Why do I have this irrational hatred of my roommate?
Every time I look at him I feel physically and emotionally distressed. He is not a bad roommate but we don't say much to each other, we both have completely separate groups of friends. But, I just don't know what to do about this feeling I get every time he's in the room. I am unable to do anything else but feel extreme distress and want nothing more than to beat him unconscious. I can't explain this at all and have never felt anything remotely like this before. What is wrong and what can I do to get rid of it?
Are INTPs really that nonchalant/emotionless like they are usually described to be?
No, INTPs are not either of that.We will be felling anxious in situation where others will be at calm (like a social gathering), and we will be calm where others will be anxious (like locked in a room filled with books). For example, we are turned on by a situation which will be boring for others, as we are turned on, we certainly won’t express boredom and people will think we are nonchalant and vice versa.If we INTPs talk about emotions, as per my opinion, we are not at all emotionless. We do have emotions, but we don’t have a system to process and express it. I can’t really make a general statement on this emotions thing, so I’ll tell how I deal with it.I mark emotions as irrational thing. I don’t know it is or not, but I just mark it irrational.I do feel some kind of emotions at times. But instead of dealing with it I try to avoid it by coming up with some logical explanation on why I’m feeling what I’m feeling. This way, I end up thinking that, it’s not a big deal, as I have a rational explanation for what I feel.Another reason why I avoid dealing with emotion is, I always think that rational thinking is an asset given to me so working on emotions will make me less rational. I think that, as soon as emotions will enter the equation, results will be biased and illogical and I certainly don’t want that to happen, so run away from emotions.Whenever I feel emotional drainage, instead of working out that, I start working on some problems to keep my thinking process away from emotions.That’s all about processing, when it comes to expressing I certainly don’t express emotions, because as I said I think they are irrational, so expressing them will make me look irrational.And when I neither process nor express my own emotions, we will find it difficult to understand other people’s emotions and I think that’s the reason why people perceive me as emotionless. I am not actually emotionless, but I don’t have a proper system to to process, express and understand emotions.Well that was my personal experience with dealing with emotions, many INTPs might relate to this. Comment if you have some more ideas on it.Thanks for Reading…
What are some characteristics of meth addicts?
Rather than the obvious signs of the homeless rock-bottom addict, perhaps it may be more useful to see some of the earlier subtle signs:-Weight loss despite junk food diet. They may appear pleasantly trim.-Bad skin-Very talkative, full of ideas. Can be intellectually interesting and engaging but at some point it feels they are talking at you more than with you.-No meaningful follow through on said big ideas.-Prone to irrational shifts into angry outbursts. These can be very quick and weird in normal conversation. -vanishing, unreliable to time commitments... Like not answering the phone all weekend, with vague explanations. In reality they were asleep for 3 days.-strange tooth decay, like along the sides of the front teeth. Teeth ground down.-hypersexual at times in risky ways-extremely clean house. Spotless bathrooms and kitchens. And yet there may be a nasty pile of junk hidden somewhere with piles of unfinished projects and found objects -spastic bird-like motions. If they are into dancing this might seem normal -rapid shifts in mood. They may go from sluggish and grumpy to quick and talkative after a short bathroom break.-weird hours in general. Like texting you at 5am with some sort of question -paranoid delusions. This doesn't have to be conspiracy theories and mind control, it could be extreme jealousy and accusations directed at you. Then it may get weirder with obsessions that various people or entities are watching them.-fascination with parts of objects.Contrary to expectations, there are severe meth addicts out there who hold down jobs and the appearance of normal life. In fact meth is a drug that can actually increase brain speed and productivity. Meth users are not stupid while high, but they end up irrational. They are dimwitted only when coming down. This makes the addiction very insidious as the addiction outsmarts the addict and the people around them in subtly sophisticated ways.
Why do most teenagers prefer to do absolutely nothing rather than their homework?
If you really want a non biased cure to a proper psychological classification ... Perfectionism, Distress, and Irrational Beliefs in High School Students. A study to examine associations between dimensions of perfectionism and irrational beliefs in an adolescent sample is necessary for this diagnosis. Tests of the association between psychological distress and irrational beliefs in adolescents are required. Evaluate the feasibility of creating a modified version in the Survey of Personal Beliefs for use with adolescents. According to JOURNAL OF RATIONAL-EMOTIVE & COGNITIVE-BEHAVIOR THERAPY Volume 26, Number 3, A sample of 250 adolescents (108 males, 142 females) completed the Child-Adolescent Perfectionism Scale, the Survey of Personal Beliefs, and the CES-D Depression Scale. Initial psychometric analyses yielded an abbreviated 30-item Survey of Personal Beliefs with adequate internal consistency for four of the five subscales. Our results showed that self-oriented perfectionism was associated significantly with all five irrational belief subscales, while the associations between socially prescribed perfectionism and irrational belief subscales were much smaller in magnitude. Self-oriented perfectionism, socially prescribed perfectionism, and irrational beliefs were all associated significantly with elevated distress among adolescents, and irrational beliefs predicted unique variance in distress, over and above the variance attributable to the trait perfectionism dimensions. The findings confirmed the association between perfectionism and irrational beliefs and their respective roles in psychological distress among adolescents.
