What should I do if I don't like my brother's girlfriend?
I'll tell you of my particular situation below but as to how you deal with this is your primary concern. You are going to be called on to use all the patience you have. You have to let your brother make a potential mistake. Keep to yourself and don't get in the middle of their business. Zip the lip. If you can do this now you will be in a better position to help your brother if things go sideways.It's a very delicate situation and anything has the potential to set it off as you will see in the story below. My brothers first wife was a mean,thoughtless woman. On Christmas Eve I had a dinner party. She arrived, got herself a stiff drink and with a cheerful smile on her face, said, "You won't believe the stupid thing your brother did today!" Silence. Before I could stop myself, I had shot her a look. A that's my brother you're talking about look.That's all it took for her to declare war on myself, my son and my dad. We had a small family and we really missed my brother. It was another year before he had had enough of her scornful, bossy, superior additude, divorced her and within a year found a lovely lady to love. And we love her too. So it all worked out but you've got to back straight off and let him find out for himself. That's the only way it will work.Good luck.
Need advice: Brother's girlfriend won't let him talk to me?
I'm 30 weeks pregnant and left my abusive husband who was cheating and spending all of our money to go live with my brother because he invited me to stay with him to get back on my feet. My brother lives with and financially supports his gf, their daughter and her 3 kids from a previous marriage. Apparently my brother and his gf expected me to move in and be their au pair (I wasn't told this prior to moving in). I cleaned the house and found 2 jobs to work to save for my son. My brother went out of town last week and texted me about his problems with his gf. She has assaulted him b4 leading to an arrest. I voiced my concern about her to him through texts and he agreed with my opinions and she snooped and found them. Now my brother isn't allowed to talk to me and I received a verbal attack from his gf about it. I'm trying to move this Friday but can't even talk to him about him helping me pay for the rental car that he promised to get me to help me move. I can't pay for or move w/o it.
Need Advice! My Girlfriend and my Brothers Girlfriend don't get along?
You brother's GF is very jealous of yours even if she wont admit it. Try convincing your GF to invite her somewhere with her friends to show her that she's not a threat. Your GF may not like the idea of spending time with someone who would love nothing more than to cut off all her lovely hair, but it might help to diffuse the situation. Try to get you GF to not talk to your bro as much. It may be that his gf thinks that yours is going to steal him away. Again, your gf may not be keen to the idea. Also make sure your GF and your brother give her plenty of compliments. Your brother's gf is insecure and needs to feel special and treasured. Examples of good compliments that your gf can give also include minimizing the threat. Examples: "Wow, your hair looks amazing! I wish mine looked that good." It put herself down a little and makes your brothers gf feel like she won something "I love your shirt, it really makes your eyes stand out! Now I wish I had worn something more elegant to keep up with you."
I hate my boyfriend's brothers girlfriend?
I don't mean to get under your skin, but you sound petty. When I read the title I thought I was gonna hear about some super b-tch out to destroy your relationship. But that's not the case here. Choose your battles, love. This is not one worth fighting. You said it yourself. She is insecure. Which is probably why she copies you. Whether she's willing to admit it or not, she looks up to you. Should that not flatter you? There are things in you she wishes she had in herself, so it's no wonder she bullies you and tries to emulate you. She's jealous. Being copied was something that might've made me mad when I was in grade school, but now I'm old enough to understand where it's coming from. So are you. Understand she can NEVER be you. You are something unique and try as she might, she will never steal what makes you special. As for everything else, you don't have to be best friends. Limit your time together, and when you are together be civil. When she's like that, remember what I told you about why she acts out and be amused (cuz honestly sh-t's funny when you think about it...). Don't let it get personal, or affect how you present yourself. Try being nice even. It'll confuse her. But do NOT stoop down to her level. Take a few pointers from Dan and stop paying so much attention to her. You can't change this woman and she doesn't have to like you. Accept it and let it be. You are in control of you and you don't have to be apart of that if you don't wish to be. Age: 25 in a week
My girlfriend can't stand my sister. What should I do?
