Tell the truth: do you find dark-skinned people ugly?
I bet that felt good. That's not sarcasm, that's identifying with how good it can feel to really let it all out. I am in complete sympathy with how you feel and if you were my niece or it were in my power in any way I would insist that you come live with us for a few years so you can get some breathing space. Above all to keep the arranged marriage from happening, this is a horrible thing to have done to you. When I was younger I felt hideous a lot of the time but it passed. I'm not condescending to you here, I'm just stating a fact of being a teenager. You are a straight talker and a strong person and I wish you the amount and combination of endurance and selfishness that will help you get through this time without being forced into a situation (arranged marriage) that will be much harder to get out of. That would be my immediate worry. Please get as much education and independence as you can grab because when the deck is stacked against you you have a choice of play along and aim to win, fold, or walk out of the game. All the other worries about appearance and religion are normal but too big and you can't solve them, nobody can really, so just concentrate on your goals. All the best
My ugliness gives me extreme anxiety. What should I do? Suicide seems so tempting.?
What makes you think you are ugly? Anyway, lets say you really are ugly. So what? Big deal. You can live with it and still be a happy person. There is a great variety of human appearances. Many, many people don't have what would be considered a classically handsome (or beautiful) face. Most people are average looking, of course. And some people aren't even what the norm says is average. There are people in this world who have very damaged faces due to accidents. How can they stand to go on living? It's all in your attitude. If you believe that "ugly" people don't deserve to be treated like a human being, then, yeah, you should go jump off a cliff. But if you can realize that your life BELONGS TO YOU and you can make it as good or as bad as you decide to do, then you will stop whining and just live your life as you see fit. What other people think of your face is of no consequence to you if you don't let it. If someone says: "You're ugly," you should be able to see beyond their appraisal of you. So you have a big nose. You didn't design your nose. You didn't make your nose. It's just the nose that you were given. Why should you have to be the one to jump off the cliff? If somebody doesn't like your nose, let them jump off the cliff. You have the right to your life, and to keep your nose right there on your face for all to see. There is a movie: Cyrano de Bergeric and "Roxanne" (the re-make). You should watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urdf4g-LX... It's time for you to enjoy life and STOP WORRYING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE!!!! (I know this from personal experience.)
Why do ugly people have a harder life?
I have a friend. Let's call her Apple.Apple is not so attractive girl. When we were in school, friends of our class used to tease her and used to make lame jokes. At first she used to cry and hide herself from others.Bt as the time passes she accepted herself. Because she cannot do anything with her color nor she can change.She became confident and started believing herself. Apple used to love dancing. So she took that as profession and started her career. And now she is a very successful dancer and she has many followers on Instagram. People started loving her dance.So coming to your question,Ugly people will never have a harder life when then start believing themselves and do what they love rather than thinking about “people”.When you come to a point where you have no need to impress anybody, your freedom begins.Thank you.❤️
So unhappy with myself for a long time..Seriously thinking about suicide..?
I wish I was there where you're living to become your friend. I don't think I'm the only person in the world that I don't mind how the others look. I'm sure that most of the people really are not so superficial that they would care. Life is a journey and not a destination. Suicide is unforgivable sin. There are plenty of solutions when it comes to our looks. The solutions you've tried to turn to are self-catastrophic and are only adding to your problem. Give yourself a chance! I'm a physical therapist and I'm visiting patients with serious neurological disorders, most of whom are unable to even walk! Have you tried to stay in a bed for just a whole day? You cannot! These people's lives is their bed! And still although depressed most of them, they still have courage and want to live! I'm having a patient that walks once a day, only if I'm supporting half of his weight, controlling his balance and directing him. When I'm asking him how he is, he's telling me "since I can walk, thank God"! This man helps me whenever I pity myself for anything that I think that it's a problem! There are always much worse cases than what we think that is unbearable. The ability to walk is extremely precious and we all consider it given. We don't appreciate what we have! Life is not easy! Whoever is saying such a thing, belongs to an extremely tiny and sad minority. Everybody has to walk to his own Golgotha. We already belong to a 4-5% of the world's population who can write and read, who own a personal computer, who will eat today, who have electricity and many other things that we consider given but the vast majority of the people who live on this planet never had! Learn to appreciate what you've been given and stop pitying yourself.
Please only answer this if you've experienced/experiencing depersonalization or extreme anxietes..?
