I'm 18 and I don't have any friends?
Hi. I just graduated from high school. And from the past two years I think I'm suffering from depression. I've changed so drastically and so has my life. I used to be so I involved in school and was very social. I had tons of friends. But all of that started changing. I was always sad and I would go home everyday and sit in my shower to cry. Life kind of just made a turn on me and everything started going bad. After that year came my senior year. That's when I lost all motivation to do anything. I cut a lot of people from my life. And ended up with only 1 friend my best friend. After graduation she stopped talking to me without an explanation and I just feel so alone. My life and my past haven't been the greatest. And I don't know why but I feel so empty inside. I just want to lay in bed all day. And when I go out with my family or go to work I zone out and pretend to smile when inside its killing me to keep on breathing. I know I need help but idk where to start. I've tried talking to my a lot of people about it. I'm just so lonely and I don't want to be here anymore. I can't feel anything and I want to. I want to be happy.
I don't have any friends and I'm 16...?
I don't seem to have any friends. Every friend I'v had has stabbed me in the back and when I hangout with people I only hangout with them once or twice and then they don't want to hangout anymore. I'm not ugly or mean... I'm only nice and everybody says I'm one of the prettiest people they've met. I'm just so lonely and my only friend whom I have been close to since I was 7 isn't really my bff anymore. All this year she has been hanging out with these other two girls. I just don't know what to do. I'm miserable at school and haven't been going for a while I was supposed to transfer into a private school but they're credits won't work with the ones I've already gotten this year and I've tried making friends with others in my school even freshmen and people still love to talk **** about me still.... even though I don't do anything... I just don't know what to do.... If anybody has advice it'd be great. Any advice??
Is it wrong if I don't have friends?
No, obviously not.It's better to not have a friend rather than having a fake one. I'm sure you would have heard it many times but its the ultimate truth. See, I have school mates, tuition mates but I don't have a true real friend but I'm still happy. It's not necessary to have a friend or best friend. I never had a best friend and I'm okay with it but I get irritated when I read memes and quotes about best friend: p.See, I don't have a good or best friend because I can't find a compatible or correct person for that, a person who can understand me, listen to me, who is loyal and trust worthy, who is as mad and crazy as I'm, so it's difficult for me to find that kinda person.You don't have to worry about friends if you enjoy your own company. I know it's difficult sometimes to live without friend as sometimes you need someone beside you, someone who can listen to you and with whom you can share you mood, experience etc, but still you can't force someone to be your friend.Some people pretend to be your friend and that's really a dangerous thing as you think they are your friend but in real they aren't. You need to be very careful while considering someone your friend or best friend.Some are selfish in nature who will first think about themselves.Some are might be with you because of your money or power.Maybe some are with you because they can't find any company. They can leave you later for someone else.Some are with you because you are intelligent or good in studies. Yes, these kind of people also exists!!And there are many more these kind of people who are not meant for your friendship.So you need to happy that you are away from these kinda people, stay happy till you get a true friend and if you don't get then also stay happy with your own company but don't make fake friends in rush.Thank you for passing by:)
I am in my 40's and do not have any friends. I would like to have at least one friend that I can hang out with
In church one week I had an epiphany- something very simple, but yet so true and something I would tell my middle school students- To have a friend, you first have to be a friend. I never really thought of it like that. I'm kind of an introvert myself, so I can understand how difficult it is to make friends after marriage. Sometimes just this can come across to others as being standoffish or snobby. I'm not sure where you live, but that can make a difference too. If you moved to somewhere different from where you grew up, (ex: from Georgia to New Jersey) it can be a culture shock of itself. Perhaps you could reach out to someone in one of your classes or activities. Take a risk. I know how you feel. I'm often wondering how to make friends since most of the people who live around me are older and people seem to be busy all the time. You could join a group- that's the best way to meet people and build your self up as well- like a community life group at church, a class at the YMCA, a volunteer organization, even a chat group of some kind- etc. . . Then you have a common bond with the other women there anyway. You could just make casual talk the first few classes and then maybe ask them about themselves. Then, maybe you could just ask some over for coffee, out to a girls lunch, or something else casual and comfortable where 2-3 other women can get together and chat. Once you've done that, you've opened the communication for futher meetings. I also find tuberware type parties are nice to get to know new people. They have a purpose, and you can get to know different women.. . In your case, it doesn't matter what group you join, just anywhere where the people aren't cliquish and they are there just to have fun and meet others. Women need friends- sometimes I think men are happy without many, but we need to talk and relate to others. Good luck. You've already taken the first step by writing this letter and reaching out to others. Keep it up!
