Why is it so hard to express my feelings?
A good way to learn to communicate better is by writing down all your thoughts. I've been to therapy myself and have learned that the better you convey your thoughts, dissapointments, beliefs, and feelings the more they are able to help you. It will take time but this is what you should do. 1. Write down your feelings about certain situations, or what ever you want to get off your chest. 2. After you write it down elaborate on it and add details change things around that don't make sense. 3. Read it that final time and see how it sounds, then put it in your purse or wallet. 4. So when you talk to a person briefly look over it and that way you already know what you want to say. This is especially good when you go to therapy. This is a good way to start off. Eventually you will get better at communicating and won't need to write it down. The key thing to remember is get your thoughts together in your head first then speak. Try it and tell me how it goes. You can check out my profile and email me personally. God Bless you honey!!!!!
How can I stop feeling guilty about bad grades?
I recommend seeing a councilor is there is one at your school. If you think you are depressed, you should seek help. About the grades, you should realize that it is much harder to maintain an A+ as you get older. A B- is still very good, but if you feel you can do better, ask your teacher what you can do to get your desired mark. You sound like a very mature kid, so don't get to down on yourself! Good Luck!
Why do teenagers express their feelings through online?
Today's teenagers are what sociologists might term, media natives. They have grown up online, and a significant proportion of their socialisation occurs in virtual communities.There are many benefits and advantages to online virtual communities, not least of all synchronous interaction with one's media savvy contemporaries. Other appeals such as optional anonymity and relative safety also act as lightning rods to virtual communities, which are often favoured in particular by those with more introverted personality types.It's not the eutopia many teenagers perceive it to be, however, and the benefits of ubiquitous and immediate socialisation can come at the cost of more infrequent interactions off the screen.Much has been written of social media’s detremental impact upon traditional organic communities (including my undergraduate dissertation), though most commentators on the topic can't but recognise the inevitable shift towards lifestyles more interwoven with technology, and also recognise the many positive outcomes and opportunities emanating from the establishment and proliferation of the contemporary virtual world.
How do I get support for depression without telling my parents?
I think I would approach this by getting yourself into see your general practitioner physician. Let him, or her, know that you have some questions you would like to ask privately. I hate to suggest this, only because it puts pressure on you and can get you in trouble with your mom and I don't want a personal suggestion of mine to cause you to suffer more.And, there is the issue that I don't know how comfortable you are with your doctor. But what if you taped on your smart phone one of your mom's tirades. If she's loud enough, your phone doesn't even have to be on your person, but God forbid if she sees it. The way to do this successfully is to really think through the mechanics of making sure the phone is recording and that she can't see it and that ALL sounds on the phone are shut off. You could put the phone under a shirt, that she can't see through, on a strap of some sort.Then, IF the doctor is a sane individual, share it with him - let him know this is probably why you are depressed.I am very sorry for your suffering. Depression is very hard to live with. But it will lift when you are on your own and can freely reach out for the things and people and instruction and companionship that you need.I am so sorry that you are so sad; and that you are missing out on things; and that you feel like it will never be different; my tears for you are stuck in my throat right now. I'm sorry. And I'm sorry words don't count for much.Hang in there, and what one person taught me one time, a prior landlord, actually, just don't let circumstances or feelings stop you from continuing to make decisions to move forward.Ultimately, you are going to be on your own. Ultimately, you probably want every decision you make to take you in the direction of being a happy adult.I hope there is some clubs or activities at school that can get you OUT of the house at night so her moodiness doesn't take you over and make you have to crawl into that turtle shell that depression is. Like helping with the fall play or supporting a cause you believe in. Or maybe you can volunteer after school at the local animal shelter. They always need dog walkers and you don't have to walk any that you are afraid of.Don't give up, no matter what. You are important. Someday, you will not feel like this anymore.If you get stuck, ask Quora again, okay?
Do school counselors have to keep rape a secret?
They won't necessarily tell her parents, they will tell the police, which will almost inevitably lead to her parents finding out, among other things. Bottom line: If she isn't ready for people do know, she must not tell a school counselor, they will not keep it in confidence.
