What should I do if I have a major crush on a close friend and I don't want to ruin our friendship?
I know it will be hard for you to believe but I've been through the exact same thing. First thing first, tell him how you feel for him. Now don't mistake this opinion as some love guru funda. It's not. The only thing I want to tell you is that you DON'T WANT TO REGRET YOUR SILENCE few years from now. I liked this girl who also happened to be a very good friend. At first, I kept dodging the feelings, however I soon realized that it was getting tough for me. She was nice to me and I did not want to mistake those gestures with something else. The only thing that kept me from telling her was that we used to hang out in group and I never wanted to be the one who spoiled the atmosphere and making things awkward. So I never shared my feelings with her until we were posted to different locations. I realized I might never be able to see her again and a few days before we were supposed to leave I told her about my feelings for her (I don't want to take the credit for the entire thing, she was the one who was the acting catalyst during the conversation).Now here's the thing!!! She too had feelings for me all the while and in her words " had been dropping hint bombs" at me. It's is the best feeling, believe me, and you'll get to live it only if you tell him. Even if things don't work out(now don't be pessimistic), he will understand and that way you'll never regret not telling him. All the best !!! PS: I'm glad I told her. She is the best thing that's happened to me.
I don't have guy friends at all (I only have very few girl friends) I'm a girl in my second year of college how can I make friends especially guy friends( I really think that guys only appreciate a girl because of her good appearance)?
I am not going to lie about this.Yes, guys tend to make friendship with girls who look good but their intention most of the times is to flirt and hit on her and not genuine friendship.If you ask the prettiest girl in class, although she might say she has lot of friends, she might have only very few real friends.Look, the average looking people are the most in number. The thing is how you carry yourself. Be friendly with everyone you meet and if possible, little energetic. I personally would be glad to be friends with a good looking girl and to flirt with her but at the end of the day, I would always know it isn’t the true friendship.The true friendship doesn’t see looks, doesn’t see economy.The only thing that is important for a friendship is trust. Purely trust and understanding.The real question you have to ask yourself is :Do you want someone to flirt with?orWant some real friend?Nothing is wrong with both stuffs. Just you have to know what you want initially and don’t ever think of flirting, a wrong thing.Now, once you know what you want let’s skip to how to make guy friendsThere is no such thing as a guy friend. Friend, it is.You need to be more involved and open up. You can’t just inside your home all the time and blame guys.On my personal opinion, most friendships between opposite genders start with little flirting.Flirting is fun. No friendship can exist without fun, at least for some initial stages.This is the crucial step, where you have to decide to go further and be serious or just leave it as is.The possible reason for not having any friends in guys starts with you. Be more dynamic, energetic, love yourself and people will automatically adore you.And to improve your appearance, dress neat.
My guy friend likes me but I don't like him back?
I have this friend (a guy) who likes me, but I don't like him back like that. He hangs out with me all the time at school, even to the point of crowding me, and always asks me if I can hang out, even though I've already told him my mom won't let me. Sometimes I even find myself avoiding him because of it. I'm only 14 and don't think that I'm old enough to be hanging around with guys by myself, I mean what if he wants sex? Is there anything I should say to him or should I just keep on avoiding him? Any advice would be good.
Help I have ZERO friends!!!!?
I'm not even joking I mean literally exactly no friends. None at all. Not even one in my pathetic life. I used to have a close friend but not anymore. My life just is horrible. Going to school is like emotional torture. Every day I don't know where to sit or who to sit with because I have no friends or what to do during recess. I cry over this many times and it's making me very depressed. Everyone is having a great time while I'll always look back on my adolescence as the worst years of my life. People have talked to me before but I've pushed them all away. I'm very quiet, not shy just quiet. I'm not into groups or cliques I just wanted 2 or 3 close friends. That's ALL but nope instead everyone thinks that just because I don't talk means I'm not interested. I just don't feel a need to blab my mouth pointlessly all day long. It's almost like everyone just knows this secret to making friends that I've never learned. I'm so depressed it gets me every day and makes me cry. No one will give me a chance. I'm in middle school btw writing from my moms account. How can I make friends and not be a total loner like I currently am?!?!
Would guys ever want to just cuddle with a female friend they were close to?
It depends on the guy and on the situation and your relationship.But as a general rule applying to me, no.I’ve done this a few times. It is uncomfortable to me on a deep level. I want sex, I enjoy sex, I have a difficult time understanding why someone who I find attractive, and who likes me, would not want to have sex with me.I like to cuddle, I spend a lot of time doing it… with my sex partners. Even if we aren’t having sex today, for whatever reason, that’s fine, we’ve done it before, we’ll do it again, and I’m comfortable with that, and I generally know why we’re not doing that just now.None of those things apply to a “just friends” partner, and I am acutely aware of that the entire time. I’m not going to be relaxed, or comfortable, or happy, although I can of course fake all of the above.I have many female friends, I always have. We do not flirt or touch or cuddle, and we hug only if they are the sort who hug everyone and I simply put up with it.I also have some male friends. Similarly, we do not flirt, touch, cuddle, and any hugging is again kept to a minimum and is uncomfortable for me.Female sex partners on the other hand, get all of the above, any time, I am completely relaxed about that and fully enjoy it.That is, I repeat, just about me. Humans all differ from each other, and you cannot really generalize about “guys” any more than you can about “girls” or “blondes” or “eskimoes” etc.If it helps, I’ll add that I’m on the autism spectrum and my reaction here could even be way outside the mainstream. But I think it’s more common than you might imagine… and I think you might be imagining that your friend is like me in this regard.
I think I need a close friend to share my feelings. What should I do?
I have recently felt the same way and it kept getting worse, but it was because I kept repressing all that negative energy and not sharing it with anyone.You definitely need someone to talk to, what I did was, I started an online blog and shares all my deepest secrets. People were very supportive and that felt good. But it wasn't enough, I felt empty on the inside still.So I decided to do something crazy. I sent daily journals to an acquaintance of mine. It was really awkward to do so but it was relieving to know that it's not just a notebook on the other end, but rather a person who may be relating to you. He started emailing me back, and although I can't lie and say it wasn't weird at first, but we got closer and closer with every email.Now I know that I have him to talk to anytime I need someone or simply want to release any negative energy building up inside, he's the shoulder I can hypothetically rest on.That worked for me, but again everyone is different, and I'm a bit crazy with my ideas, but I recommend you do what your heart tells you to do, because in a way it knows exactly what is right. This is how I came to a decision, and it's working.Because slowly, but surely you will start wanting to get out there and get involved in things wouldn't have ever imagined you'd do.I started boxing..Good luck!
Is this ok to sleep over a guy friends house?
ya its fine. just make sure he doesn't try 2 pull anything... u guys are kinda at that age where guys get really really perverted and he might try 2 sneak a look at ur chest or somethin, so wear a bra in ur sleep. idk if the same bed is a good idea, i think u should sleep in a sleeping bag on the floor. sorry, it just seems like it is a disaster waiting 2 happen
Do guys ever have female friends just as friends only?
My friend told me that guys never have women just as friends. She said it usually means they have a crush on her and want to date her or at least hook up with her. Then someone told me that only gay men have female friends. Is this true? I usually get along better with guys for friends but then it always seems like they wanna date me but I don't wanna date them cuz they're not my type.