I don't want to be friends with my ex anymore?
i want to be with her and she knows it but she just keeps me as a friend. i don't want this anymore it hurts too much i want her but she just doesn't want that so how do i tell her im done i don't want this? should i just say goodbye for sure and maybe things will change later? this just hurts too much..
I don't want/need friends anymore?
so I'll try to make this short. I've never really had a lot of friends, just a few close ones. as I got older and into HS I started losing them, then it was down to 1. we were friends for a couple years, we recently started slipping. nothing major happened, no argument or anything. we just sort of stopped talking. I started to realize stuff after we stopped talking. she wasn't the greatest friend to have. I'm not gonna get into that. but yeah. anyways, while we were friends there were times that I just wanted to be alone. for some reason this always happens, I just want to be alone. I'm not sad, mad, etc.. I'd just rather be alone. Recently, I started feeling like I just don't need any friends. I think it started after I left public school to go to independent studies. I just don't want any friends. well, friends would be nice I guess but I just feel like I don't NEED them. especially not the ones I had before. if anything I want to meet new people that are actually into what I like(acting, modeling, making youtube videos, not partying every weekend, etc.) is there a reason I'm like this? Does anyone else feel like this? No rude answers please ...
I don't like my friends anymore...?
So yeah, I've been friends with the exact same people for ten years, probably more, and now I'm beginning to resent them. One, who I would say was one of my first friends, has totally changed. She used to kinda be the leader of our group, but now that everyone's independant, no one looks up to her, and she's sooooo clingy to me. Like, if I'm walking with another one of my 'friends', she'll literally squeeze inbetween us, and that pi$$es me off. Another of my friends thinks she's better than the rest of us, she recently got rid of her braces and started wearing eye contacts, and wearing makeup. Now she comments that some people 'need' to wear makeup. Oddly enough, I think I'm the only girl in my year who doesn't wear makeup, it's not her bloody choice whether someone wears makeup or not, she's only been wearing it for a few months anyway. And she always has to be the best at every subject, and she's a secret teachers pet. Ugh. Another of my friends, I don't really talk to... She's okay, but we've never really been friends. Then there's this nice girl, who is okay, but I never enjoy myself around any of them. I've given up on friends, I've never had someone who I genuinely enjoyed the company of, and I just get a headache from being someone other than who I am around them. What should I do? I've left them before, but I couldn't find anyone better, so I had to come back... I'm stuck with them for another three years :( Help?
Is it normal that I don't want to have friends anymore?
Life is about balance. Sometimes we have friends and then sometimes it is best to be on our own, for meditation, hobbies, or just to relax. We share energy with others, like hugs and help each other like be a good companion. Any time it is in extreme all friends or no friends is out of balance. Some of both works the best. Why do you not want to have friends is the real issue. What is your reason? Are they unkind or hurt you. Do they call, do nice things for you, or help out. Just being with a pleasant person and being yourself is a healthy way to have a friend. Expectations get in the way. Just enjoy being with them because you like them is good sometimes. Find a balance and remove your fear or anxiety about friendships, by being a friend to someone.
How do you know if you don't want to be friends with someone anymore?
Deciding that you don’t want to be friends with someone anymore can be surprisingly hard. Issues like loyalty and history (she knew your mother, who is no longer alive, and remembers things that no one else in your life remembers) can make it difficult to end a friendship with someone who has been in your life for a long time, but who has gone in a very different direction than you have (like, for instance, you have really different political beliefs!). Also, sometimes your wish to end a friendship has something to do with a thorny difficulty that has arisen between the two of you, something you really don’t want to deal with, so it’s just easier to let the friendship die.In general, I think that talking about things, even hard things, is really useful, so you might try to see if you can talk out what’s bothering you with your friend. Even if it’s a political disagreement, it can be useful to try to sort out with her or him how you might handle your differences. something like, “Can we be friends and just agree that this is an area where we’re really different?” can sometimes be enough to moving forward. And sometimes, it can be the path to ending the friendship — as when one of you decides you really can’t tolerate the fact that the other believes something that seems wrong to you.But sometimes talking doesn’t work, or it’s not the right moment for it. In that case, it’s often helpful just to slow down a little and let time take a hand in the decision-making. Maybe you don’t see one another so often, or talk so often. Maybe that’s okay for right now. You can explain it that you’re busy with other things, but ultimately, if the friend asks why you’re so distant, you might have to explain. Try to think about what you would say. I have a whole chapter on this subject in my book on women’s friendships, but here are a couple of examples: “I’m just feeling like we’re going in different directions” or “I feel like you’re not interested in what I have to say anymore.” The goal, whether you talk or not, is not to hurt the other person, but to find a way to talk enough to figure out whether or not you want to stay in the relationship. But sometimes you can figure it out without talking. And that’s okay too.
What do you do if your best friend doesn't want to be with you anymore?
I have been in your situation.Not once, but twice.When the same person who you trusted a lot, the one who used to share everything with you, the one who literally has other friends because of you, for the one you did all that you could ever do turns out to be the one who stops talking to you, not just this, the person refuses to give you a reason and ignores you constantly. It sucks, it really does.But that's how most of the people are.In my case I tried everything, called them pinged them, confronted them, only to face ignorance.Not every one is as sensitive as you. I felt so bad initially, I didn't give up. I wanted my friend back at any cost. No matter what. But there is a slight boundary between ego and dignity called self respect and you must respect your self respect.Sometimes you just have to accept the fact that people don't need you anymore in their life.Their work is done, maybe they are just bored of you. Accept their decision and move on.Also remember one thing, too much of attachment can be really really harmful.Sometimes, it's better to embrace solitude rather than cribbing over the fact that people don't need you. You need yourself. It hurts but You are stronger than that.