How do I make myself look like a boy?
You're lucky, you're tall. I'm curvy too, it sucks, but if you can bind your chest down and are careful with what you wear it shouldn't be too much of a problem. Basically, you should invest in a binder, with your chest size, from here: http://ftm.underworks.com/ Either the tri-top or double front. No wearing clothes that hug close to your skin. Hair is important. If you're more bigender then get something that you can change up to fit with the gender you're presenting, if you're more male-identified get something obviously male. Short on the sides and longer on top. If it's short all over you run the risk of looking like a lesbian. Not that that's a bad thing, but it's not really what you're going for. If you wear earrings, keep them asymmetrical or take them out. Restrict your voice to its lower tones. Body language is as important as anything. Pay attention to how guys and girls walk and sit and copy the guys. Keep your hands off your hips, don't cross your legs at the thighs, things like that. There's a huge FTM community on YouTube. Go there and search "FTM passing" and you'll find a myriad of helpful results. Research. Stay safe. Seek gender therapy (not to change you, to help you.) Good luck.
My Daughter has Gender Identity Disorder (she's trans-gender) What should I do?
Ever since she was little she preferred her twin brothers toys, clothes, everything. At first I wouldn't let her wear his clothes or anything, then when she was about 6 we gave in and let her buy boys clothes. Her mother was tom boyish anyway. Now all her clothes are boys (except underwear but if I'd let her wear boxers she would), she's in the Scouts, She plays cricket, Guitar and generally does boys stuff. I let her keep on doing this because I thought it was a phase and I wanted her to be happy. Recently she turned 14, I have often found her in tears and distressed about how her body is changing. It took us a painful few hours while she explained to me exactly how she felt. She says she is a Boy in her mind. She is distressed and upset about growing breasts, starting periods and her hips widening. she is jealous of her twin getting tall and muscular. She has often contemplated suicide. She has taped up her breasts so they appear small. SHe told me she wants a sex change ASAP. I have no idea what to do. Should I take her to see a GP? We live in the UK and I don't know what the laws are about it. I want her to be happy. Also, because of her short hair and boys clothes she gets bullied at school. She hasn't any friends and gets distressed in Sex Education, PE or other single sex lessons. What can i do about this without embarrassing her. http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advi... ANY NASTINESS WILL NOT BE TOLERATED HERE.
In your opinion, which is the more difficult gender transition, female to male (FtM) or male to female (MtF)?
I'm going to approach this just from the physical side, because at least in my experience, all trans people go through the same mental and social hurdles in the process of transitioning. I'm going to disagree with the other answer here and say that I personally think that MtF transitions are usually harder than FtM ones.While I completely agree that the surgical options for MtFs are better than those for FtMs, that’s usually something that comes pretty late in the game, and bottom surgery in particular doesn't really affect one’s ability to pass in a non-intimate social setting. As far as hormones go though, testosterone does a lot more than estrogen, and it tends to do it faster, too. Once growth plates have fused, it can't make trans men taller, nor can it take away their breasts, but it can do just about everything else. Trans men experience facial hair growth, muscle buildup, and fat redistribution all to the point where they look like cisgender men after a year or two, especially if they have a good binder or have gone through top surgery. Trans women experience a lot of the same things on estrogen, including fat redistribution, skin softening, and breast growth. There is one incredible crucial difference between MtF and FtM transitions though, that being that testosterone will make your voice change, whereas estrogen will do nothing to fix it if it has already dropped.This is a massive hurdle for trans women, who have to go through months or even years of difficult and exhausting voice training to get their voices to a point where they sound convincingly cisgender. There are surgical options that shorten the vocal chords, but that’s a riskier option that not a single trans woman I know has opted for. And on top of that, voice changes are something that happen very young in most people AMAB people, typically around 12–14 years of age. I started estrogen when I had just barely turned 17, and in a lot of ways that’s going to make my transition easier, but even that was far too late to save my voice from changing. The end result of this is that until their voices are mastered, a lot of trans women will “pass” quite convincingly until they speak (a cliche that unfortunately seems to be used as the punchline of a lot of sitcom bits).Nothing I say here is intended to downplay the struggles of FtM trans people. I'm merely speaking from my own experience, and I understand that no one answer is going to provide a complete answer to this question.
What do you think of people who claim to be "gender fluid" and "genderqueer"?
