I have this guilty conscious but I haven't done anything wrong.?
I've always believed that "guilt" is the reasoning that is built within us to identify what wrong we have done to others or ourselves. However, as I've gotten older, I've realized that we sometimes bring on a hyper critical view of our actions and cause our own fears, rejection and of course guilt. It sounds like you might be doing that as well. It's a huge step to identify when we feel the "need to beat ourselves up" however we choose to do it. We need to let it go and forgive ourselves for whatever it is we feel we fall short on. Even if it is something so small it shouldn't have been even on the radar. In cases like yours where you're just beating yourself up with no rhyme or reason (been there too) you're going to have to go through a process of forgiving yourself to get over it despite you have no clue what that is. I know it's hard to believe but people with a greater conscious find this is the most difficult thing they must live with. Good luck to you.
Talking nonsense while half-conscious?
I have had the exact same thing happen to me many times. Like you I begged my husband to tell me what I was saying. I could remember who I was talking to but to my husband it was just gibberish and I finally believed it. I have also woken up in the middle of the night convinced I could see scary people or not know exactly where I was. My husband would have to wave his hand where I thought I saw something and it would disappear, other times it was like he was waving his hand through them. Whey those type things happened he will gently wake me up and the scary faces are gone and I know where I am.
How do I overcome the complexity of having a weird name which has no meaning? I feel shy in introducing myself to someone. What should I do?
I have the same issue. I used to be very self conscious of my name but I am not any longer. You are making an issue out of this when there isn’t one, no one cares. Tell them what your name is and they will call you it. If they insist on making fun of your name as people did to me when I was younger, tell them ‘whatever’ and ignore them, they are not worth your time.Because my name is so hard, in school I could always tell when the teacher got to my name because they would be reading the names and then get to mine and there would be silence for a few minutes as they tried to pronounce my name, lol.. Sometimes I would let them struggle at pronouncing it, other times I would blurt it out saving them the trouble.Your name doesn’t have to mean anything. The way my name is spelled, it doesn’t mean anything. If you change my name slightly it means prince but no one has ever asked me about that nor have I ever asked anyone what their name means.Even though my name is very rare here in the US, people rarely ask me about it. Occasionally they ask me where I am from but that is about it. Because people mispronounce my name so often if I go to a restaurant and they ask for my name I will tell them the name of the person I am with instead.On the other hand if it is really bothering you, you can fill out lots of paperwork and change your name legally. I know people who did that to ‘Americanize’ their names. My boss’s brother did an experiment — he sent out 100 resumes with his real, Ethiopian name and 100 ones that were identical except with an American sounding name. The ones with the American name got lots more responses.
I'm self conscious because I'm a virgin and a lot of people around me aren't?
Wow, reading your question makes me feel sick about society. Im older than you, Im a 23 year old guy but I cant believe you are insecure about this. Girls at your age dont seem to know that guys might act like they like them short term just to have sex but have no respect for them long term because they do not want to be with a slu*t. Myself(and yes Im told Im very good looking) and other good looking guy friends of mine have dumped girls for sleeping around too much. It is absolutely a great thing if a girl has not slept around much, and doing it at a young age like 16 doesn't help. DO NOT feel self conscious about this it is a good thing. Sometimes just because you dont go with the crowd doesn't mean your weird. Sometimes not going with the crowd makes your special in a good way. Its like picking up oasters and finally finding one with a pear inside, its a good thing. This is one of those cases where its a good thing. Dont let any guy or girl tell you otherwise.
Where do I look when making Eye Contact?
It is absolutely impossible to look into both a person's eyes when making eye contact. When making eye contact, so as not to appear as staring, start with one eye and move slowly to the other. If this is uncomfortable for you, look at the bridge of the nose about eye level, as the nose is in the center of the face it makes your eyes look like they are looking directly into the other person's eyes. Looking at the eyebrow area will make it look like you are looking over the other person's head (thereby defeating the point of direct eye contact). If you don't shift your eyes at least a little bit, it looks like you are staring or that you are a dolt. Look from one eye to the other, moving the shift in gaze slowly, making a minute stop at the bridge of the nose before moving to the next eye. Moving your gaze too quickly makes you look, well, shifty. Making eye contact does not mean you can't shift your gaze or blink. Here's lookin' atcha, kid!
Do you have a "bitch" face and people just hate you for nothing?