If you are a good bf and love your gf, your gf comes first always… not your sister. You sit down with your sister and this is what you say: “Mara is my gf. You are not. You come further down the list. This is how it goes: 1. Me 2. My God. 3. Mara 4. My kids 5. My work 6. My parents. 7. Her parents. 8. My siblings 9. My friends.That's the pecking order. If that upsets you, that is not my problem. That is your problem.” Don't let her interrupt. She will be all over you with objections.Is your gf from your culture? Probably not. Her ways are different from your sisters. That's a gap. Her ways are not your sisters' ways. That will always upset them. It's called intolerance. You like your gfs ways.Let me say this. If you ever had any kind of touchy-feely with your sister, this will not work as your sister believes she trumps your gf as she was first with you. Get it. Don't take that as an insult please. I just know that happens sometimes. That will have an effect. If that is not the case, all the better.Never have your gf and sister alone in the same room. Don't invite her to your dinners or parties. Always invite them separately. I hope there was not ever anything sexual between you and your sister. That way the above talk over and over will work. Eventually, she will get that she is not top dog in your relationships. She believes she is top dog.YOU HAVE TO BE THE STRONG ONE HERE. YOUR GF WILL GIVE YOU RESPECT IF YOU ARE STRONG FOR HER.There is female competition going on here. My guess is you are a great catch. Your sister is envious. People say family first. I don't believe that at all. How can you have a great sex life with your gf and possibly future wife if you don't put her first! Not possible. Men wonder why things are not going well in the romance arena. This is often why.
If you found out your brother was cheating on his girlfriend, would you help your brother keep it a secret?
If I found out at all, it would be after carefully investigating should I believe that he would do something like that. Knowing how he is about commitment to one partner and how much it would hurt him if his partner would cheat on him, I don’t have to worry something like that.But I’ll play with this hypothetical: My brother is cheating on his girlfriend and find out through a series of odd events. Now what? I’d confront him about it. If he asked me to keep it a secret, I’d think my brain would fry from the red-hot fury I would be feeling. Maybe he would be cooked from the aura too, and that would teach him.Jokes aside, I don’t tolerate adultery, regardless of familial connection and I’d be furious. That wouldn’t not stop me from calmly explaining why he should end the affair. If he agreed to end the affair, I'd keep my mouth shut. The keyword in this question is “cheating,” as in ongoing affair; his refusal to end the affair would be… unfortunate to say the least, and still asking to keep it a secret would be fuel to the fire. I’d tell his girlfriend, my family and leave it at that.
Falling in love with my brother's girlfriend?
Ok I've got myself into a terrible situation, and I guess I'm looking for a bit of advice. The title says it all but if you can take your time to read the rest of this post you'll get a clearer idea of my position. I wouldn't think twice about it when I agree to myself that I am now deeply in love with this girl. I know the truth can be said that there isn't just one person for each of us, but this is what it feels like. I've never felt more connected to someone before. Literally, I feel like its taken me these short 23 years to find someone so amazingly kind, and smart and creative and understanding, and so beautifully shy in the similar situations I'll freeze up in, and unimaginably gorgeous... that it feels like I'll never in a million years find someone so perfectly rare. We're so comfortable around each other and extremely good friends. We're the same age, we have so much in common and share the same ideals and ideas. I don't want to ever let her go, as a friend I never will. But I so desperately want to be closer with her. To be able to kiss her, and take care of her. But she appears to be very happy with my brother. They've been going out for a year now, and for the details, I've only known her for 8 months. Not exactly a long time but it's been long enough. Now, I love my brother. And I would never want to hurt him. And that's enough to say there because that's just it. My brother is an amazing person and doesn't deserve any mistreatment. He's a few years older, he's the kind of person who I could actually talk to about this situation and he'd understand. But I really don't want to do that. Eventually, when the timing feels right, I want to tell her how I feel, and hope she feels similarly. But ultimately, all I want to know is if this will have a happy ending. I go to bed every night wondering if we ever will be together, how it could possibly happen. The idea of losing her breaks my heart. I wish I had known her years before...
HELP me to stop hating my brother-in-law's girlfriend!!!!!!!! PLEASE!?
I hate to say it but it sounds like you have anger and jealousy issues going on. I didn't even have enough energy to real your whole post but it seems like you are quibbling about small things. That is her personality and she can't change it - should she change to make you happy? Aren't you happy she is having a baby? Who are you to judge she had an abortion? It sounds like to me you resent her a lot, but for the wrong reasons. She is not your girlfriend. Deal with it you are not a child. Best luck and try to cut her some slack, even if you have nothing in common.