Why do I feel like I can't trust anyone anymore? It seems like everyone in America is trying to screw you over. Is this true? Why would I think this?
Even though I try to remain positive I have troubles trusting anybody including family. As a child I was psychologically and physically abused. The abuse probley added to my problems with relationships especially once my significant other hurt me all trust was gone. After my late husband died from cancer his family tried to take everything I had and what we worked for together. First I dont blame just them I did things wrong myself every action causes a reaction. Because of the vindictiveness in the way my ex inlays handled matters which I won't go into. I seem to he incapable of trusting anybody. It isn't just American's that try to scam people. Out of loneliness I joined various dating sites the only men interested were supposed men from overseas claiming to he soldiers, engineers and in the long run trying to scam me out of money. I've simply come to the conclusion that people aren't worthy of trust and figured out I'm better off alone. I honestly have to say I wouldn't wish this existence on anybody to he totally alone only trusting yourself and your judgment. I have made myself so independent that I dont rely on anybody except when it comes to work there I have no choice. All I can say is dont become like me they say theres good people out there dont become me.
I don't trust anyone anymore.?
I don't trust anyone. It started when my dad stopped seeing me and my sister he used to come on the weekends to get us to take us out, then he just stopped coming 11 years and we've still not heard anything. I was bullied in primary school by people who were mean't to be my friends. Then i find out that my older brother and sister are just my half brother and sister my mum kept it from me and lead me to believe we had the same dads. then i find out i have a half sister who i didn't even know about. And finally people who are mean't to be my friends never include me in anything and only come to me when theres noone else. I can never be myself ever. and Ive lost trust in everything. what can i do?
I can't trust anybody anymore?
Take this opportunity to be self-reliant and independent. If you cant depend on anyone, depend on yourself. Also, expect as little as possible from people. Less expectations = less disappointments. When you first meet people, you dont need to trust or depend on them: just keep them around for the sake of having fun. Dont expect them to stick around during the tough times (but if you're lucky, one of these people might just stick around, and you'll realize you've made a real friend!). And finally, dont be sensitive. You'll realize that when you dont expect things from people, you'll naturally be less sensitive (so when someone doesnt stick around, you wont be as hurt because you werent expecting them to stick around anyway). I personally have realized that it is important to keep people around you (and be around people) just for the sake of maintaining/practicing your social skills & having fun. If you keep this in mind, then you'll be the one on the benefiting-end. You'll have people around (so you wont feel alone, and you wont develop social awkwardness), AND along the way you might just find a real friend:)
I can't trust anyone?
I can't trust anyone I can't trust any girl ( not got one) but if I did I wouldn't trust them cus I'll always think they gonna cheat on me etc, I can't trust my friends anymore I used to trust them I'd tell em my secrets they never told anyone them but I always think my friends would talk about me behind my back, so I can't trust anyone? What do I do I want to trust people again
I can't trust anyone and I don't like people.?
Hey, so I am 20 years old. I have no friends and nobody really talks to me. I try making conversation with people and put forth an effort to make friends but nobody is interested. I have no social skills and do no trust a single person. I have been stabbed in the back and screwed over so many times that I don't think anyone is a good person anymore. Whenever I discover a trait in someone new (that someone in the past who screwed me over possessed) I don't want anything to do with them because they all end up being the same. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself and it's impossible to build any up if I keep getting reminded of how shitty everyone is every time I come out of my shell to talk to people. I just don't understand anyone and I feel like an alien. I hate big crowds and I fail at engaging in the simplest of communications. One thing that makes the situation worse is that I get my hopes up and expect the world out of each new individual I meet. I refuse to befriend someone who drinks or does drugs because I have witnessed the hurtful and stupid things that can take place while under the influence of them. It seems like every girl cheats these days and if they don't then they can easily be persuaded to when they hang out with guys who try to get them drunk or high. I don't respect guys who take advantage of girls like that either. What do I do, and how do I trust anyone in this world anymore?
Is it bad that I can't trust anyone?
