I can't handle college, I am depressed and can't do homework anymore without going insane, and I'm gonna fail.
I can't handle the workload this semester. I only needed to pass two more classes before I graduate. But the homework and studying is giving me all sorts of problems. I get migraines just trying to do this extremely difficult work. I want to drop my classes but my folks pay for my college, and I hate thinking that It would take another year for me to graduate (the class I need is only offered during the spring). I don't think I can continue with this class right now without getting more depressed, headaches, and I'm pretty sure I can't pass it. What should I do? I'm going to contact my psychiatrist of course. I'm more worried about having to wait another year until I graduate... ug... I'm already the oldest senior... and I'm worried about my family because they will pressure me not to drop my classes this semester. Not to mention, everyone expects me to graduate. Halp!
UK - Depression? - partners of people with - how can we cope?
If you are living with a depressed person it will affect those you they live with. As you are a mum to 2 believers it must be so very hard for you to keep the excitement of xmas going, I bet you try to compensate for your partner. I am sure you have got down all the routes, medication, counselling, light-box, ect. Years of this may have taken its toll on you finally. Have you thought about some counselling for you (not that you are clinically depressed, just depressed with the situation)? Does your partner really realise that you feel sad and down? Ask your partner to go to a counseling session together for the both of you, he will then hear how you are, often a depressed person (unknowingly) becomes selfish by thinking in their own world of depression. And perhaps hearing your side of being a supportive partner may even help him a little to put his thoughts towards you. 2 children at school...you will be asked to help at school...practise saying NO! (just for now) I feel for you and your partner living with depression. After xmas go to your doctor and talk about how you are feeling. Try not to fret anymore about xmas, it is not the end of the world if you dont get everything or if your house is in a mess. Will there be anyone else who can help you with xmas, if so tell them how you feel and get them to help you, ask them to xmas food shop for you. www.netdoctor.co.uk - people discussing www.overcomingdepression.co.uk www.supportpartnersprogram.com
Cant help mom, we're poor, and getting depressed?
so my has been battling bi polar, and depression for years now, and she's going thru a particularly hard time. She recently lost her brother. She has no husband and no friends, barely any family. She is a sociophobe so she doesn't like to go out of the house which also worsens her condition. She absolutely HATES her job (well the people there) She gets doctors notes to miss a lot of work during the month so she doesnt have to be around them. But she continues and is able to work out of survival mode. She has no one to support her. She is a little overweight but beautiful and only 42! She has bad taste in men and can't find a good guy (online) I am 26 and married, I also currently live with her to help support her but it is stalling my life. My younger sister who is 20 lives with us too but acts like an irresponsible teenager. My brother is 22 and lives off with his gfriend and avoids helping. My intentions are to help my mom, but I feel like im at a dead end. We are so poor we can't help each other... I work at a job I hate just to pay the bills as well, and my husband works under the table but makes less than I do. Im falling into depression myself and I feel helpless..... any advice on how to cope. I just don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. My husband and I are scheduled to move out in August (dont know how we are going to afford, but for the sake of our privacy and sanity!) & my mom says by then she wants to kill herself because she doesnt know where she is going to live! its all on my shoulders! any advice? Problem is, I'm married, and
Daughter wont take anti depressants?
I was prescribed Anti - Depressants back in third grade and stopped taking them in about 7th grade. I'm now in 9th grade and still do not take them. I know I need them but I like to think I can handle my depression by myself, even though I can't. I'm sure that is what your daughter feels too. If she doesn't want to take them, you shouldn't force her. Just know that one day, it will most likely come to a point where her depression gets so bad that she'll realize for herself, she needs them. Let her know that it's her choice, especially since she'll be 18 soon. And that they will really help her but if she still does not want them, don't make her. Just encourage her to. Good luck!
My parents don t want to cope with me anymore?
I m 19 years old, and for as long as I can remember, I ve had all sorts of anxieties and depression from a young age. Long story short, the other week, after my mum got married to her new husband, she had a go at me for crying when I dropped my phone on my toe. I thought crying when you ve hurt yourself is a completely normal reaction, but then it continued with her telling me I need to get help and that she s fed up with it. I really don t get how it s gone from hurting my toe, to I need therapy... Whenever I try to talk to her about my personal problems, it always ends up in shouting and arguing. She will now cut me off straight away when I try to open up. She s the only person who has been with me my whole life, and now she doesn t want anything to do with me. This has really affected me badly. And even though I feel I m better, these situations drag me back down again. I don t know what to do anymore. I can t move out, I ve got no one to stay with, I can t even talk to my own parent anymore... I couldn t get any advice online so I ve come here. I m sorry if none of this makes sense, and that it s really long, I m just all over the place about this and need someone to give me advice or their opinions.
My husband asked for a break and now says his depressed and cannot work on the relationship anymore. What does this mean?
Ok lets clarify a few things here.He said he needs a break. Not a divorce. If he wanted a divorce and didn’t love or want you anymore. He would say so. He clearly still wants you in his life.He dealing with a lot of stuff which can take a lot of emotional energy and space. Its not easy working and then dealing with stuff you’d rather not be doing in your limited spare time.That being said, first and foremost, you have to tackle things within your control. That is his depression. He needs to see probably a doctor to validate that it is in fact depression he’s suffering from and not anything else. Then see a counselor or therapist. This is going to be a slow process, so you will need to be patient and reassure yourself to stick it out.For now, it might be best to consider a pause button being hit on your marriage.After a few months, when he’s coming out of it or coping with things a lot better then, he may be able to show a bit more love and affection. Just don’t think its the end, because having been through severe depression that has led to suicide attempts myself, it's certainly not easy to say or know what you’re feeling at a present moment. In my case, sometimes it was just numbness. Not happiness or sadness or any other quantifiable emotion. A lot of the time it was just pain. Mental pain.
How do I deal with unemployed-lazy-depressed husband?
I find myself in a similar situation. I don’t want to get divorced, but I’m finding myself in a position where you can’t help some one who won’t help themselves. He walked away from 15 years at a good job because he didn’t like how corporate his work was getting. We have two young kids. We almost lost everything.I am working like a crazy person and he is flat out refusing to work. I’ve been begging for almost a year. Recently I gave him 30 days to get into therapy and get a job. He isn’t speaking to me as a result.It’s easy to say you should leave, but not easy to do when you care about a person. Perhaps push therapy, that is what I plan to continue to do. And also to cut him off financially. I’ve been slowly cutting out thing after thing but not amount of cutting off of his “privileges” has made a difference. When he complaints, I tell him if he had a job… But he always has some excuse.I’ve tried to follow the advice of not adopting a parent/child relationship, so I don’t rely on him, I go about my life with or without him, I don’t support his bad decisions, to the extent possible in a marriage. I find this is extremely difficult because things that negatively impact him, also impact me negatively. I actually let our power get turned off because we didn’t have the money. Except we have kids, so what can I do! It has to be turned back on…Anyway, I wish the best for you, and hope that you find a solution that works. And if so, share it here so maybe it will help others!