I feel really uncomfortable but I don't know why...?
It's kind of like anxiety, but also being uncomfortable at the same time, and I have no idea why. I don't have school tomorrow because of memorial day, but this girl just texted me and asked me if I 'came out of the closet yet' and, naturally, I was really confused because I am straight and it turns out my best friend told her that I'm bisexual??? Even though I never told her I was, and even then I'm mad at her for going around and telling other people... Anyways, maybe I'm uncomfortable/anxious because of seeing the girl at school on Tuesday? But I don't really care about it because I barely know her. My point is, how can I get rid of this feeling? I can't go to sleep because of it. Thank you!
What does it mean if my crush likes to psychologically control me and make me feel uncomfortable?
in class he would literally focus all his attention on me and even the teachers would point out how he should calm down. If it was anyone else trying to do that to me I would probably have not accepted it so readily nor found a way to enjoy it. But it was him so I was just glad he was talking to me.
Why do people (healthy, regular) feel uncomfortable around mentally disabled people?
My compliments on your attitude. As to why--it's the result of the culture you/we/everyone has grown up in. It comes frome a thousand messages that you don't even realize Some are well-intentioned--parents tellingchildren "don't stare,its not polite"--which also tells the child "somethings wrong." Jokes, image, myths that people who are "metal" are somehow dangerous, etc. Even when a person like yourself isn't buying into all the negative crap--its not that easy to escape that subconscious assumptions. But--if you're really serious, there's a very straightforward and guaranteed way to get over your discomfort: take the initiative to get to know some mentally disabled people. You can do this with a neighbor, classmate-r volunteer in a community program providing help to those with mental disabilities. You'll be uncomfortable at first, sure. But after you get to know them, they will become familier to you--and the discomfort will vanish. Good luck! :)
Do I have a problem? I despise men's sexual attention?
I really feel objectified, violated and raped (visually) when men stare at me, especially older men or unattractive men. I don't feel that assaulted (visually) if attractive men gaze at me or leer at me. I get a lot of men's attention b/c I happen to be beautiful but instead of being flattered I feel really INFURIATED. I want them to stop looking at me and undressing me with their eyes. I never dress provocatively and I don't wear make up or act flirty. I am pretty conservative. However, although I never Invite men's looks and lewd or sexual comments, I constantly try to avoid them as a matter of fact (I even change streets when I see a group of men before me for example), I always end up getting ATTACKED (visually). I have never been sexually molested, abused or raped in my life. I just have always been very bothered by this form of harassment. To me a man looking at me and thinking dirty thoughts, even without approaching or talking to me, is humiliating and I perceive it as harassment. I don't want to be the object of men's desires. I feel so DISGUSTED about it. I am not a lesbian. I am heterosexual. I am not religious at all so this is not the reason this is an issue for me. It's just psychological. I HATE male sexual attention b/c I get too much of it. Is this a condition that I have? I mean I know most other women would be full of joy if this was happening to them every day but I am literally FED UP and annoyed.
Why do I feel more uncomfortable when guys hit on me now?
I've always been single and been in very few relationships in my life. I've dated alot and have met guys here and there. You could say I was a lone ranger, a "tough cookie" and learned to deal with things on my own with everything - emotionally, mentally, and physically. I'm naturally a friendly person but have had to stop being that way bc some guys take it as I'm flirting with them, even when I'm clearly not OR they have some sort of wishful thinking that i'm interested, which is weird bc all we had was just basic small talk. Anyhoo, I'm also a very private person and get uncomfortable when people give me attention or when guys just hit on me. I tend to just get flustered bc it seems completely random and out of left field and i get more and more shy. It wasn't until this year was when I just wasn't so shy and I'm sorry to say this bluntly but I got used to it, so having to politely say "no" wasn't that bad. I am now in a loving, healthy relationship in which for the first time, I actually feel safe (generally speaking) and protected. I've had to learn to let me guard down and open up to him and trust that he can take care of me and things, which has been challenging for me but I do love and appreciate it. I noticed that when guys hit on me, it's the strangest feeling in the world and I get super super uncomfortable. I don't know if it's because of the time, place, situation but it's even more strange. For example, I picked up a "to go" order and the waiter (who my family and I have known for years) randomly just hit on me, gave me a pen to write my number. I never game him my phone number. He just talked to me and gave me the paper and pen and I didn't write anything. I just took the food and left. First off, I'm stunned bc it was random, two: i RARELY see him, three: I just went to pick up food, and four: where on earth did he get the idea that I was interested? I wasn't flirting with him! And couldn't he have asked if I was taken? He asked how my life was going and yeah - I just mentioned my life, hobbies, work (bc I do have life and own interests even with my lovely boyfriend) but I did add how I did more guy things too. Maybe that was the cue and I'm the naive one but I just don't understand why I feel so much more uncomfortable. It's like I'm a deer in headlights. Why?
Can ignoring a girl be beneficial in attracting her?
Ignoring can become a GREAT ATTRACTION TOOL if used correctly but it’s a DOUBLE EDGED SWORD that may also blow of your chances with a girl.Here are some examples of how IGNORING works as an attraction tool:When she breaks up with you - When a girl is the one who broke up with you, chasing her will only drive her away more as it would make you look desperate thus making her feel uncomfortable. So IGNORING her by cutting all communications will give her the space to miss you and they will tend to wonder about you with your precious moments together. Once her feelings of realization has reached the threshold that she still wants you, she will reach out to you. From here onward you are already permissible to STOP IGNORING her by replying on her messages and go with the flow. Then you can take things slow from here.When she is starting to become cold on you - If a girl you’re dating or someone you like is not enthusiastic in giving you her attention anymore like before and it’s not because she’s mad at you, then it’s because you are become needy or clingy by showering her attention so much that it starts to annoy her. So if that’s the case you can back off and IGNORE her by not giving her your attention anymore. When she senses that you are not into her anymore and she still has a bit of interest in you then she will make an effort on getting your attention, so at that point you may STOP IGNORING her and reciprocate by giving her moderate attention until she is not cold on you anymore. Remember to not annoy her again on your neediness.And here’s how IGNORING can blow of your chances:When she makes an effort to talk to you then you ignore her - No need further explanation here. Obviously it will piss her off on how a rude selfish individual you are.You keep on ignoring her again and again- Let’s say you ignore her the first time and it didn’t piss her off yet for some reason. When she tries to grab your attention then you ignore her again because i don’t know what the heck you’re thinking then it’s game over, you will never get her attention again.Also here are some useful articles you may want to read to know more on how to use ignoring as an attraction tool:Get Out of the Friend Zone - Ignore Her? || How to Win Her Back by Ignoring Her