I've learned not to trust anyone easily anymore. I dont share any personal information and I don't like getting my picture taken. Every time someone has a camera I get out of the way. The only thing that makes sense of why I don't trust is that people take things and break things that are on my desk at my school. Otherwise is it bad that I don't trust, I don't share personal info, and I always get out of the way of cameras? I think I'm paranoid
I feel that i can't trust anyone?
I think you can have an okay life without trust; its hard to grow up and understand other peoples limitations. I think the way through is to transfer your sense of trust back into your self and be prepared by havign very low expectations of others so that you are pleasantly surprised if someone does come up with something that you would like to share with them but then dont fall into the trap of trusting them totally - Trust yourself that you can survive - that you can have a laugh and amuse yourself and be self sufficient -open to input but only on your terms - Its sad to lose that trust but we grow up and realise that the world is not quite how we imagined it would be.Doesnt mean its all bad or that it was all good before - Just means humans are pretty limited and sometimes capable of great acts of kindness and everything else . become trustable to yourself.
I hate all men and cant trust anyone help?
I have some trust issues due to cheating and just from having low self-esteem. I feel like every man is comparing me to prettier girls and only wants me for sex or some other benefit such as being driven around etc. I feel like they will go to any length to lie or keep a lie so they can get such benefits from me. I don't believe any of them are really good only some are bad on the outside and others hide it. I have been told there are "good" men out there but I cant believe that as I have been cheated on and used and it hurt me so much that I can't open up to anyone anymore. I feel the "good" ones are only "good" because they havent gotten a chance to use me yet and once they get the chance to use me they will and i will know their bad just like all the others so I hate all of them.
I don't trust anyone. I can't open up to anyone. How do I deal with this?
Well , if you are asking this question then you already have passed the first hurdle to open up.I am not gonna bore you with some ideal psychology but here are few points I believe:-It is perfectly normal to being an introvert . Not to trust anyone . Not being able to speak up about yourself. It is normal , it is just the way you are.Now if you want to change it , you can start with diary entry , just do it honestly , write everything , good or bad, stupid or cool, whatever it is. Through this you will get one guy to trust and that is you. Nobody is going to judge you with it.You can try to converse with yourself when you are alone , this really helps .Now when you have sorted out what is going on with you , it is time to tell few of those things to the person close to you ,for e.g friend , girl friend , boy friend , brother , sister , mother or in some cases father too :p . It will be risk for first time , but you gotta take this ,otherwise you will never know how to deal with it.People tend to disclose those things to other people which make them look good. Don’t be manipulative with your situation . Tell them the truth and listen to what they say. Sometimes it will be opposite of your thinking ,sometimes it will not.Don’t panic if anybody knows about your problem . Everyone have problem and nobody really bother to care about yours . So keep calm and face it.Trust is something you build with time . It needs proper attention and care .PS:- if this about a girl/boy you want to open up for. Just be yourself and give it time . It will get unfolded . The biggest thrill of relationships lies in its secrecy. :DCheers!!
I can't trust my brother anymore? Please help :l ?
So my brother and I have very close for the past year or so. I'm 16, and he's 18, and we actually hang out a lot. Most people in my school think we're friends, not related. But anyways, he's been dating one of my friends for about 9 months, and I'm completely okay with it, actually I really like them as a couple. But anyways, one of my other friends who used to date my brother told me he cheated on his girlfriend with her. I didn't believe her, considering she's a compulsive liar and hated his girlfriend. My brother swore up and down that it wasn't true, and I believed him. His girlfriend even found out, and now she's convinced he didn't cheat either. But now this girl showed me proof.. so yes, he definitely did cheat on his girlfriend. It's not really my place, and I'm not going to tell her. But I feel like my perspective on his is COMPLETELY wrong now, considering he used to only date whores (I know that his girlfriend actually isn't) I mean he's told me that this is the first girl he's really loved, and how he's over dating the whores thing and he's truly happy with her. I don't know, I just feel like I can't trust him at all anymore, and he hasn't changed into a better person at all. Should I talk to him about it? Because it kind of sucks being so close to your brother, then realizing he's the same person you couldn't respect a couple years ago..