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I Broke Things Off With Him But I Miss Him. Should I Contact Him

If you contact an ex after he has broken up with you, will it annoy him more or miss you?

I was going through all the answers by all these nice people mentioning that no contact is really important, and deleting all of your memories in photos or throwing away the souvenirs helps.It does not. Believe me I've tried. I set fire to everything she ever gave to me.If you've truly been in love with your ex and they have been truly in love with you nothing ever will help.Now to answer the question; I happened to call my ex girlfriend last week, she didn't pick up.We had a pretty rough breakup. I thought it was okay that she didn't want to talk to me.Two days later when I got back from the gym I saw 2 missed calls and 20 messages from her.It's been a full year, (including no contact and 'trying' to destroy each and every memory we had together).I was nervous, I had never done this before, What if she says something disturbing and hurtful to me? What if she thinks I still miss her? What if she thinks I am desperate? What if she hates me now? What if she laughs me off and hangs up.All those thoughts came rushing to my mind.When I called her back, I was breathless-Hello? - Listening to that familiar voice soothed me. - You remember me?..And then we talked for two straight hours, exactly like we used to when we were together.A day later she uploaded this.Does she think I'm desperate? - NO.Do I want her back?- NO.Does she want me back?- NO.Do we miss each other?- Probably.Love will help you grow, it's infatuation that'll kill you.

Broke up with my boyfriend but now I miss him?

You need to remember the reasons you left him in the first place: you've never thought you were perfectly compatible, you felt like the passion was gone, he's a bit selfish, etc.
Now let's list the reasons you want him back: you miss him, you're left with a void, he has a good personality, he loves you, you're lonely.
The reasons you left him aren't going to magically disappear if you take him back; you'll still won't be compatible, the passion still won't be there, he'll still be selfish, etc.
The reasons you want him back will disappear. When you meet someone knew you won't miss him anymore, you won't have that void, and you won't be lonely. He'll still have a good personality, and he'll still love you. But he's not the only guy with a good personality, and he's not the only guy who will love you.
If you had legitimate reasons to leave him, then you shouldn't go back simply because you miss him and are lonely. I know, from experience, how much it sucks to be surrounded by friends who all have their own relationships, and so they don't spend as much time with you. They get busy with stuff and then a good portion of the time they are free, they spend it with their boyfriends. But they won't always be busy/with their boy. Let one of them know that you really could use a girls' night out. Tell them that you really need someone by your side right now. They'll understand.

I broke his heart and really miss him?

My boyfriend of six months ended things with me. But only because I'd been very distant with him the last few weeks of our relationship (developed a thing for my ex which was completely stupid). He went away for a week to let me think about whether I wanted to be with him or not. He came back from out of town and I said I still wasn't sure and he said we should just be friends. It was then that I realized I didn't want to just be friends with him; I needed him. I thought it was just the unexpectedness of the breakup. But now it's been over a week and every day is worse; I am always thinking of him. I have been very honest about how I felt, that I love him and want him back and would do anything; but he says that damage has been done and it's too late. That he and I should be friends. What damage could possibly have been done inbetween the time that he left for a week and came back? He gave me the choice before he left and then made the choice for me when he came back and said he was too hurt to allow himself to possibly be unloved by me again. What in the world can I do?

No contact will get my ex to miss me?

I am in your situation right now, but I have decided to move on. So trust me this works!!!

Do not contact him at all. I don't care if an asteroid is coming at you and you want to profess your undying love for him. Do not contact him at all. If you have myspace or something and he looks at your profile, do not do anything to make him jealous or upset, don't even update your profile or anything...make him think you are as happy as a clam and life is peachy keen without him. This will drive him crazy soon enough and then the ball will be in your court. When he comes back DO NOT under any circumstances act overly excited and rush back into his arms. Make him work for it....YOU ARE SO WORTH IT!!! Remember this...if you really want him back...do not contact him, teach him a lesson, every time you try to contact him, it will erase all the progress you have made, and you will be giving the power back to him.

This tactic worked wonders for me...My bf broke up with me and shattered my heart and I did not contact him at all for about a month (38 days to be exact), I even mailed his belongings back to his apartment. He came back begging and pleading and all that crap...I actually believed him and we got into another fight less than a week after we started talking again and now he is pulling the same crap...He even admitted he wouldn't find anyone like me (and I am positive he won't) and now he pulls the same crap again? Whatever I am better than that, it's his loss!!!