Do you think gender can be like this? Do you think gender identity, or identity in general, can be more than one thing? Do you think it's possible for a person to have multiple identities and not have something like dissociative identity disorder? Do you think a person can be both male and female? Or do you think it's more that everyone is a mix of male and female, but we all still ultimately identify with ONE identity in terms of our race, age, gender, sexual orientation, etc.? Me personally? I don't buy this "genderfluid" and "genderqueer" B.S. I think it's something trendy that someone has come up with to be some sort of non-conformist rebel who likes seeking attention for being eccentric. As an FtM myself, I still think people ultimately have AN identity. Not dual identities, not many identities, not neither/nor identities, but ONE identity in all facets of our being, including our gender. I think we all have aspects of our being that could be seen as both male and female, but what are these "genderqueer" and "genderfluid" people basing this on? On gender role stereotypes? On a socially constructed idea of what masculine and feminine is? If that is so, then how can a person be born something that is socially constucted? And if they believe a person is born gender fluid or genderqueer, then how can a person be born as something that is socially constructed? What really irks me about these so called "genderfluid" and "genderqueer" people is that they often take on the gender of whatever is appropriate for their given environment. It's not (to me) so much about a feeling of who they are, but more as an outlet for gender expression, rather than an internalized feeling of gender itself. I have a friend that identifies this way, and one day he wants to be a boy, and another day she wants to be a girl, and yet another day, ze wants to be "ze" and neither. However, these different genders will always depend on who this person is around, what other people will think of his/her gender expression, and what would be considered "appropriate" in a given environment, such as work vs. GLBT student organization. And to me, that really pisses me off. Because this same person will call him/herself "trans", and I'm trans too. I'm FtM. My gender has never changed, my gender expression has never changed, and it's not something I flip on and off like a light switch to "fit in" easier. Anyone else's thoughts?
How do lesbians hide their boobs?
I'm a lesbian and I dress like a boy, I want to try to hide my boobs. They're always giving it away that I'm a girl. How do I hide them? I'm not sure exactly what size they are but I'd say around C cup. I want strangers to think I'm a boy instead of automatically knowing my sexual orientation. So how do you hide yours? And how do I hide mine?
Am I genderfluid or tomboy?
Your Open Question: Am I genderfluid or tomboy..? Alright I've asked the same thing a couple times but I'm having a bit of a hard time with it. So I've been bisexual for a couple years now and I have a boyfriend currently and talked to him about it, but there's been some stuff going through my head. Recently, one of my best friends came out trans (really happy for him :3) and he said before that I came across as a "pan sexual, gender queer type". So me being me I too his words and thought about it and how it might be true. Since I was little I was always a really big tomboy. Like, I had no girl friends for a while. Seriously. And I wore guys clothes etc. etc. yeah, then I was a tomboy. And later, in my teens and recently, I'm like, I wish I was a boy more and more often. I've been binding my chest (which is hard, cuz I'm a D) and doing my hair (which I cut short) in more boyish styles, and wearing clothes that are guys and acting more guyish and just wishing more and more that I was. But then, other days, I dress up totally girly and act the total girl part and that's when I don't bind and wear makeup and do my hair cute. If it matters, which it doesn't really, I generally like girls more, which I think is part of why I want to be a guy. But at the same time, I say, "my body is a girl, but my head isn't". And I'm afraid, if I am, to come out to my mom cuz I feel... Fake? Like if I say this, people are just gonna look at me like I'm looking for attention or something, especially my family. They still think that I'm bi (for 3 years) in a phase or something. So, my questions are, does it seem like I'm genderfluid, any binding tips, and does it seem like I'm fake here? Thanks for reading all that it was a lot... I really appreciate it
Transgender and non-binary people: what does it feel like to pass as your gender for the first time?
Thanks for the A2A. This is a great question! I think my answer may be different from some others, though, as I don't remember my first time.I was assigned female at birth but whenever possible I presented as a boy beginning around age 4. I was often read as male in stores, librarians, playgrounds etc. I loved it. I was a boy.This changed in puberty when I had several years of deep angst, grew my hair longer and found more androgynous clothes in an effort to fit in.When read as male before puberty I loved it… secretly. It made me feel strong, free and deeply connected to my body (to which I normally felt quite disconnected).As I got a bit older the feelings became mixed. I still liked it but it was mixed with anxiety. Kids had begun asking why I had my hair short, why I wore boys clothes and some teased me for looking and acting like a boy. I started to feel bad and wrong. I felt like a boy in my heart and my mind's body but I knew my given body was female. I had very mixed, very shamed, anxious feelings. This was the 1970's.When read as male as a teen it caused me pure anxiety. I was deeply conflicted. I was terrified to not fit in, to be gay or trans. I felt like a bad person. I didn't know exactly what made me different but there was no question that I was very, very different. I felt very little joy by then in any part of my life, really. I was deeply depressed and ultimately became suicidal.I didn't feel the pure joy of being gendered as male until many years later. Not until I went into therapy to overcome my shame, guilt and self hate…and to ultimately begin my transition.To be gendered appropriately and see myself as the guy I've always been today is life confirming and affirming. It makes my heart sing. It can make me feel that I could fly. I feel strong to the very core of my being. It is pure joy — so exquisite that I often feel there are no words that can describe it fully.
How to make a female look more masculine.?
im gender neautral and just wondering what to do to look more masculine. like exercises or just different clothes. and im going from savannah to jesse, so some feedback on the name too. thanks :] peace!