I don't mean to sound rude or anything but sometimes I ask questions that I'm a nervous wreck about and I appreciate all the answers so so much but it would help if the people who answer this have some kind of idea as to what I'm talking about because the people don't sometimes give answers that freak me out/make me feel worse... That sounded bitc-hy, I didn't mean it that way though. This is my issue in a nut shell - I've had anxieties for about 10 years, I'm 22 now. But just last year I had my first anxiety attack, got really dizzy [is that normal by the way for an attack?] and ended up in the ER. Ever since then, I've been getting attacks where I get dizzy and don't know what's going on, I feel like I'm dreaming or I'm out my body. This started depressing me. Now for the last 4 months, its been so servere, I feel like I have absolutely no idea who i am anymore..which makes me feel like my life doesn't even belong to me. I'm completely detatched from my friends, my family, my boyfriend. It's almost like I don't know these people. I feel nothing all the time. I'm always blank. I feel like my head is empty, I have no thoughts, no feelings. It's very scary. I'm so detatched from myself that lately my speech has gotten effected. I feel disconnected from everything that comes out of my mouth and it freaks me out to the point where I almost feel like I don't know how to talk anymore- It's like pronoucing words and the meaning of words means almost nothing to me. I just wanted to see if anyone's ever felt this way with depersonalization or if I should be really worried. Nothing I say comes out slurred or anything like that..It's just sometimes the act of talking is confusing to me. Any advice/help/comfort I'd appreciate SO much. Thank you guys. : )
What does it feel like to be forever alone?
Sometimes I remember just how lonely I am, how deprived of physical or emotional intimacy I am, and it just leaves me with a cold, numb, empty feeling that radiates from my core to my extremities. Sometimes I think back on a time, any time, that agirl smiled at me, or laughed at a joke, or any basic, every day, little social cue that she's potentially a little interested, and I'm overcome with frustration bordering on rage because I couldn't bring myself to do anything about it. When that happens I might just sort of growl/moan to myself if I'm somewhere with other people around, but if I'm alone (especially in the car)I'll scream at the top of my lungs, either a stream of profanities or just a wordless bellow.When I see or hear any sort of reference to sexuality or romance I just want to bash my face in against the corner of a wall somewhere. Kissing scenes in movies, couples doing couple-y things in public (seeing teenage couples is hands down the worst,nothing like knowing you've got less game than a sixteen year old), even just seeing a picture of a hot woman can make me feel like shit sometimes. I feel like at this point I can't even show an interest in women, any women, like I'm incapable of it, or not allowed to. It's like I've been in this fucked up situation so long that my brain has rationalized it, and I've concluded that I'm supposed to be alone, that I deserve it for whatever fucking reason.Back in college sometimes when I rode the bus and it was crowded, I'd get a girl sitting next to me. Just feeling our thighs touching lightly, or our shoulders, and it would be the highlight of my day often. sometimes I'd even stay on past my stop just to keep that brief, fleeting moment of human touch going, however meaning less and unintentional it all was. The worst part about that was when I'd get a boner, and I'd feel like some kind of horrible, perverted creep, which would play back into that whole "I deserve to be alone like this) kind of mindset.Basically, it seriously fucks with your head, and puts you in a mental state where it's almost impossible to do anything to fix how lonely you are.Checkout what this person wrote this about being Forever-Alone. It hit me pretty hard. This was one of the best things I've read in a long time.
Okay so i love my girlfriend to death but she has BDD and horrible anxiety?
that started after our first 3 months 2gether. she sed it started at work because of the cheerleaders (we work at the florida panthers hockey stadium). and after almost a year now she still doesnt think shes attractive or that im attracted to her... lemme describe her; long blonde hair, cute face, boob job, nice butt, and excercises so all around excellent body. her problem is she cant naturally tan and her mom got melonoma from tanning so shes worried about it now since she has fair skin but shes not pale at all and uses st tropez fake tanner and some other crap... i already told her tan doesnt matter to me and non of the girls i was attracted to before were tan ...but shes f**kin OBSESSed with tan and gay *** tv chicks like kim kardashian and other bimbos. im 21 shes 20 and i hope she grows out of her BDD which is a disorder where your pretty but when u look in the mirror you see a monster and dont see yourself the way others see you....ive told her shes beautiful everyday and do tons of stuff for her and even a crap load of small surprises and cute things but she dont get im into her. like id have no regrets spending my life with her and no other chick even compares to her. just seeing if any dudes have a girl with BDD or anxiety. or ideas or help from other girls with this problem i kno its rare.. maybe she needs a good pimp hand j/k :D she freaks anywhere i go without her and tells me dont forget her and gets uber jelous bout stuff and thats understandable. but im a chill dude and dont give a **** bout other girls at all. i ignore alot of her shennaigans and i used to get like 60 questions a day like im on trial for something. i know shes trying so i ignore it and i shut her up by smothering her with a kiss purposely so she cant talk as a joke. but i get angry sometimes cuz she makes it hard to be a good bf when she drives me crazy. ok my novels finished i guess :p