I feel ashamed of my past Help!?
When I was nine I did something bad I licked my sisters who at the time was 1 or 2 stomach and nipples I don't know why I did this i didn't really know about sex till I was 14 I feel like I saw someone do this and probably copied them but im worried for my sister will she be all messed up because of me?:/
A bit ashamed of my past?
I didn't ever encroach into anything beyond the law I don't think, but I just thought then I was about 15 my life was getting a bit out of control. I was playing a bit fast and wide, I suppose. Since then I've tidied it up and I go to University and I hope I'll do ok for myself. But I'm worried about my past, like things I said to people, I chased after lots of girls and sent them pictures and I just feel like I wasn't a good person. I'm worried it will come back to haunt me now in the future (I'm 20) and I'm scared it will ruin things with my girlfriend of two years, who I credit in a large part to straightening me out and realising I have some responsibilities! (Even if she doesn't know it, what a great girl =) lol). Besides that, what about any future career? How do I deal with this, i mean i can't hardly just hope for the best and let this play on my mind! Surely I can't be alone? All help is really appreciated.
I'm feeling ashamed of my past?
I often think of certain dumb things I did/said in the past and feel so ashamed that I just want to disappear. I can't forgive myself for doing those things. I could be totally fine one moment, then I think of something from the past, and I get into a self-hating and ashamed state of mind. I really don't know how to stop this and it's so frustrating that at any moment a memory could pop up and make me feel terrible and ruin my day. How can I stop this?? I know people say you should ignore the past, because you can't control it. But at the same time, your past is apart of who you are and how can you have a healthy self esteem when you've made so many horrible mistakes?
Should I be ashamed of my wife's past?
I'm a 30 year old man who's been married for about 3 years. Recently, I found out that my wife had several sexual relationships with about 6 men when she was a young woman (she was about 19-20 at the time) This was long before I ever met her. Some of these men I knew, and I have to admit they were lowlifes and sleazeballs. I'm extremely disappointed in her. I found this info out through a friend and my wife even admitted to these sexual relationships. When I married her, she promised to me that she was a virgin and that I was her first. I have no sexual history at all Now that I know she lied, I don't know what I should do with my marriage. She really really regrets what she did and she told me she was afraid to tell me about her past to avoid hurting me. She told me that she loves me and that she wants me to forget about her past. She seems really upset lately and she worries that I'm gonna divorce her. We have no children yet. I feel like I've been betrayed. Should I forgive her and just move on? thank you
I'm ashamed of my past sex life?
Although no healthy relationship is built on a foundation of lies, I think this is an instance where you could lie. I think some people could not really give a damn how many sexual partners you had, but it is your past, your business, and honestly, I don't think anyone even has the right to ask someone that question. If she brings it up, and you tell the truth, she will have serious doubts to whether or not you can be committed in a relationship. You could try to not lie, but not tell the truth either. You don't want to keep her guessing but just something along the lines of, "I had a couple flings but couldn't find what I was looking for. It's the past and I am leaving it there." If she can't leave it at that and wants an exact number than you may just have to straight up lie depending on how interested or comfortable you are with her.
How can I forget the past and stop feeling ashamed of a mistake that I did recently that made my life miserable?
Hi Dear ,Past tells us, how we should be?it never tells how we had to be?, because the moment you were away from your consciousness then you might not be able to understand the facts.But yes today you have activated your consciousness and now you are really understanding the facts , and it is great news of you!!So lets celebrate that you are on right track now.Secondly “GUILT” is also good, means you have repent and felt that you did wrong, but yes this GUILT must be for one time only, now you have to move on in your new spiritual life.and remember one thing, PAST is.. that is PAST , we cant do anything with it but yes we takes learning from them and religion tells us NOT TO REPEAT.So enjoy the life and come out from your guilt.All d best :)
When someone talks to me about my past, I feel ashamed. I know and it's a fact that it's not my fault. Why does this happen?
You feel ashamed because you haven’t taken the time to resolve whatever it is in your past that you’re uncomfortable with. How you feel today about yourself is an accumulation of everything that’s ever happened to you.Everybody has their limits of how much emotional pain they can take. Instead of dealing with pain, you can ignore it. But the pain won’t go away on it’s own. You would need to revisit what is uncomfortable, identify what you believe that feels true, but really isn’t true.With the lie exposed, you can begin healing. Then when someone brings up your past, you won’t feel something negative. You’ll still remember what was unpleasant, but you won’t be in pain.
There are things from my past that I feel totally ashamed of but I feel completely dishonest if I don't share them. Is it wrong to not share all?
No. It is certainly not wrong or dishonest to not share your past life with ‘all’ as you state in your question, neither are you at liberty to do so. Your past is your business and no one else’s in fact.Where you need to be rather circumspect in sharing information however, is in considering when the dynamics of sharing with selected persons may in fact be beneficial to you.Firstly I would strongly urge you to look at the word ‘dishonesty’ and understand the connotations. i.e. You can be dishonest by cheating and stealing. Being deceitful by lying to others. It is not being dishonest by not sharing past experiences.However, it may be good to share things at times, firstly it may help you to get the past in perspective by getting some support from a trusted person, as this may help you move on from your guilty feelings and leave them totally behind.Also if these things are weighing you down, and may affect let us say a present or future relationship with that special someone, then it may well be prudent to discuss it and get it off your chest, but only after you have given this your full consideration, and established the pros and cons of disclosure or keeping ‘shtum’.
Is it bad that i'm ashamed of my boyfriends past ?
ive been through almost the same thing when i first got with my boyfriend i heard rumors of him and his ex's or that he was a gangbanger or that he fought or that this this and this and everyone knew him and knew more about him then i did. at first it bothered me alot but i still wanted to be with him i didnt wanna listen to what they said and me get upset or jealous or anything and break up with him if that was to happen i wanted it to be because something he done to me. you have to remember everyone has a past even you do of course there different some are worse then others but its still their past you have to understand that unless these things are happening as of the first day yall got together ignore it. just keep pretending when your infront of them u already know he already told you or something like its ok and remind them hey hes with me now so all thats gon change. i got threw it you will to ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and we've been threw everything in the world u name it i can paint you a picture of it. dont worry if you really wanna be with him its not gon matter what his past was like cuz remember its his PAST! goodluck
Does being ashamed of your past weaken your memories of the past?
I don't know why should anyone be ashamed when it comes to his past. No, if you feel ashamed, memories are even stronger (in my case). Past is the past but in reality we are capable of remembering so many things that forgetting your past is a hard task. I would say that you have to embrace it, accept it in the way it is (good or bad experiences) and face those things you've gone through and move on with your life like every other person. Remember your past and don't force yourself to forget it, just leave it in that time and think about the present.