Anyways, back to you!!! Ofcourse he misses you, but he is a guy so he won't admit it...but don't worry, if you guys were together for 4 years, I am sure that everything he looks at reminds him of you!!! I can assure you of that.

Ask yourself is all this really worth it...why should you have to make a guy miss you? That's not what a real relationship or true love is about.....there are other fish in the sea my dear...even though I still love Dave (he was my first love!) I know that if he isn't the one for me, that I will love again!!!

And if your man really is the one, he will come back to you and fight for you. You don't deserve anything but the best!!!

Good Luck and Stay Strong!!!!!!

My long distance relationship broke down because I missed him and was overly attached, while he wasn't keen on communicating even though I told him I needed it. I still really love him, should I give us a break for six to nine months then visit him again as a friend and slowly build things up again?

Long distance relationships are hard. And like anything that's challenging, it can either make you or break you. To have any chance you both have to be in the same book, and to really be successful on the same page as well.There are a couple of things that can explain the lack of communication on his part. To some people a phone call does not replace human interaction, and no matter how connected you may feel, it may not the same same for him. It could be that he has replaced you. By that I don't mean cheating; he could be that he finds other activities to fill his time (a coping mechanism if you will). There could be many other reasons, but we cannot ignore that he may not feel as strongly about the relationship as you do.I was on the other side of a similar situation.My ex-girlfriend (let's call her Sophie) and I truly loved each other. I went away for college (I found out later that she hated that I chose to go away from her). I am not a big fan of talking on the phone. But we talked on the phone everyday, even for a short time. I got involved in a lot of activities, met a lot new friends, joined a fraternity, played intramural soccer, volleyball, basketball, and some other clubs. I was always busy. She wanted to know every detail of my day, and wanted to call or text through out the day between classes and activities. That was very frustrating to me. I still truly loved her, but I could not maintain that kind of communication. Needless to say, we argued a lot. She decided we needed to take a break (but will remain friends) because things were clearly not working. We barely talked for the first month. But we started talking more often again. To a point a made a joke about her having OFD (obsessive friendship disorder); she did not care for that. I never considered (nor did) dating someone else until the end of my 4th year when it was clear it was over.She could not make it clear to me how hurt she was by my lack of communication, not in a way I understood at least. I could not explain to her that my not wanting to be on the phone constantly was not really about her, but how I see a phone. My only advise to you is to talk to him, preferably face-to-face, be genuine and have no reserve, and require the same of him, and figure out why he is not keen on communication. I am not suggesting you sensor how you feel, but analyze yourself, and see if you are asking for too much.

Boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago.....?

Sounds as if he is confused or maybe really wants to try out this new relationship. He did text you back, so he's definitly not ignoring you. Maybe he thought that by answering your last text, that he was crossing a boundry and he felt uncomfortable. Or maybe he is feeling the same way but didn't know how to respond. Give him time and see what happens.
As far as your apt!!!! You need to IMMEDIATELY change everything around. I mean EVERYTHING. Rearrange all the rooms, move the furniture to different spots, etc. Make it look like a brand new apartment. This will help it seem NEW and it will not remind you of him. I did this after a break up and it helped me tremendously.
If you keep trying to contact him, this will push him away. Definitly give him space and make him wonder what you are doing. Soon enough curiosity will overwhelm him and he will call.
The relationship you had with your boyfriend was a HABIT. You are used to him being their and it feels uncomfortable and lonely that now he is not. Just remind yourself why you two broke up and remember that you both have moved on and it is OKAY. You two may get back together, you may not. Either way you will be fine. It's okay to have memories, though don't stress or fixate on them. Move on with your life, do new things and enjoy your new man!

Should i tell my ex i miss him?

my boyfriend and i got together last october. It was really exciting at the beginning and we both thought it would go really far. Just after Christmas, he started being in contact less, and witholding affection when we were together. He ended it, saying he didn't feel the same any more. A few days later, i was at a party and made out (and some other stuff) with another guy, as i was a bit drunk, and felt like i needed the affection. I know now this was wrong, and really regret the drunken decision. My ex doesn't know. I really miss him and want to be with him as i think i love him. What should i do?

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