Yes. Apparently, I am one of those people.I have this natural “bitch face” that makes sure people stay away from me. Or rather be very careful in what they tell me as they seem very wary.I have a few male friends that think I came across as very intimidating and ‘no-nonsense’ attitude when they first meet me . They also tell me that they think ‘I am scary’.It’s weird. I am not any of these. But, yes I don’t tolerate nonsense and pigg-ish answers from people…but I don’t really object. I am more of that ‘live and let live’ kinda person. I am also the sort of person who really does not snoop into other people’s business. I just tend to ignore.I am guessing it is this “bitch face” that has come as a both blessing and a hinderance in disguise in so many ways.1. Flirty cheesy men stay clear of you.Personally cheesy and ‘cutsey’ lines don’t impress me. Also, I am bad at flirting. I have been at the receiving end of flirty innuendos by many men. I have no freaking idea on what to reply. I just purse my lips and roll my eyes.2. You don’t get approached by women and men alike.Women are harsh in pre-judging. Women tend not to like me initially. Unless I do open up and talk…they personally feel “I don’t like her much”. How I know this? Well a few of my female friends told me. This is one of the main reasons why half my friends are men.Men are simple. They judge lesser and are open to changing their perspective about someone.3. You will never attract the male chauvanists.Well, true story. Intimidation to a certain extent has made sure macho hum-dingo men don’t talk to me. I have never ever met any indecent men all my life. Also, I am too smart for my own good. I know a snag when I see one. Be it a female or a male. I know when they are lyng their way out. I get surprised when my existing female friends talk about their dating life or social life and tell me horror stories of the kind of men they have met. I have always been around nice, polite and well bred men who are chivalrous. Don’t know when this bubble will burst.4. Assumption of being unapproachable.I have had many people say “I have this huge wall around me”. Something like a moat around me. One of my very goood female friend once told me…”you are extremely hard to read. You have this invisible wall around you. You will never let anyone in unless you want them in. You will humour people but keep them in the moat but, never let them in.”Weird.
Why do my boobs grow weird?
ok im gonna turn 16 in december but like my boobs grown funny the left is a little bigger than the right but that's not what is bothering me. they grown outward and then come down [if that makes any sence] kinda like they hang like i left them up with my hands then when i let go they fall and they only sit up when i have a bra on. i try a size a to small i try a b34 fits the right one fine but not the left one and they've been itching does that mean their growing? my mom said her's grew like that but she doesn't remember when they formed like real boobs is some thing wrong with me? it really bothers me help???? and when do you think they will form normal? && my boobs dont look like the link not to be a perve or anything. http://www.flowersclinic.com/gallery/Breast-1aa.jpg
Why is it that some people just don't say hi unless you say hi first?
I’m a person like this. Depending on who it is, I don’t say hi to people unless they say it to me. Short answer, because I just don’t want to. Let me explain.I considered myself an extrovert, but I also don’t like people in general. I have my group of friends and I’ll be friendly if the situation requires, but I don’t like being super friendly with just anybody. Not to say I’ll be rude, I just don’t like treating everybody like my best friend. Here’s my best example. I work at a supermarket and I won’t say hi to every employee as I walk through the store. I don’t know everybodies name. If I accidentally catch someone’s eye, I’ll give a smile and nod. I only know the names of the managers and people I interact with and I try to keep it that way. But I’m not rude. If somebody asks me a question I’ll answer with a smile. I’m polite to customers and help them to find things or answer questions. In general, I’m of the mindset that I’m there to work and not make friends. When I worked as a waitress at a restaurant of course I tried to appear happier and smile more as the job demanded me to appear smiley and happy.Now if we’re talking about perfect strangers out on the street, I definitely avoid making eye contact. I don’t owe strangers anything, especially if I’m busy or in a rush. Smiling and saying hi to everybody is exhausting.If we’re at a party and I don’t know somebody, I might avoid saying hi first because I’m shy and I don’t really know how to make new friends. Or maybe I’m in a bad mood, or just tired.To sum all that up, people seem to get insulted when somebody won’t say hi to them first. It really isn’t about you though, and I mean that in the nicest way possible. People who don’t say hi unless approached have their own reasons for it and usually have nothing to do with anybody else specifically.
I have difficulty feeling natural making facial expressions?
I'm talking like, every day. I don't know, I just don't feel natural when I make a facial expression - not even when it's forced. I don't get it, is there anything wrong with me? No one else seems to have a problem with it. I don't really know if it's just me being self conscious or something, but it's really, really bothering me and I feel like a total moron since I can't even do something as simple as that without messing up or looking weird. Also, I don't think I talk clearly half of the time |: I feel like anything to do with my face or head or anything is just kind of slowed down or disfigured - like there's something wrong with a certain part of my brain that deals with that. Can anyone help? It's really annoying and I'm already self conscious enough as it is without this stuff!