Please help me I can't do this anymore?
i've been having thoughts of suicide and i've been pushing this aside, thinking it will go away, i just can't do it anymore, i can't express myself i can't say what i'm feeling because i come from a strict african home, i've told my mum i hate my life and she's just told me to suck it up, i've tried and its not working, my parents keep arguing, my dad treats my mum like ****, now my mum suffers from anemia, she's in hospital, now my mum's in hospital my dads treating me just like her and i can't do it! i have no actual friends just fake friends who are using me for popularity, and people laugh at me behind my back i talk to my family about what i believe in and how i feel that the way they are trying to raise me is wrong and they tell me i'm rude and i don't appreciate life but i used to but now i don't know. i've talked to my mother about therapy and she laughed in my face, i can't go to the counselor in my school because someone's bound to see me going in and out of her office, suicide's the only option, but i'm a christian? do i shoot myself?
I don't know what I'm feeling?
Well yes, I suspect it does have to do a little with teenage hood. But this is definitely depression. Insomnia is a symptom, suicidal thoughts, feelings of worthlessness, etc are all depression related. In cases like these, it's not as simple as a "ok, this is the solution", solutions to depression is different to everyone. The most important thing to do is find a support system: whether it's your parents, siblings, friends or something. I know you said that you feel like you can't talk to your parents, which is something normal for a teenager to think; but perhaps you can talk to a friend. Even if you feel like you can be replaced, these negative thoughts could just be a false feeling caused by depression - perhaps you DO have a couple of good friends you can talk to you. You could try talking to your school counselor, some kind of mentor, etc. The point is you need to discuss with someone and kind of throw conversations back and forth to see what is causing this. Perhaps something happened that triggered this feelings, or it could just be that you're bored with everything, or maybe just a simple teenager trying to become a young adult. Depression is a VERY common thing, EVERYONE expereinces it at some point in our lives, although different people experience it in different ways - for some it is a huge blow, for others it's a minor bump in the road. The good news is that this is something you can overcome. YOU decide how you're going to live your life and there is NO one and NOTHING that can stop you from doing so. Your a young girl with great potential to be whatever you want to be. Stay strong, take your hardship and turn them into lessons and try to stay positive. And trust me, the older you get the more you'll realize how strong you are. There is nothing in life that we can't overcome. It may seem like the end of the road and you might believe that you JUST can't get through it...but trust me you will. Find something you love doing and do it. Talk to someone and talk to yourself - just make sure you're honest and open-minded. Good luck!
I can't express any emotions?
i really can't express when im angry or sad, all i have is this blank expression on my face. i watch the news and i might feel bad for people but that doesnt show through my face or words. the other day my friend called me crying because she said i was her only friend left and i didnt know what to say all i could manage was an "Ohh, I'm sorry" i wanted to tell her that i would never leave her but i couldnt. this guy that i really like and he really likes me and when he tells me soo all i can say is "Ohh, thats so sweet" then we got into this huge fight because i wasnt showing my affection. i really want to but i dont know whats wrong with me. many people describe me as cold, but i do have social anxiety disorder and i dont mean to come off as cold but i do. lately a lot of things have been bothering me but when im in my bed late at night and i just want to cry but i cant even manage one tear. my father is really sick and could be dying but even that doesnt bring out expressive emotion
Should I go to my school counselor?
I feel like I need to go to my counselor for some help because I feel overwhelmed and I get overly nervous and I freak out a lot and because of my freak outs I need to cut myself. The thing is that I'm not even sure it counts as self harm because it doesn't even bleed, it burns it just doesn't bleed. I know I need to stop doing this but i can't until I find some thing that will help me as much as cutting does. The reason I haven't been to my counselor yet is because I feel like since its not cutting too deep and it doesn't bleed its not important and its not serious. I don't want to wast her time if my problem is not serious because I know that school counselors are really busy. I also feel like if I tell her or anyone I'll be like the "attention whore". I don't know if I should go or not. What do you think?