My roommate really scares me.....?
i think she's finally moving out which i really want but i don't like the way she's going about it. she waits for me outside my room in the middle of the night instead of having a conversation when i see her. she wants to make it so dramatic that she has to wait for 2 hours already in the livingroom in the middle of the night so she can talk to me right when i'm about to go to sleep. she's rude and i'm scared of her ways of behaving. she's been really rude and straightforward to me by saying b*tchy comebacks when i was just trying to be nice to her and i'm not exaggerating this i'll try to be friendly an social like roommates would be atleast before i knew how much she really hates me and i'd get something like well what do you know in a really sarcastic tone when i told her something. her personality's just the opposite of mine in a bad way and i don't know how to deal with it. i don't know what's wrong with her and i don't care but at the same time she creeps me out i don't want to talk to her or come out of my room so i'm literally stuck in my room like a scary cat lol. what do i do with this crazy mean roommate??!
Why is my roommate scared of me?
Alright, so we haven't really been roommates for that long, maybe a couple of months. We hang out sometimes, but we aren't really close since he seems distance. Anyways, lately he's been acting strange, like he will tense up when I come around, like he's scared I might do something to him. The other night we had plans to hang out, we ended up not going because he fell asleep (I didn't want to wake him up). When he actually did wake up he was so apologetic, and making a big deal out of it. He kept saying sorry, and I would tell him it was okay. He is also very uneasy around me, like he fidgets a lot. Why is he scared of me? I want to talk to him about it, but I'm not sure what to say.
How do I get my roommate to be quieter?
First of all, please understand and come to terms with the fact that your roommate is choosing to be inconsiderate to you. It does not take a genius to know that one should try to be quiet when someone near them is trying to sleep. He is selfishly choosing to he disregard your needs. This is important because it should help you with your social anxiety. You likely feel afraid to inconvenience your roommate because you're naturally a kind person, and conflict makes you extremely uncomfortable. Tapping into your sense of fairness and self respect should stir up enough anger that you don't feel bad confronting him in some way about this issue.Now, how should you go about doing this?The best way: Talk to him during the day and say “Hey man, I'm feeling really tired today cause I have trouble sleeping while you're playing video games. Could we try not to use the microphone after [insert time]?A worse, but potentially less anxiety-inducing way: When you're in bed and he's playing video games loudly, say “Hey man, I'm trying to sleep, could you keep it down?”An even worse, but even less anxiety-inducing way: When you're in bed and he's playing video games loudly, say “Hey man, I have [class, a test, etc.] in the morning, could you keep it down?” This is the worst option because it is conditional, whereas the previous option implies “please keep it down whenever I'm trying to sleep. This one implies that he should keep it down because TOMORROW, specifically, you have something. This could still be useful in the scenario in which he actually hasn't made the connection at all that his loud habits are keeping you awake, and he's at least a mildly considerate person.Just to be clear, I VERY strongly recommend the first option. It is the most likely to solve your problem indefinitely so you can have the energy and health you need to succeed in school. To rid you of any social anxiety it may cause, I can assure you that is is an EXTREMELY socially acceptable and reasonable request, and we'll worth your ability to sleep.A good roommate relationship is comprised of communication and compromises. Establish this precedent now and you will both have a much better year.Please let me know if I can be of any more help. Good luck!
Why is my college roommate scared of me?
So I'm pretty sure my roommate is scared of me. I always have tried to be pleasant, but whenever I try to start a conversation he brushes it off in one or two very forced, formal sentences. He's never direct with anything. For example, he has never told me that he doesn't like it when I smoke and come into the room right after. Instead, he gives me all of these non-verbal clues like forced sniffling noises. He has never told me to 'please stop playing the guitar, it's too loud,' but he'll occasionally look ominously/irritably over his shoulder while sitting at his desk. I try to be as reasonable as possible. We live in a dorm room, and yesterday around seven o'clock, I opened the window. I went to bed two hours later, and he presumably went to bed several hours after me. This morning, I found him curled up in his bed wearing his winter hat! Why would he think he couldn't just close the window? I'm going to mention it to him sometime today, but there is no way I can get him to engage in a real conversation. He is clearly not a direct person, so does anyone know some ways I can address these problems so that he will understand/communicate with me?
My roommate clogged the toilet really bad and left it for 7 hours and counting?
thats nothing, my suite mate clogged the toilet last winter before the month long winter break. well my roommate and my exams were done really early so we were one of the first to leave. we slipped a note under their doors asking them politely to fix it because we didn't have a plunger and its obviously their mess anyways. well we left for over a month, came back and it was still clogged. and i dont mean a little rise in the water level, I mean clogged as in dried diarrhea/TP ALL OVER the entire bowl. we had to use an entire bottle of bleach to sanitize the whole bathroom after. don't run away from the situation, next time you see him tell him he needs to clean it because its disgusting. tell him to ask to borrow a plunger from maintenance and be firm. if it continues more than a day go to your RA and explain to him/her that your roomate wont clean it up. then he/she can make it seem like he/she was doing an inspection and noticed that the toilet was clogged and ask him to unclog it himself
My roommate texted us that he was gay. How should I respond? So far, we've pretended nothing changed and haven't brought it up.