Why do INTPs face so much trouble in social life?
Because INTPs are rational and so much of social life is sooooo irrational. If people could only work in ways that make sense, social interactions wouldn't be so anxiety inducing. As dominant judgers (in the sense that an INTPs dominant function is the judging function Ti), INTPs would prefer to show up everywhere, prepared for any situation that could come about. They can provide a contingency plan for almost any potential situation; but people are very hard to predict.INTPs understand that there are so many reasons that a person could behave in a way that is unusual to them or unusual to the situation, so when it comes to human interaction; INTPs don't know how to prepare. So if at all possible they will avoid. Even people they know.
What can I tell people about my political stance? The truth is, I do not have one. I am so sick of all the stupid bickering on news programs about the president and other politicians.
“What can I tell people about my political stance? The truth is, I do not have one. I am so sick of all the stupid bickering on news programs about the president and other politicians.”Consider yourself fortunate that you’re apolitical since it makes you generally neutral in the current politically charged social climate of the US (and the west).There is great personal advantage to being neutral since you avoid much of the social friction of offending or being offended during communications of all types whether that be F2F, via social media, mass media, etc.Many many people were (some still are) distressed over the election of Trump - these people had a very bad day that lasted day after day for weeks or months. Many many others were similarly distressed by the presidency of Obama. You are effectively immune form such emotional distress and the social friction that can result.You are effectively immunized against such irrational emotional distress since you don’t really care about politics. Not that concerns over politics are unwarranted but you as an individual choose what to concern yourself with and your choice is worthy of respect (especially considering that most people are poorly informed about politics and are merely parroting rhetoric they saw on TV or in a social-media meme).You are in a somewhat enviable position. For example if in a social situation there are people “signaling their virtues” by making politically oriented comments, you can play a sort of trump card (no pun intended) by saying “guys, I came here to relax and unwind, not to talk politics”.
Why are you scared to upvote an answer on Quora? Do you fear to look stupid for not knowing something beforehand? Why is this hesitation prominent even more on questions of sexual nature on a side note?
So far everyone has provided sensible, mature answers that maintain a good sense of perspective.In contrast, here are some of the things that run through my own mind in the decision making process…If I upvote an answer about a particular sexual fetish, are people going to think it applies to me personally?If I upvote too many narcissist questions, will people start to assume I am one?Will I upset my Christian friends by upvoting answers about atheism?Adult topic… sex, drugs… oh my god, what do I do? Should I even know about this stuff?? What about my innocent reputation?If I upvote a topic I only know a teeny bit about, what if someone assumes I know a lot about it? I don't want to give a misleading impression!If I upvote an answer that sets an impossibly high standard for marriage or parenting, will people think my life is really that perfect? I'd feel like a hypocrite for even upvoting it!If I upvote something about divorce, will it look like I have one planned? (I haven't!) What if my husband sees??If I'm the first upvoter of an answer to an Anon question, will people assume I am the OP of that question?Politics: What if I change my mind on an issue later? Is it OK to upvote stuff I disagree with when it makes a good point? How will people know what my real views are?This is a totally weird and irrational fear (I'm quite embarrassed by it actually) but… sometimes an answer distresses me so much that I get this overwhelming sense that even upvoting it will cause more horrific and distressing things to happen, somewhere in the world. (I'm trying to overcome that. I know it's bizarre, but my brain just doesn't work right sometimes!)The answer is popular. Or looks set to become popular. Can I really face the stream of “X upvoted after seeing your upvote”? You know my feelings on that notification!And sometimes it's just a matter of timing…What if I upvote a random post but I haven't answered all my friends' messages or comments or checked out their latest postings yet? Will it look like I'm ignoring them? I don't want that!So, there are some of my deliberations about upvoting. And I could go on. But I've never denied an upvote for “fear of looking stupid”. I'm quite keen for people to realise how stupid I actually am. I have a far greater fear of looking intelligent!