My mom thinks I don't have any friends?
My mom just recently said she was "worrying about me" and that I don't get out enough. She said I never talk to anybody, and I really do. To prove it to her, I started to list off my friends, and she thought that I made their names up. It's not that I don't talk to people, but I am clearly an introvert. How do I prove to my mom that I actually have friends?
I don't have any friends in my classes...?
Oh believe me I felt that way when I started high school too. The popular kids... well...let's face it, no one really likes them except themselves. You can't be so close minded though. There's gotta be one person in that class that you have something in common with. Now for me senior year is fine, I have friends in almost every class because we've all HAD to mesh together since freshman year but in my sociology class I got stuck with all Juniors and a few Seniors who I can't stand. You know, those annoying girls who talk endlessly about things no one cares about? Yeah I know you know. Well here was when I first dreaded the class, the teacher announced a group project? Who was I going to work with? I felt like just sinking into a hole... but, instead... I just asked a random girl to work with me. We didn't know each other, she was a junior, but I didn't care I had a partner xD Now in that class I'm friends with a group of kids, we all came together in that class because they didn't really know anyone else in the class either. For the most part, people don't want to bite your head off, and I bet there are other kids in the class who feel the same way you do. Be the brave person and be friendly. You'll make it through the year, believe me. :) Next year it won't be so bad and it'll get even easier as the years go by. In fact, it will become easier as this year goes by. You'll make friends, just make sure you pick the right people who won't bring you down. I made that mistake freshman year. The friends I have now are friends that I'm happy to have and happy to have found. You'll make new friends, it's part of growing up.
I don't have any friends at my new school?
Hi. I'm a 16 year old girl, I'm average-looking and awfully shy. I recently started a completely new school. It's been a few months now but I feel like things are awful. I literally have zero friends. There are a few girls I kind of hang out with. They let me sit with them and eat lunch with them, but they don't say a word to me. They never ask for my opinion or ask if I wanna hang out with them after school. They only talk to me if they want something from me. And they ALWAYS leave me behind. If I try to talk they often talk over me, interrupt me, or simply act as if they don't care about what I have to say. I try really hard to be nice to them but obviously they don't appreciate my company and it makes me feel sooo bad because I have no one else to hang out with. I feel nervous about school all the time, especially in the morning, because I know I'm about to spend like 6-8 hours around people who treat me like air. I feel so ******* lonely. I can't talk to my parents about it because I'm not close to them in that kind of way. I miss my friends in my previous school so much. And my grades are dropping too. It's so hard to study when you're feeling nervous all the time. I have 2,5 years left until I graduate but I don't wanna feel like this about school any longer. What do I do?
Is It Pathetic That I Don't Have Any Friends?
Don't cut yourself, that won't solve the problem, it'll only make things worse. You need to realize there will be bad moments in life that will scar you, maybe forever? But sometimes you have to try to let go from the past and live in the present. Everything that happened in High School is done and has affected you in many ways, and some undoing. But it's most deffinetly not pathetic, many people are going through what you go through. Your family knows the circumstance you're in and would be wrong to judge you for that. Everyone is different and people need to learn to accept that and embrace it. Just live your life because you'll regret ever hurting yourself more than you were before. Don't take it for granted your lucky to be alive just like everyone else on this planet. You will make friends when you meet someone who accepts you for who you are, and understands that it's not your fault you aren't very social. Yes, you will meet people who aren't very nice, but kill them with kindness and be the better person. Because at the end of the day it doesn't matter what they think, it's what you think. Only take people's opinions if they're positive. So from my persepective, if I was in your shoes, I would live my life day by day, meet people see if they have no problem understanding your situation and find that special someone even if they might seem far. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck and so sorry. :)