Is he expecting a response?Respond in any way that makes sense to you. Are you happy for him for being honest?Do appreciate him counting you as someone worthy of his trust?Do you need words as models to start a conversation because you are embarrassed?Are you annoyed he would bother you with something so trivial?Do you fear now for his immortal soul to burn in hell for all eternity?Are you wondering who else he told?Are you surprised because you're a woman he just made out with last night?Is he engaged to your sister?Have you never knowingly met a live breathing gay guy before this?Are you wondering how to ask him to move out now that what you all supposed is true and you feel unsafe around "perverts"?There are countless responses and you are anonymous without any background.Quora is set up for getting questions answered so there really isn't any stupid question (allegedly --- some are real doozies, but one seems sincere enough to me). I count this is as a good example of an incomplete question. You may get a lot of answers or maybe not. But I do suggest you to give more information so that whatever is submitted is more than just a broad bland answer.I am sure you must have some reason for asking this. What is so confusing that you are compelled to ask total strangers to give you (also a stranger) an opinion about an unknown gay guy?I am so curious!Edit: Thanks for adding the context into the details. Now its clearer for me to say that I am not sure anything overt needs to happen other than a simple "thanks for letting me know" -- a response text seems appropriate to me since he has chosen that as his mode of conversation. As blabby as society seems to be about being gay, it's still a big risk to verbalize it. He stands a lot to lose if it doesn't go well. I am sure appreciates having you as his non-judgmental friends.
Is my roommate a sociopath? PLEASE READ DETAILS?
1)when I first met her, she seemed super sweet, but talked about her self the whole time, wore a boot (breaking foot I think?), talked about her being in pageants and winning the biggest pageant in her county, and her having a big butt. 2) she always complains about how different she is. talks about how he once had to live with her grandparents, and that they would abuse her.... how hard her life is because she has to use hearing aids (even though she never wears them??), 3) In the beginning of the semester, she befriended a couple of girls and started bringing them to our dorm... I befriended them and eventually we all decided to not be friends with her anymore. We got in an argument the week after thankgiving and she said something along the lines of ... " you wouldnt be friends with them if it werent for me." and "they were my friends first." 4) when we were having the argument the RA came into our dorm and at one point I told her "you think youre the only one in the world with problems!" and in FRONT OF THE RA (whom I barely know) she says, "I know everyone has problems. Like how your parents are divorced and how *our friends*'s mom died of cancer!" I feel she said that to make me feel weak and not in control of the argument. 5) on Facebook she is always getting into political fights with people. and in the arguments she always brings up how she was abused, was raped (we think that is a lie), and how she is disabled. I'm really scared for my safety..
My roommate is afraid of the dark...I can't sleep with her light!?
My roommate is afraid of the dark and sleeps with a lamp on (this one http://www.target.com/Tree-Floor-Lamp-Black/dp/B001RD6GGQ/ref=sc_qi_detaillink?ie=UTF8&pf_rd_r=1TC34MSK1BNRSH7SV4PC&pf_rd_p=436115101&pf_rd_i=B001RD6GGQ&pf_rd_s=right-1&pf_rd_m=A1VC38T7YXB528&pf_rd_t=5101) and it's really bright. I think she's scared because she is afraid of ghosts and childhood experiences but the light REALLY bothers me. Anyway, since it seems like her fear is from her childhood how should I approach the problem? I don't think I can go the entire year with this light on. Please help. :)
What are some of the most annoying habits of your roommate?
Slamming doors. Especially when I'm sleeping.Talking loudly over phone, when others are sleeping (and even when they aren't, when we're having balcony specifically for that purpose)Using my things, without even asking me, and rearranging them. Doesn't even thank. I've started locking all of my stuff (iron box, mirror, even my waterbottle) into my almirah!Asks to turn off the AC whenever I turn it ON because sometimes it gets damn hot inside the room (because, electricity bills!)He pushes off my bed everytime he reaches for his bed. I don't know why.Asks me to lower down the volume of my speaker because he uses drum-based earphones and says that he can't focus on the videos he's watching (with earphones on), and that my speakers are causing the trouble. Mind you, my laptop sucks when it comes to speakers. The max volume is like, putting your volume panel on 40–50%.Is interested in knowing what I'm doing on my laptop. Everytime.…and lots more!