I'm feeling suicidal?
Aww :( No don't give up. There is so much to life you haven't experienced yet. I am 20 and I was feeling suicidal last year so I understand. But even when you are having the darkest days there is always someone out there who cares about you, cause I know I do. God loves you so much an would hate to see one of his children lose hope on themselves. You have so many gifts you probably don't know about with yourself. If you are feeling lonely, do some volunteer work get outside more often, think about when you were a child, what did you say you wanted to be when you were older (I'm sure you can think of a couple things) they're not impossible! You are only 42! Whatever you feel you need to now that, that is young! Do stuff that makes you feel better about yourself, show people who have judgements on who you really are and you will become what ever you want to be, but you must forgive people too. Life is so much happier when we forgive. Please don't give up. I am here with you. If you need anyone to talk to don't hesitate to message me. I know I havent said much but please don't give up. I love you x (hugs)
Why does my mom constantly make me feel worthless?
Wow yours is a bizarre story. I can't imagine why your mom would turn on you like that. If you think that the breakup with your b/f was a factor could it be that she was somehow attached to him & now resents you for breaking up with him? Maybe she had a vision of him becomming the perfect son-in-law, or something. As for your mom "making you feel worthless" she can't do that unless you give her the power to do that to you. From your information, I would describe you as a very responsible young woman. A person that any parent would be proud to call their child. As a parent myself, I can't even fathom the concept of not supporting my child getting an education, & improving her lot in life. It almost sounds to me that your mom may be suffering a mental or emotional breakdown of some kind. I recommend that you get her to her family doctor, & you go with her, & explain her personality changes to the doctor. The point is that whatever she is doing, this has nothing to do with YOU. I can't help but feel that you haven't painted the full picture here. That may even be unintentional on your part, you may be in a sort of denial, but you need to ask yourself a really hard question, & that is: IS YOUR MOM DRINKING? That could explain A LOT. I am going to leave you with one final thought. This hinges around you comming to the realization that this isn't your fault or your responsibility. Even your mom would ultimately agree with me that your 1st responsibility is to yourself. If she persists in this behaviour, & refuses treatment for her condition (whatever it is) then you have to get out of that situation. You can't concentrate on your future if you are living with a person who is acting like a lunatic. There are assistance programmes, & grants for students in bad situations like you are in. All you have to do is seek them out. Go to a councellor at your school & see if they can hook you up with some assistance. You didn't say where your Dad is in all of this, but if he's still around then consider him another resource to turn to. Go ahead, & turn to as many people you can think of for help. You will be amazed at how many will step up & offer you anything they can. Why? Because YOU ARE WORTH IT! Hope I helped! ;-)
What should I do if my mom constantly makes me feel like crap?
Wow there is a lot going on. I would love to know if you are a teenager or are you an adult. In either case I feel that you should definitely seek some type of counseling. This will help you whatever the situation is.As far as your mom, she obviously has her own things going on emotionally that have nothing to do with you. Our parents come with their own baggage into our lives and we can’t take responsibility for it, nor can we fix it for them. They have to want to get the help and find out what their reasons are for doing the things they do.Her treatment of you is not okay. There should be more sensitivity and respect there. Go to counseling and work on yourself, and you can suggest to your mom to do the same thing but you can’t force anyone to do anything. The only person you can fix is yourself. I would like to suggest that if you can make your own appointments and scheduling , that you do it yourself for now, until things get a little better.You have to build up your self esteem, and become more confident, and you you will start to see a more positive change. Take it one day at a time.Deborah-Letsdishgirl
Should I tell my mom I'm depressed?
I was also in the same boat as you, but I expressed about it just when I was starting to recover from it. The reason I let her know about it, because she played a bit of the audience role in it, and I wanted her to know what her child was facing. Ofcourse, being me, I couldn't tell her face to face, instead I wrote a huge message which might have taken an hour for me. I could say that it was all sunshine and happily ever after she read my message, and you would believe me. But that wasn't the case. Instead it led to more confusions, fears and restrictions from both sides in conveying their true feelings. The only thing I felt satisfied, is I let her know my feelings and the things I was facing in the past. Just the assurance that my mom knows what's my feelings and depression made me feel lighter. As they say that parents is the one you can lean on, and the ones who knows you inside and outside. So I needed to spill it out to her, it was tiring, bottling all the time. I have always felt that my mom would understand where I am coming from, and at least put her feet into my shoes. She was the one who practically was the cooler parent, she would tell me to be bindass and be safe in the same time. She always used to understand me, we were like best friends. So I had that belief that she would know what I meant to express and would calm me down. Instead she ended up feeling hurt, and feels that her daughter doesn't appreciate her mothers feelings for her. She feels that I have felt that mom puts me down, which wasn't the case at all, it wasn't in the picture in the first place. Even if I tell her many times, she still don't get me. We have chosen to let it go, but I am sure neither of us will ever forget about it. So conclusion is, tell her only if you want to lighten your heart and keep your mind at peace, but expect the consequences it will follow later. On no occasion, expect them to get you, they might be in denial, or might take another meaning or something else. Just be sure if you can deal with all these, then go for it. Maybe your mom would be better in handling the situation than my mom did. I wish you all the best, and again I would like to say you to think twice. :)
I'm depressed and my mom won't get me help..?
Your family doctor should be able to prescribe an antidepressent until you can see a psychiatrist. Usually meds work best when you are going to active counseling. The thing you need to do is to get another adult, a preacher, your guidance counselor, your family doctor, ANYONE to listen to how bad you feel and how long it has gone on (be careful about talking about suicide, they can throw you in a nut bin if think you are serious) and tell them how your mom is acting and ask them to talk to your mom for you. She probably wont understand from you cause your just "being a teenager", but trust me, what you are going through is much worse. And its not something you should HAVE to go through. Your mom's worries about medication in teenagers are grounded though, but its something you can watch for. Generally the antidepressants take 4-6 weeks to improve mood, but can take 2-3 weeks to improve energy levels. So, while you were on no antidepressents you were depressed and lethargic, you are now depressed and energized, which can lead to teen suicide. However, if you are seeing a counselor through this time, that will help because you will know you are on the way to recovery and can talk about any side effects you would have. So, bottom line: Get an ADULT to talk to your mom and beat it into her head that some of us need a helping hand, and that she is being borderline abusive by refusing you this. That may get her movin. EDIT: Sweetie, dont get yourself even MORE down by thinking you aren't "worthy" of feeling this way, or that since other people have it worse you should have a smile on your face 24/7. Thats not the way the human brain works, and you could very possibly have a small chemical imbalance, probably due to puberty, and it may very well be something you grow out of, or you may need help in different points your in life. What's important is to get the help you need and not worry that you dont have enough reasons to be sad...sometimes you just dont need a reason, I know.
Help please I'm 16 and my mom died ?
I don't know what to do. I am everything I am today because of my parents. I can't stop thinking about her and all the things she did for my family and I and I just wish that I couldve told her I loved her and hugged her one last time. I don't know what to do without her seeing her after school everyday and I was her "co pilot" everywhere she went she was a bestfriend and a true mother that I will dearly miss think of. What should I do? I can't imagine a life without her