I will take any amount of shit from a productive employee. Bosses cut a lot of slack when it comes to really competent individuals. Their year end goals are tied to their employees' performance.
How can I get over my ex-boss I'm crazily obsessed with (whose children are almost of my age, who has a living wife and a girlfriend already, who lives far away from me and has no contact with me but even after 1 year of not seeing him, I fantasize)?
Do you conjure up your memories every day? Go over ever meeting, touch, word you shared with this guy? I know that’s appealing but it’s perpetuating your infatuation. When he pops into your head, instead of leaning into it and replaying your highlight reel of him, STOP, actually say that in your mind, or out loud if possible. STOP and purposely start thinking about something else.Now, get out and meet people, go where they congregate, engage with them. Don’t stay home, bring out your memories and feelings, go over them repeatedly. Feeling that pleasure and pain is what’s addictive. You feed it and keep it going.These actions will not clear your head immediately, give it time. However, if it doesn’t help, if your are truly obsessed, you could benefit from some counseling.
My husband is obsessed with the false impression that I am cheating on him. If infidelity is constantly on his mind, could he be the problem?
Dennis Manning provided an excellent case that can very well serve as an example.But mostly for women.Men and women are not the same in many things.One is the way both genders “think”.For example the opposite of “love” for a woman is not “hate” (as it would be for a man) but “indifference”.This person is simply not in her mind. Not at all. Never. She couldnt care less.For this reason if a woman for example tells her date “tonight we will NOT have sex” ..chances are very high you will have sex. Why? Because it is on her mind.If she was not attracted to you, she wouldnt mention it because they idea of sex would never be in her head. You get the idea.Re-read Dennis case to verify.For many husbands who are “obsessed with the false impression that the wife is cheating” the problem is not cheating, but lack of self confidence or value.You will understand in a minute.If a man who is a 6 (and knows it) in the 1–10 SMV scale (10 = best) is married to a female 4, he will in very, very rare cases be worried about her cheating.He knows deep inside he is by far the best men his wife could hope for. He will be very cool and relaxed, even when she is talking to better guys than himself.If she is a 6 just like him, the situation is different. He understands his wife is good looking an male 7s or 8s (who are perhaps her bosses or richer guys than him) might be in her reach. He wont see normal guys as a threat but he will get nervous when better men are frequently in contact with his wife.Now if she is a 7 or better, thats when hell breaks loose. He knows she is the best girl he ever dated and he understands better men will want her.His biggest fear is, that such a higher status man comes and takes her from him. He is fully aware he will not be able to replace her (only via down-grade) and basicly is afraid she is “too good to be true”.In your case - thats where i would put my money.
Why are men so obsessed with young girls?
I am 38 and single. All my male aquaintances whom are single and over 35 are chasing after ridiculously young girls. I know some of my male 'friends' whom are well past 40 have been involved with girls as young as 18--fresh out of highschool! I personally think it is disgusting for a man to be with a woman who is young enough to be his daughter. So answer my question, men, What's wrong with the ladies your own age? I have seen many beautiful ladies who are over 40, they were sexier and prettier than any 20 year old i've seen... So, what's wrong with them? I think being attracted to a woman so young is pedophelia. I mean, if a man so old is willing to be with a girl as young as 18, how do we know he's not willing to go even younger? Just because the law says 18, doesn't mean it's right. When I was 16, I was exactly the same as I was when I was 18. Are there any men left out there who date women their own age?
I keep dreaming about my boss?
I keep having re occurring dreams about my current boss. I dream about him almost every night. In my dreams its always him telling me that he loves me and that he wants to hang out with me and such, and hell kiss me and stuff in them. In real life however, he is married, but him and I are close. But I wish I knew what it meant, does anyone have an explanations?