How do I tell my guidance counselor that I'm cutting?
Hurting people hurt others. Theres nothing wrong with you its the people who are mean to you. They are sick and being mean makes them feel better. People/kids/parents do mean things or lie and control. They just want the reaction so they can get high feel good from it. The words are not true. They have a problem and they need control. When you have a bad past/rejection/father gone it lets other things start. Anorexia Bi polar, Cutting, OCD, anxiety, panic attacks, hearing voices can all come from a tramautic past. It opens doors to the negative and they start to dwell closeby, like addicitons cravings. You can talk to me or google "emotional abuse" and see all the definitions and see its all true. Knowing the truth is the step to freedom from pain. Negative people and abuse brings spiritual problems so praying to get rid of negative things of a spiritual nature is often needed after years of abuse. Its not you its them. Its all about you having control. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. Colosians 3-21 1. Read online about verbal abuse. Read 20+ sites. BULLYING 20 sites 2. Realize its their problem. 3. Realize anger hurts you not them. 4. Google "Sinners prayer"- stops sadness. 5. Google "Deliverance Prayers" Click my name to talk Source-- Experience
Should I tell my school guidance counselor that my friend cuts herself?
I'm sorry, but you've got to tell your counselor....I understand that she might get mad but maybe your counselor could handle it in a broad way and counsel your whole class about behavior that is dangerous and include cutting....your counselor will know how to handle it best. Tell the counselor that you still want to be friends with the girl and maybe tell her about your experience and she could tell your friend that you came to her about your issues or something....That's a big burden to carry around, girl!!!!! Talk to the counselor.
What should I do if my guidance counselor finds out I cut?
If you are called to the counselor tell him/her not to talk to your parents about it and tell them you are stopping it.
How do I tell someone I cut myself?
Doing it in person is hard. It's hard to face the slew of emotions that others feel when you tell them something so personal as that. If it's too difficult for you, I recommend doing it via a note or written media (I did it via a text message to my mom). This lets you revise the note as many times as it takes to get it to say what it needs to. It lets you think through it and make sure it won't elicit unnecessary panic or worry. And, it lets the other person process it before they approach you or seek other advice. It's a good way to get it out there with less stress to you.Mine said something to the effect of:"I've been really sad lately, and I hurt myself intentionally. I am not suicidal, but I feel so stressed that I don't know how else to deal with it but with hurting myself. I need help."Give this to a guidance counselor, parent, teacher, or other adult you trust. Please don't do this to a friend, if you're younger. It's a stress most teens can't handle, or won't handle properly. Confiding in friends is one thing; asking them to help you resolve a harmful issue such as this is another. Seek adult help, from anyone you can.I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've been there. Good luck, and feel better!
Everyone in school found out i cut myself?
Don't tell me how cutting is bad because i already have 4 different councilors* for that. My family also knows and so do my teachers and guidance councilors. SO.. in school people found out that i cut myself. And now people love to make fun of me for it. One time a kid looked at me and pretended he was slicing up his wrist with a pencil in school and said i tried to commit suicide 3 times. I then shoved him into a wall.. and i got suspended for a week. AND I WAS ONLY DEFENDING MYSELF. This happened like two months ago. And he got into no trouble at all. This is how it is like everyday for me. And when i talk to the guidance councilors or principle about it they say there is nothing they can do. Help?!
My parents found out I cut myself and they just got angry and didn't try to help. What should I do?
I would advise that after your parents and the situation settles down a little bit, try approaching whichever parent you're closer to your mom or your dad and just talk to them and in a mature and calm way. tell them that you need help. You have to be proactive in your own recovery and your own well being. Your parents are angry because they were scared. I know this for a fact, the core origin of fear is anger. You need to try to help them understand too. you have to remember cutting is a pretty new phenomena. It wasn't really around or at least talked about or exposed at all when your parents were your age. So sometimes us parents need a little bit of help and guidance from the ones we love the most. try that approach and see if it works. If it doesn't help then I would suggest you speak to a responsible and mature adult that you trust. Maybe an aunt, uncle, grand parent or someone at school. A teacher, a guidance counselor. Someone who is not so close to the situation. Good luck and don't give up until you learn some good and effective ways to resolve this dangerous activity. Mostly, remember that you have an immeasurable value to those that love you. You can love yourself too when you see all the awesome thing s that others do about you.
If I tell my guidance counsellor about my self harm, will she notify my parents?
The answer is more complicated and almost certainly more helpful than many of those provided here.(It seems as if the majority of the answerers are not actually working in counseling relationships with minors.)While it is true that in most locations, licensed counselors and others who work with children are required reporters - who must by law contact parents or legal authorities if a child is at immanent risk to harm themselves or others, that phrase contains some key information.Immanent risk concerns likely behavior in the present, not past behavior. There is no consensus in the ethical guidelines about whether a past history of minor self harm is actually indicative of immanent risk.If you have self-harmed in the past and are currently dealing with the impulse to harm, it would depend on how that appears to be going.Have you actually harmed recently? How seriously? What are the current stresses in your life that might increase that risk? Are you thinking about suicide or serious self-injury? Do you have the means to either harm or kill yourself? Are you planning to? Most importantly, what are the supports in place to currently minimize the risks?These are all questions that a counselor is required to ask in assessing the risk on which the judgement of immanent risk is based.While it’s true that self harm indicates a somewhat higher risk of suicide, they are not the same thing.In the end, I have to answer more simply…If you are feeling as if you need the support you should definitely be talking to someone who can help, rather than to friends, online groups or other untrained supports. All of these things are great to have, but it’s apparent that you need more than that, and so you are still asking the question…So my answer is this…Tell the counselor (at a minimum) that you are struggling with the desire/urge to self-harm. If you are worried about confidentiality, you can tell them you are not comfortable answering certain questions if you feel that your parents will know.In the end, it’s important that you get whatever will help the most.
Guidance Counselor Confidentiality Questions?
If your counselor knows about it, they can help you stop with professional help. The headaches you describe don't sound normal if they cause you to cut yourself. They sound like cluster headaches, possibly the greatest pain known to man.